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Easter Eve DTEASE Res-Erection on DrSuzy.Tv with Unlicensed Pros Saturday March 26th! Comments Off on Easter Eve DTEASE Res-Erection on DrSuzy.Tv with Unlicensed Pros Saturday March 26th!

This Saturday night, March 26th, The Dr. Susan Block Show will celebrate Easter Eve with a scintillating "SEX ROCK RES-ERECTION." Joining international sexologist and Bonobo Way author Dr. Susan Block live in-studio will be sensational glam/punk/sex-rock band extraordinaire The DTEASE, accompanied by the super sexy, funny and fun DTEASERS (aka the Unlicensed Professionals), that dynamic duo of Punk Rock Renaissance Woman Catherine Imperio and Punk Princess Samantha Fairley.

 

The DTEASE, featuring the dashing, guitar-smashing Wilson Gil (lead vocals), wowed us at the old Downtown Speakeasy in Stagebrother and the DTease, winning the 2012 SUZY Award for "Sexiest Musical Performance," and they are sure to RES-ERECT our excitement this Easter Eve.

Any serious DrSuzy.Tv fan knows the fabulous Unlicensed Professionals, two of Santa Barbara's finest artists, models and comediennes, winners of many Bonoboville awards and accolades over the years, including 2015 SUZYS for “Most Artistic Anus” ( Cate) and “Best Funny Faces” (Sam). We can't wait to see them!

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Click Here to RSVP to attend this show in the “Speakeasy” studio audience or call 626.461.5950. Studio doors open at 9:30 pm. Studio Members FREE. Membership Has Its Pleasures.

"EASTER EVE SEX ROCK RES-ERECTION with The DTEASE on DrSuzy.Tv" will broadcast LIVE from Bonoboville on The Dr. Susan Block Show Saturday night, March 26h, 2016, 10:30pm-Midnight PST. It can be viewed on DrSuzy.Tv or in Bonoboville where you can also chat live in the Bonoboville Studio

Call-In During the Live Broadcast: 1.866.289.7068. Tweet comments and questions @RadioSUZY1 and @DrSuzy. Listen Free or Watch the live show at DrSusanBlock.Tv. This week’s live broadcast sponsored by Sybian, Condomania, Glyde America ALL-VEGAN Condoms, Agwa Cocoa Leaf Liqueur, Ron de Jeremy Rum, JuxLeather and Wein-Erotik-Edition.

The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education, based in LA, founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials. The Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and The Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure. A portion of all proceeds goes to help save the highly endangered “make love not war” bonobos from extinction in the Congo and to promote the Bonobo Way around the world.

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Curriculum Vitae Comments Off on Curriculum Vitae

Susan M. Block, Ph.D. 8306 Wilshire Blvd. suite 1047, Beverly Hills, Ca. 90211
Phone (213) 670-0066 • E-mail [email protected]
Education

1970-1973         Harriton High School, Rosemont, Pennsylvania

  • Editor-in-Chief of Harriton Forum (campus newspaper), President of Philadelphia Model United Nations, Lead in High School Plays (The Fantastiks, Annie Get Your Gun, Fumed Oak), Captain of Debate Team, President of Anthropology and Archeology Club, Member of National Honor Society, Harriton Poetry Award, DAR Citizenship and History Award, Tri-State American History Achievement Award, Voted “Most Artistic” by High School Class of ’73.
  • Internship with WCAU-TV Channel 10, Philadelphia
1973 -1977        Yale University, New Haven, Connecticut Bachelor of Arts with Distinction in Theater Studies, Magna Cum Laude
  • Yale Dramat, WYBC-FM, Yale Daily News, Yale Hillel Sunday School Teacher (undergrad)
  • As Yale alumna: Guest lecturer at Yale sponsored by Rumpus Magazine, the Chai Society and Saybrook Master’s Teas, and consultant to Eric Rubenstein, founder of award-winning, biannual campus-wide event “Sex Week at Yale” in 2002. Speaker at Sex Week at Yale ’04, ’06, ’08 and’10.
  • Produced Yale projects, events and shows at Dr. Suzy’s Speakeasy in LA, including the Yale Annex at the Speakeasy (2004), Whim ‘n’ Rhythm (2006) and Zorthian at Yale (2005)
1984 -1987        Pacific Western University, Los Angeles, California Master of Arts in Philosophy with a Degree in Psychology
  • Master’s thesis on why and how men and women use personal ads to find relationships which became Advertising for Love, published by William Morrow, forecasting the modern explosion of personal advertising and the current pop culture of Internet dating sites and online social networks.
1987 -1991        Pacific Western University, Los Angeles, California Doctorate of Philosophy with a Degree in Psychology
  • Doctoral thesis on Toni Wolfe’s “Four Aspects of Womanhood” published by Random House as Being a Woman with Dr. Toni Grant, and became a New York Times and LA Times Best-Seller
2012                 Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco, California
  • Doctorate of Arts, Honoris Causa
1974-Present   Studies at Other Schools, Programs and Universities
  • 1974 Yale Summer Abroad in Afghanistan, Pakistan, India and Nepal
  • 1975 Summer at Naropa Institute, Boulder, Colorado
  • 1980-81 University of California at Berkeley Masters Program in Journalism
  • 1981-83 San Francisco State University Masters Program in English
  • 1983-84 More University Masters Program in Human Sexuality
  • 1994-Present Block Institute
Professional Experience

Sex Therapy

1991-Present– Founder and Director of the Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences. The foundation of the Institute’s sex therapy system is based on the principles of Dr. Block’s world-renowned philosophy of the Bonobo Way of “peace through pleasure.” The Institute treats most so-called “sexual dysfunctions” i.e.: sexual arousal disorders, low sexual desire, erectile dysfunction, unwanted sexual fetishes, disturbing erotic fantasies, lack of sexual confidence, communication issues, dating anxiety and sexual obsession. The Institute also treats destructive sexual habits (sometimes called “sex addictions”), premature ejaculation, difficulties achieving orgasm and other orgasm disorders, including painful sex and sexual problems caused by stress, fatigue, aging changes and other environmental, family and relationship factors. In addition, the Institute treats adults suffering from the lingering effects of sexual assault, incest, childhood trauma and religious sexual abuse. We also help individuals and couples, claiming no dysfunction, to lead more stimulating, creative and rewarding sexual lives. This system utilizes, in-depth, Kinsey-style client interviews and analysis, erotic theater therapy, fantasy role-play, Masters & Johnson techniques, G-spot, P-spot and PC muscle exercises, fetish exploration systems, sexual confidence building, the “sperm wars” view of monogamy, sensate focus touching, intercourse and outercourse, compassionate S/M and bondage play, bonobo therapy, issue-focused phone sex therapy, transgender facilitation, erotic hypnosis and many other “pleasure sex” techniques that the Institute has successfully used to help thousands of men, women, couples and communities around the world to enhance and enjoy their sexuality in a multitude of traditional and innovative ways. This not only improves their sex lives, but has a positive and rejuvenating effect upon other aspects of everyday life including but not limited to, general health, work, creativity, self-esteem, family and social relationships.

  • 1991-Present– Director of operations in therapeutic services, research, development, education, art, entertainment, and media.
  • 1994-1995 – Developed The Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure as described in The 10 Commandments of Pleasure
  • 1996-Present – Established and maintains the Bonoboville community with co-director Maximillian Lobkowicz (husband since 1992), also called Villa Piacere and Dr. Suzy’s Speakeasy, first in the Hollywood Hills, then in Downtown Los Angeles and now located in an 8000-square-foot renovated 1950s motel in West Los Angeles. “Bonoboville” is a pro-sex, socialist community of ecosexual artists, technologists, and therapists living, working and playing together in a cooperative community, inspired by The Bonobo Way.
  • 1988-Present– Private practice sex therapist with over 6000 international clients, from Los Angeles to Saudi Arabia.
  • 1985-1991 – Developed and operated the world’s first telephone dating services
  • 1985-1991 – Founder and President of Block Party Enterprises

 

Radio/TV/Film/Internet

1991-Present Producer/Host of The Dr. Susan Block Show on TV, radio and internet, broadcasting live every Saturday night 10:30pm-Midnight PST. The show consists of monologues on various subjects connected to human sexuality, calls from people seeking help with various sex and relationship issues, and interviews with such renowned personalities as Bettie Page, Gloria Allred, Xaviera Hollander, Nina Hartley, Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, Betty Dodson, Nancy Friday, Joanna Angel, Timothy Leary, Dita Von Teese, Christopher Ryan, Janet Hardy, Sabine Lichtenfels, Abby Martin, Ron Jeremy, "Fat Mike"of NoFX, Bonnie Rotten, and Axel Braun.

  • 2015-2016 Malcolm Jones & the Women of the Bonobo Way Female Empowerment Outreach Project.
  • The Dr. Susan Block Institute presents “Sex Calls” from the archives of The Dr. Susan Block Show.
  • 2015 Featured guest interviews on Playboy Radio, Tangentally Speaking, Love, Lust & Laughter, LA Talk Radio and others.
  • 2014- Present – Founder of Bonoboville.com: Social Media Grown Up.
  • 2005-2015 Block Films’ Zorthian: Art & Times featured at Zorthian & Yale Tribute and Zorthian Ranch Primavera.
  • 2005-2010 Block Films’ Squirt Salon and Blonde Island: Funk Me featured in Barcelona Erotica Film Festival, Cinekink NYC Film Festival and LA Erotica Film Festival
  • 1998-Present Guest Sexpert on various shows on KGO-810 AM in San Francisco.
  • 1997-1999 Host of The Dr. Susan Block Show on KMAX-840 AM in Los Angeles
  • 1996-Present Star of Radio Sex TV with Dr. Susan Block on HBO and HBO specials, as well as Real Sex segments and upcoming appearances on HBO’s Cathouse series.
  • 1995-1997 Co-host of The Nasty Man Show on KLOS-95.5 FM in Los Angeles
  • 1995-1997 Host of The Dr. Susan Block Show on NPR Satellite Radio
  • 1991-1995 Host of The Dr. Susan Block Show on the Independent Broadcasters Network (IBN), syndicated on over 100 stations nationwide.
  • 1990-1991 Host of The Susan Block Show on KFOX-93.5 FM in Redondo Beach/LA.
  • 1990: Created RADIOPHONE, transmitting radio shows via telephone, thereby making it available to anyone in the world with a phone—very handy in pre-Internet times.
  • 1988-1990 Host of Match Nite on KFOX-93.5 FM in Redondo Beach/LA.
  • 1987-1988 Host of Date Nite on KIEV-870 AM in Glendale/LA.
  • 1984-1986 Host of Radio Match on KIEV-870 AM, sponsored by The LA Weekly.
  • Frequently featured guest on multiple radio and TV shows, on all the major networks, from Oprah to Today, Nightline to Inside Edition; and featured expert on many documentaries from Hollywood Women and Hollywood Sex on the BBC to Bettie Page on E! Entertainment, and Infidelity on the new Oprah Winfrey Network. In addition, the Dr. Susan Block Institute and Dr. Suzy’s Speakeasy have been featured on many documentaries and TV shows around the world, including an upcoming feature film by award-winning filmmaker Canaan Brumley entitled Speakeasy.
  Publications
  • Books
  • Contributor (Foreword) to Ecosexuality: When Nature Inspires the Arts of Love, (CreateSpace, 2015).
  • Contributor to The International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality (Wiley-Blackwell, 2015) Wrote entries on “Sexual Fetish,” “Cuckold,” “Striptease,” “Phone Sex” and “Spanking.”
  • Author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure (Gardner & Daughters Publishers, 2014).
  • Contributor to Female Sexual Function & Dysfunction (Wiley, 2010) edited by Dr. Lauren Rubel
  • Best-selling author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure (St. Martin’s Press, 1996), a Literary Guild Selection, Doubleday Book Club and Doubleday Health Book Club Selection, now in third English edition and in 11 other languages.
  • Co-Author of Being a Woman (Random House, 1988), a Los Angeles Times and New York Times Best-Seller, with Dr. Toni Grant.
  • Author of Advertising for Love (William Morrow, 1984)
  • Selected Articles published in Counterpunch, Bloggamy and other publications
    • Transparent Evening at the Director's Guild of America (May 2016).
    • The Bonobo Way of Female Power, Domination Directory International (TBA)
    • Proud to be Gay, the Bonobo Way (June, 2015)
    • Squirting World: Secrets, Stories & Techniques of G-Spot Female Ejaculation, (May, 2015)
    • Sperm Wars: Threesomes, Cuckolds, Hot Wives & Evolutionary Biology, (March, 2015)
    • The Bonobo Spring Revolution, (March, 2015)
    • 50 Shades of Holy Crap, (February, 2015)
    • Go Bonobos in the New Year: Make 2015 the Year of the Bonobo, (January, 2015)
    • Anal Food Rape in the CIA, (December, 2014)
    • Bill Cosby’s Sleep Fetish, (November, 2014)
    • ‘Dawn of the Planet of the Apes’ Defames Bonobos, (July, 2014)
    • Hunger Games, Killing Fields: The Terrible Truth about Elliot Rodger, (May, 2014)
    • The 6 Most Common Secret Sexual Fantasies—And What They Mean, (October, 2013)
    • Kegel Karate: How One Woman Learned to Destroy Her Molester with the Power of Her Own Pleasure, (August, 2013)
    • Galloping Petraeus, (November, 2012)
    • Capt’n Max’s Big C Battle, (March, 2012)
    • Spankology 101: The Psychology, Physiology, Art, History, Politics & Eroticism of Spanking, (July, 2011)
    • Lupercalia: The Original Valentine’s Day, (February, 2011)
    • My Porn Star Girlfriend, (November, 2010)
    • The Alchemy of Scary Sex, (October, 2010)
    • Secret Sexual Fantasies, (February, 2010)
    • In Defense of the G-Spot: Yes, Virginia, It Does Exist!, (January, 2010)
    • Inside Both Heads of the Crotch Bomber, (January, 2010)
    • Tiger’s Wood: Love Cablinasian Style, (December, 2009)
    • Sex, Death & Michael Jackson, (June, 2009)
    • “Sinful” Sex Addiction: The Newest Way to Demonize Sexuality, (April, 2009)
    • Washington Witch Hanging, (May, 2008)
    • Merry Masturbation Month, (May, 2008)
    • Bonobo Bashing in the New Yorker, (July, 2007)
    • Dr. Laura’s Little Monster, (May, 2007)
    • Hookergate II, (May, 2007)
    • Valentine Chemistry of Love, (February, 2007)
    • The Spent Milk of Human Foley, (September, 2006)
    • Queen Esther & the Art of Seduction, (March, 2006)
    • Hookergate, (June, 2005)
    • America Wants a Divorce (December, 2005)
    • Weimar Love Story (November, 2005)
    • Katrina Speaks (September, 2005)
    • My Adelphia Story (January, 2005)
    • The Counter-Inaugural Ball: Eros Day 2005 (January 2005)
    • Faith-Based Sex (December, 2004)
    • Blue Values (November, 2004)
    • America in tha Hood (May, 2004)
    • Bush’s POW Porn  (May, 2004)
    • Rape of Iraq (April, 2003)
    • Cockfight at the Baghdad Corral (September, 2002)
    • The Great Pretzel Swallower’s Guantanamo S&M PR Disaster (January, 2002)
    • Patriot Act UnPatriotic (November, 2001)
    • We Are All Afghans Now (October, 2001)
    • Sex, Terror, Jerry Bin Foulwell & the Raving Castrati (October, 2001)
    • Beyond Terror (September, 2001)
    • Chemistry of Love and Lust (February, 2001)
  • Freelance journalist for LA Magazine, LA Weekly, SF Bay Guardian, New Haven Advocate, Metro, Boulevards, and other publications.
  Special Positions and Memberships
  • Director of the Block Bonobo Foundation dedicated to educating the public about bonobo sexuality as well as helping to save them from extinction, and Bonoboville, an online community of people inspired by the Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure
  • Professional member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists(AASECT)
  • Professional member of the American Academy of Television Arts & Sciences, Documentary Film Division.
  • Professional member of the Los Angeles Press Club
  • Professional member of the Radio Television News Association of Southern California
  • Expert Witness and Consultant to LA Public Defender’s Office and LA Alternate Public Defender, Sex Crimes Division, working on various criminal cases requiring expertise in transgendered culture, BDSM practices and fetishes.
  • Awarded “America’s Greatest Thinker” by Great American Think-Off
Presentations
  • 48th Annual Conference of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists: “The Bonobo Way: An Alternative Great Ape Paradigm for Human Sexuality” at Condado Plaza in San Juan, Puerto Rico.
  • DomCon Los Angeles: “The Bonobo Way: A New FemDom Paradigm for Humanity” at LAX Airport Hilton, in Los Angeles, California. 2016.
  • 5th International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy: “The Bonobo Way: Consensual Nonmonogamy Among Non-Human Primates” at University of Berkeley in Berkeley California.
  • First Symposium on Ecosexuality in the Caribbean: The “Bonobo Way” Keynote at University Puerto Rico Mayagüez. 2016.
  • Lecturer at Yale University, Cal Tech, USC, UCLA and SFSU on Human Sexuality, Female Sexual Function and Dysfunction, Male Sexual Function and Dysfunction, Sexual Fetish, Sexual Fantasy, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, The Bonobo Way, Sex and God, Sex and Religion, Sex Toys, Masturbation, Sex and University Life, The 10 Commandments of Pleasure, The Chemistry of Love and Lust, Sperm Wars and Monogamy, Exhibitionism and Voyeurism. 2016.
  • 2012 Lecture, The Bonobo Way: An Alternative Great Ape Paradigm for Human Sexual Behavior, Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS), 2012
  • Lecturer for various groups and organizations from The Lifestyles Organization (TLO) to The Young Presidents Organization (YPO), Center for Inquiry, MENSA and Taste of LA. Ongoing.

References (contact info upon request)

Sheila Nevins, HBO, Senior VP Documentary Programming, NY, NY

Mary Miller, PhD, Dean of Yale College, Sterling Professor, Yale University, New Haven, CT.

John Klutke, MD, Professor of Gynecology, Keck School of Medicine, University of Southern California, Los Angeles, CA.

Robert Israel, MD, Director, Women’s Health Clinics, Obstetrics and Gynecology, Keck School of Medicine, University of Southern California, Los Angeles, CA.

Patti Britton, PhD, Sexuality Professor, Trainor & Clinical Sexologist, Los Angeles, CA.

Scott Barry Kaufman, PhD, Psychology Professor, University of Pennsylvania, Phila., PA.

Steven Binman, PhD, Forensic Clinical Psychologist, Los Angeles, CA.

Barry Fisher, JD, Civil Rights Attorney, Century City, CA.

Dorion Sagan, American Science Writer & Essayist, Madison, WI

Christopher Ryan, PhD, Author, Podcast host, Barcelona, Spain

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Terapia Sexual Telefónica (0)

 

¿Necesitas hablar con alguien? Llámenos ahora al 626.461.5950

Estamos aquí para escucharte...

¿Tienes alguna pregunta sobre el sexo? ¿Alguna fantasía que le gustaría explorar? ¿Algun fetiche que no puede entender? ¿Un deseo que desea liberar? ¿Necesitas hablar con alguien acerca de algo que no puedes hablar con nadie mas? Usted puede hablar con nosotros. Cada vez que usted necesite hablar durante las 24 horas del día, nuestros famosos sexólogos telefónicas del Instituto de Dr. Susan Block de las Artes y las Ciencias eróticos, estan a sólo una llamada telefónica de larga distancia, y nos puede llamar al 626.461.5950

Aquí en el Instituto de Dr. Susan Block, ofrecemos diferentes formas de terapia sexual a medida adaptadas, a las necesidades personales de nuestros clientes, incluyendo nuestro mundialmente reconocido servicio de terapia sexual telefónicas las 24 horas del día.

Reconocemos que la mayoría de las personas no desean o no necesitan entrar en nuestras oficinas de Los Angeles para la asesoría individual o para las sesiones de terapia, ni estamos siempre disponibles para propuestas de citas presenciales. Pero usted nos puede llamar en cualquier momento y desde cualquier lugar, solamente cuando llame directamente a: (626) 461-5950.

Desde la discusión de la sexualidad, cuestiones eróticas, los placeres, los problemas, las fantasías y los fetiches, son asuntos muy privados. Nuestros servicios telefonicas son las más populares, y en la mayoría de los casos, la más efectiva de terapia sexual. Por otra parte, mientras que las sesiones en persona están disponibles sólo con cita previa y en nombramientos de persona, deben hacerse por lo menos una semana de adelanto, nuestro servicio de terapia sexual telefónica está de guardia las 24 horas del día, siete días a la semana, incluso festivos. Cada vez que necesite que hablar, nuestros terapeutas sexuales telefónicas estan disponibles. Y no, no existe alguna otra terapia teléfonica o terapia de sexo como el de nosotros.

Totalmente privada, absolutamente confidencial, los escuchamos, y los exploramos con usted; le guíamos, le recomendamos, lo inspiramos, y lo educamos, Juego de roles para usted, fantaseamos con usted (ninguna fantasía es demasiado tabú), y ayudarle con cualquier cosa, desde la impotencia a la exhibicionismo, la adicción al sexo a satisfacción orgásmica, las cuestiones de transgénero a problemas de pareja, la ejaculación masculina o femenina a problemas de intimidad, el intercambio de energía con el travestismo, "fantasías sexuales" a realidades difíciles, chat adulto de profundo amor, monogamia con la pornografía, política sexuales a educaciones religiosas, "hablar sucio" al romance audio, su pasado sexual de su futuro erótico, gay, heterosexual, bisexual, los temores a los deseos, fetiches a los matrimonios. El cielo es sin límite, pero estamos con los pies en la tierra como ustedes.

Si usted necesita hacer una pregunta, tiene alguna fantasía, quiere obtener ayuda con un problema, explorar algun fetiche, o simplemente hablar con alguien acerca de algo que no puede hablar con nadie mas, usted puede hablar con nosotros ahora.

Usted no está solo. Estamos aquí para ayudarle.

Llámenos ahora al 626.461.5950.

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“Drop Bras, Not Bombs!” This Saturday on The Dr. Susan Block Show (0)

"Whether it’s a pressure cooker explosive shattering innocent Boston Marathon fans or an unmanned Predator drone dropping Hellfire missiles on villages , we are becoming a society that communicates through bombs. But there is another way…Let's Come Together in Peace through Pleasure," says Dr. Block.

This Saturday, April 27th 2013, The Dr. Susan Block Show will explore the subject of Sex vs. Violence, Love vs. War and Terror Tactics vs The Bonobo Way in light of recent atrocities in Boston and elsewhere. In keeping with our philosophy of peace through pleasure, we will also have some erotic fun!  Joining international sexologist Dr. Susan Block in her Bonoboville broadcast studios will be adult performers Pretty Lush, Lexy Rose, Moe the Monster and the return of one our favorite DrSuzy.tv guests, Hollywood socialite with a heart of gold, Amor Hilton.

Drop Bras, Not Bombs! will air live April 27th 2013, 10:30pm-Midnight PST on The Dr. Susan Block Show. Listen FREE at http://tinyurl.com/RadioSex.  Call-In Free: 1.866.289.7068  Watch the LIVE BROADCAST & See All the Pix and Past Shows at http://drsusanblock.com/TV.html Listen Free on Your Mobile Phone at http://m.drsuzy.tv To join our exclusive live in-studio audience and the after-party at Dr. Suzy’s Speakeasy in the Soul of Downtown LA, aka BonoboVille, call or go to http://tinyurl.com/DrSuzyRSVP Coming Up Soon on DrSuzy.tv... (To RSVP call us at [callus]) 05/04/13 - "Sex & God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality" Author Dr. Darrel Ray Watch the LIVE BROADCASTS on DrSuzy.TV Call-In Free: 1-866-289-7068 

This show will feature Dr. Suzy’s Bonoboville Jello Shots by Jello Shots LA among the many fine libations and gourmet hors d’oeuvres at the always-popular Speakeasy Open Bar and Aphrodisiac Buffet.  Sex toys provided by Sybian, CalExotics, ScreamingO, Divine Interventions, Stockroom, JuxLeather, Pipedream Products and Condomania condoms. Proceeds from donations go to help save the highly endangered “make love not war” bonobos from extinction in the Congo and to promote the Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure around the world.

 The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education, based in LA.  Founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials, the Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and The Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure.   Read More

Dr. Susan Block to broadcast live from “Deep Throat Sex Scandal” closing night this Saturday 3/23/13! Comments Off on Dr. Susan Block to broadcast live from “Deep Throat Sex Scandal” closing night this Saturday 3/23/13!

This Saturday, March 23rd, 2013 The Dr. Susan Block Show will broadcast live on location from closing night of The Deep Throat Sex Scandal, the delightful, critically acclaimed play by David Bertolino about the making of the notorious, groundbreaking, 1970s porn film “Deep Throat” and the subsequent controversies it ignited.

Joining international sexologist Dr. Susan Block live on the air from the Zephyr Theater in West Hollywood right after the play will be Deep Throat Sex Scandal cast and crew, including Natasha Parker (Linda Lovelace in the play), Marc Ginsburg (Harry Reems), plus veteran adult film stars Nina Hartley, Tom Byron, Hyapatia Lee, Ron Jeremy (recently released from Cedars-Sinai after emergency heart surgery and now doing much better!), Paul Thomas, Rebecca Bardoux, Veronica Hart, Alana Evans, Bill Margold and Herschel Savage, producer/writer Bertolino and director Jerry Douglas.  Also joining the panel will be sexologist Yasi Madanikia, Paulina Li and more TBA.

Perhaps the most exciting, amusing and culturally meaningful offering in the current crop of Deep Throat docudramas and spin-offs is not another film, but a play, The Deep Throat Sex Scandal," says Dr. Block. "Ingeniously, Deep Throat the play has the character of Harry Reems, not the more sensational Linda Lovelace, tell its main story.  Though also telling Lovelace’s disturbing tale, with the ambivalence and complexity it deserves,  its main narrative is that of Reems, this wannabe actor/pornstar/everyman who almost got sent to prison for a very long time for nothing more than receiving a consensual, on-set blowjob. This was the first time that an actor had been prosecuted by the federal government on obscenity charges.   As Harry’s tale, it is a quintessentially American story about the long, hard, ongoing fight for our First Amendment against the nefarious, well-funded forces of Puritanical hypocrisy, and its just as relevant as ever. I highly recommend it to all my readers, viewers, listeners, friends and family…if your family can handle it. "

Tickets to the play are available at http://deepthroattheplay.com or by calling 800-838-3006.  Tickets for "Deep Throat Sex Scandal" have been reduced from 90.00 to 29.00 which includes the open wine bar and Hustler Superstore Goody Bags and show poster!

Dr. Block’s “Deep Throat Sex Scandal Closing Nightwill air live March 23, 2013, 10:30pm-Midnight PST on DrSuzy.tv. Listen FREE at http://drsusanblock.com/TV.html.

To listen to Dr. Block's broadcast from Opening Night of "The Deep Throat Sex Scandal" and read her blog/review, go to http://bloggamy.com/deep-throat

To see the free pix from the "Deep Throat" broadcast, go to http://drsusanblock.com/deepthroat.html

The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education, based in LA. Founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials, the Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and The Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure.

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Erotic Theater Therapy: Fantasy Roleplay Comments Off on Erotic Theater Therapy: Fantasy Roleplay

Call Us Now: [callus]

 “All the world’s a stage.”  ~William Shakespeare

For adults, as well as children, fantasy is often a lot more fun than reality.  Whether it’s erotic, exotic or PG enough for Disney, your fantasy is your own self-contained little universe, in which you make all the rules.  Anything is possible; nothing is forbidden.  Here at the Dr. Susan Block Institute, we call this alternative, highly sexual universe within us all the “Erotic Theater of the Mind.”

Dr. Susan Block, a magna cum laude graduate of Yale University with Distinction in Theater Studies and a doctorate in philosophy with an emphasis in psychology from Miramar University and an honorary doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality), has developed a uniquely effective and exciting technique of “erotic theater therapy” over the past two decades.  She and the other therapists of the Institute practice erotic theater therapy both in the brick and mortar “Womb Room” studio in Los Angeles where she broadcasts her Saturday night shows and via the extremely private medium of the telephone and other communications tools.

 In so doing, she follows in the footsteps of her forebear, Dr. Iwan Bloch, the Father of Sexology.  In 1907, Dr. Bloch boldly proposed the new concept of a science of sexuality: sexualwissenschaft or sexology. Bloch's colleague Dr. Magnus Hirschfeld helped to organize this science, and in the liberal atmosphere of Weimar Berlin, purchased a villa that became his institute which housed his immense library on sex (later burned by Nazis), provided educational services and medical consultations and featured theatrical presentations on various sexual fetishes and orientations.  These theatrical events were attended by therapists, patients of the Institute and dramatic artists of the time, like Christopher Isherwood and W.H. Auden.

Throughout history, many more have utilized the art of theater as a therapeutic and educational tool, including such venerated techniques as “psychodrama” based on Dr. Jacob L. Moreno’s “Theater of Spontaneity,” Dr. Fritz Perls’ Gestalt therapy, Jungian archetypal dramatization, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s system of “Nonviolent Communication,” and Michel Foucault’s concepts of Ars Erotica ("erotic art") and Scientia Sexualis ("science of sexuality"), not to mention the famous Aristotelian view of theater as not just a form of entertainment, but as a means to understand the problems of life.  Ancient Greek tragedies and comedies—not to mention their theatrical athletic contests—were filled with sex, love, romance, fantasy and desire, as is classical mythology.

There are essentially two types of erotic theater therapy practiced at the Institute: the real-life Womb Room theater at the Institute on terra firma, where we conduct a variety of therapeutic erotic theater experiences, and the Erotic Theater of the Mind which we explore with individuals and couples via the phone, webcam and other media.  For more about Erotic Theater Therapy in the Womb Room, visit DrSuzy.tv.  For more about erotic theater therapy over the phone and webcam, read on.

Dr. Block’s phone sex therapy system takes a four-point approach to sex therapy, involving 1) confession, 2) analysis, 3) technique and 4) adventureThe theater actually *happens* at the fourth point, but is a part of process of all four.  Dr. Block and her other therapists, surrogates and fantasy roleplayers combine the theatrical elements of improvisation, storytelling, spectacle, the hero’s journey, archetype, hypnosis, exaggeration, confession, guided masturbation, “dirty talk,” erotic sound play and role-play, with more traditional forms of therapy and counseling.

Erotic theater therapy via phone sex fantasy roleplay can awaken, enlighten, stimulate, educate, liberate, challenge and comfort, as well as arouse you.  Here at the Institute, we believe in the healing power of pleasure, and we want to help you to experience it.  It’s the Bonobo Way.

Here are some other benefits of Dr. Block’s erotic theater therapy techniques applied through phone sex fantasy roleplay:

  • Gain insight into sexual dilemmas
  • Investigate unknown sexual situations
  • Revisit and reenact profound sexual memories—good and bad
  • Act out dreams with the therapist as aural collaborator
  • Try out new private activities
  • Explore taboo actions, objects and partners
  • Evaluate sexual behaviors:  fantasy vs. real life
  • Relax your defenses
  • Wake up your senses
  • Free your mind
  • Enhance your orgasm and your partner’s orgasm
  • Express your “wild side” without fear of judgment
  • Learn about your body
  • Improve sexual self-control
  • Allow yourself to experience total sexual surrender (lack of control)
  • Enhance your self-esteem
  • Improve your body image
  • Confront your greatest difficulties in and outside of the bedroom
  • Learn the art of seduction
  • Reveal long bottled up secrets in a safe, private, confidential supportive environment
  • Release sexual frustration
  • Get ideas for real life through playing out “what-if” scenarios
  • Develop confidence
  • Learn the truth about yourself
  • Rehearse new modes of behavior: learn how to “act” on the stage of your sex life
  • Learn how to cope with your more difficult sexual fantasies and fetishes
  • Strategize and plan for your erotic future

Interested in exploring erotic theater therapy through phone sex fantasy roleplay, but not sure what fantasy to explore?  Here are some common examples:

Romantic Lovers Husband and Wife Doctor and Patient Teacher and Student Boss and Secretary Goddess and Worshiper Mistress and Slave MILF and Neighbor Priest and Nun Incest Fantasy Rape Fantasy Ageplay Fantasy Animal Fantasy More Topics Here No Topic is Too Taboo!

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by Dr. Susan Block

What's your favorite secret sexual fantasy, the one you never talk about that always turns you on?  Your fantasies are always with you, playing hide-and-seek with your perceived realities, whispering wild ideas into your inner ear, showing movies in your mind, stirring your passions mysteriously, yet so powerfully. If you are imprisoned in any way--by your work, your family, your education, your religion, your government--your fantasies become your freedom. Sometimes your ability to fantasize is the only freedom you have.

Erotic Fantasy is the G-Spot of Your Mind

Where does fantasy end and reality begin? The English philosopher John Richter said, "Fantasy rules over two-thirds of the universe, the past and the future, while reality is confined to the present."

Fantasy--the original “theater of the mind”--makes up a huge portion of human consciousness. Memory, as it filters through the mind's eye, is a kind of fantasy that gazes backward, into the past. Hope, anticipation, fear and ambition are fantasies that look toward the future. Our sexuality is fueled by fantasies of the past and the future, as well as “pure” fantasies--wild dreams that never happened and that you never really want to have happen--that haunt and stimulate you like a kinky parallel universe.

A sexual fantasy can be a long, complicated story, a quick mental flash of erotic imagery or something in between. Whatever form it takes, it arouses your sexual feelings. As such, your favorite fantasy is the G-spot of your mind.

Experts agree that sexual fantasies are important, powerful and pervasive. But they can’t agree on much more about them. For every study that concludes that women or men fantasize one way, there’s another that concludes the opposite. If you look hard enough, you can find a study to prove any theory about sexual fantasies and another one to disprove it. Maybe this is because it is very difficult to measure fantasies except through questionnaires, and it is so easy and tempting to lie on questionnaires, especially when it comes to opening up about our deepest, darkest, most embarrassing, secret, sexual fantasies. Therefore, I will not use many studies to justify my points here. As a sex therapist with one of the largest private practices in the world and a sex-oriented radio and TV talk show host for over two decades, as well as an erotically-married woman for almost 18 years, I base my observations on my own professional and personal experience, which I believe is as good a “study” on fantasy as any.

Before we discuss where your secret fantasies come from and whether or not to share them with anyone, let’s take a look at some of the most common ones...

The Perfect Lover

The most popular sexual fantasies among men and women involve images of sex with a passionate, attractive, exciting partner who will do whatever you want, even if that means dominating you. Your Perfect Lover could be someone you know; it could even be your real-life partner. It could be someone you saw in class or at work but never talk to, a celebrity with whom you feel a connection, or a complete stranger you happened to face for two intense minutes in a crowded elevator. It could be someone that would be your ideal mate, if only you could be together. Or it could be someone very taboo: a relative, your best friend’s spouse, a MILF, a “bad” boy or girl, someone of whom you know your family would disapprove. Perfect Lovers run the gamut, but the universal characteristic is that you find this person irresistible and extremely satisfying, at least in fantasy.

Even very traditional ladies who prefer romance to porn enjoy the fantasy of the Perfect Lover. While such a scenario might involve nothing more than kissing, Perfect Lover fantasies can entail sexual intercourse in every position. Oral sex (giving or receiving) is a big favorite, followed by manual sex, anal sex (giving or receiving) and mutual masturbation. In addition to these basic physical sex acts, there are many other types of sex about which you might fantasize, especially if you feel deprived of a particular favorite activity. Your Perfect Lover will never deprive you…unless you have a deprivation fetish.

One popular variation on the Perfect Lover is what I call “Some Enchanted Evening”: sex with a sexy stranger. It’s not that I’m recommending sex with a real-life stranger, at least not without sheathing your body in a suit of latex armor, the shining armor of the knight of the 21st century, but the fantasy of sex with an exciting, attractive stranger is a delightful aphrodisiac that many women and men enjoy. One of the reasons these kinds of lovers are “perfect” is that you don’t know them at all.

It’s even more common to fantasize about your real-life lover, who may not be perfect, but must be pretty hot and is certainly familiar and easy enough to conjure up in the erotic theater of your mind. But because it’s a secret sexual fantasy, you might imagine something different than the usual. Maybe you fantasize that your real-life lover is aggressive even though he or she is usually passive, or that the two of you are being watched, or perhaps you imagine yourself watching your lover have sex with someone else. This brings us to the next most popular type of fantasy…

Two Perfect Lovers—Or More!

Double your pleasure, double your fun; sex with two lovers is more fun than one! The threesome is another very common sexual fantasy. It’s often associated with the male erotic imagination, and it’s certainly one of the most widespread male fantasies, invoking images of double-wived patriarchs and the pleasures of the harem. But women are catching up as it becomes more acceptable for us to admit we’d like to be with two hot men at once, or perhaps a man and another woman.

The male standard is sex with two women, of course--often a girlfriend and another lady. This sort of ménage à trois fantasy is flattering to your erotic ego and gives you a sex-educational glimpse into the secrets of lesbian sex. Of course, these are not man-hating lesbians; in fact, they love your penis!

More and more men now also confess that they fantasize about having a threesome with a woman and another man. The level of imagined physical intimacy can run the gamut from barely touching the man while you both focus on the woman all the way to the two men having intense sex while the woman simply watches or “directs.” You might also imagine watching the other man have his sexual way with your woman, with you as the “cuckold,” creating what I call the “sperm wars” effect, a competitive rise in your sperm count that arouses you even if you feel jealous and insecure.

Threesome fantasies can be so vivid, especially if one of the partners is your real-life lover, that many people try breathing life into them. The resulting reality spans from having a beautiful experience which enhances your relationship, as well as your sense of your sexual self, to an awful, awkward incident that hurts everyone involved. One thing is certain: Everything in any fantasy is “perfect” as far as your libido is concerned. Reality, however, is not quite so in tune with what turns you on, let alone what turns on your real-life partner or the third party.

A threesome can become an orgy, which is another common sexual fantasy. One way to keep sexual monogamy from becoming monotony is to maintain an active fantasy life with as many different partners as you can imagine. I happen to have a personal soft spot for real-life orgies, holding them regularly at my Institute, giving me and everyone here not just the chance to live out a common fantasy, but the opportunity to experience real-life communal ecstasy. But that’s the subject of another bloggamy and another Master’s Tea. Back to fantasy…

Bisexual Fantasies

Sometimes when you imagine a threesome with someone of the same sex, it’s a prelude to fantasizing about a more intimate, same-sex twosome. Or maybe the third opposite sex lover is just there for show, to “guide” or even “force” the two same-gender lovers to play with each other. Or maybe your erotic theater of the mind will just combine the male and female into one and imagine sex with a pre-op transsexual or shemale.

This doesn’t necessarily mean you’re truly gay, though it could. It more often means you’re truly bisexual, which I believe most of us are, and that your fantasy life is making up for what you repress in your real life. Just because you fantasize about having sex with someone of your gender doesn’t mean you ought to do it. Same sex fantasies can signify a lot of different things for people who lead mostly straight real lives--from seeking personal validation to breaking societal taboos.

It’s funny; it used to be much more taboo for women to admit to any kind of fantasies, except the kind revolving around love and “bodice-rippers,” a.k.a. romance novels. But now that more women are creating porn and erotica, making it more romantic--that is, story and character-driven--younger women are unabashedly eating it up. Modern ladies also seem to have an easier time accepting their bi-curious fantasies than most men do. There are various sociopolitical, cultural, psychological and physical reasons for this. Women know that most men are turned on by two women together, whereas it’s still a rare, very open-minded woman who enjoys two men together. Our society is more homophobic than lesbian-phobic. Then there are the real-life, physical risks which tend to be greater between men, since penetration is more often involved, than between women.

When fantasizing about sex with another female, most women imagine the other woman’s whole body: her breasts, buns, hair, lips (both pairs), clitoris, soft skin, seductive eyes, etc. When men fantasize about other men, they tend to focus on one part: the penis. Usually, they envision a big one. So Freud was wrong about “penis envy.” Women don’t have it; men do. At least, a lot of men do. Certainly, Freud himself did.

Even, perhaps especially, the outwardly homophobic male has gay fantasies. Why do you think a guy like that is so scared of gays “converting” straight men? Because in his fantasies, that’s exactly what happens: a hugely endowed male dominates him, forcing him to have sex—usually giving oral or taking anal--and he likes it, at least in fantasy (again, this doesn’t necessarily mean he’s truly gay). Masters & Johnson reported that heterosexuals often fantasize about homosexual encounters and vice versa, more often reflecting curiosity and other impulses than the desire to change the gender of one's real-life lovers. Norman Mailer went so far as to say that “There is probably no sensitive heterosexual alive who is not preoccupied with his latent homosexuality.” I would add “at some point in his life,” since such desires come and go.

Our society tends to make things black or white, good or bad, male or female, heterosexual or homosexual. But the human sexual imagination is most definitely bisexual, even what you might call omnisexual. When Edna St. Vincent Millay went to a doctor for her headaches, he suggested they might stem from “an occasional erotic impulse toward a person of [her] own sex.”

“Oh, you mean I’m homosexual?” Millay responded, “Of course, I am, and heterosexual too, but what’s that got to do with my headache?” Maybe that’s what the Pulitzer-prize-winning poet and Vassar girl meant when she wrote “my candle burns at both ends.”

Men are not from Mars, women are not from Venus. We’re all from the same beautiful, wild, sexual planet Earth, and we’re far more alike than we are different. Dr. Alfred Kinsey was among the first to show that we’re all on a bisexual continuum with absolute heterosexuals on one end and absolute homosexuals on the other end. Very few of us fall at one extreme or the other. That doesn’t mean we like both sexes equally at all times. It just means most of us can potentially, under the right circumstances (boarding school, prison, a desert island, etc.), with the right person (the Perfect Lover), be aroused by either gender. Certainly, we can, and often do, enjoy being “bi” in fantasy.

Surrender and Power Trips

Power and surrender, or “dominance and submission” (D/s) fantasies are quite common among both men and women. They seem to be gaining in popularity, but they're even older than the human race, probably flowing through the erotic minds of our bonobo and chimpanzee cousins. They can be crude or romantic, marvelous or dangerous. D/s fantasies may involve sadomasochism (S/M), bondage and discipline (B/D), an imagined abduction, a fantasy “rape,” spanking, whipping, tickling, torture, teasing, body worship and a host of other activities that may or may not entail actual sexual intercourse. In D/s fantasies, being “bad”--whether you are the nasty Dom or the naughty sub--feels really good. It’s another trick of the imagination that turns the “good” status quo on its head in order to turn you on.

It’s easy to understand why people enjoy dominating others. Power is a rush, especially in fantasy. You get to do whatever you want to the sex object of your dreams. What more could you desire? Many people pursue physical power over others in real life, often entering political, police or military careers. Others prefer to go on their power trips in their erotic imagination. Traditionally, “domination” is considered a male fantasy, probably most popular among young men who are relatively powerless in real-life society, even though they have testosterone-pumping energy to spare. But more and more women say they enjoy the fantasy of being dominant, “on top,” wielding a whip or even sprouting a penis (okay, Freud was right about some women) or other penetrative “weapon,” perhaps wearing a strap-on dildo in real-life sex.

But why do people long to submit? It’s certainly not all Stockholm Syndrome. As a therapist, I hear many more fantasies of submission than dominance, from both men and women. That’s partly because private therapy is expensive, and the men and women who can afford it tend to be successful professionals who dominate others in real life. Nature seeks a balance, often finding it through our fantasy life, making otherwise dominant people long to surrender, to be overwhelmed by someone else’s passion and power. In their erotic imaginations, and sometimes in a real-life role-playing session with a dominatrix, they surrender control for a brief period in their busy, power-packed day or week. They take a mini vacation from real life stress and the responsibility of being in charge, perhaps a time trip back into a childhood or adolescence under someone else’s control. Since society puts so much pressure on us to achieve--and achieving is hard work--deep in our secret erotic imaginations, many high-achievers long to surrender.

But there’s another, even more pervasive reason many people eroticize and even become addicted to submission: guilt. Forced surrender allows you to do something sexual without it being your “fault,” absolving you of guilt, at least in fantasy. No one likes to be raped in real life, of course, but the rape fantasy is extremely popular, as long as it’s being perpetrated by someone attractive. Usually, your fantasy rapist is a kind of Perfect Lover, someone you would actually be thrilled to have sex with in real life. But, in a rape fantasy, you give yourself the additional pleasure of resistance and the absolution of innocence (it’s the rapist’s fault, not yours!). Though, of course, it is your fantasy mind that creates the rapist and everything he or she does. For obvious reasons, the rape fantasy is most common among sexually repressed “good girls” and outwardly conservative men. It’s also an ego-boost to the sexually insecure, as it allows you to feel extremely desirable, so much so that your rapist finds you impossible to resist.

Whether you are being raped, ravished, abducted, tied up, spanked, teased, forced to dress like a slut or led around on a leash as the slave of a powerful, sexy Master or Mistress, in a submission fantasy, you get to be made to do or get what you secretly desire. So a foot fetishist will be “made” to worship feet, the nipple masochist “forced” to suffer extra painful nipple clamps and the panty lover “ordered” to put on the mistress’ knickers. Dominant/submissive scenarios may involve master/slave, goddess/supplicant, rapist/victim, boss/employee, teacher/student, parent/child, john/hooker, doctor/patient or guard/prisoner.

Men and women probably fantasize with equal passion about sexual surrender. But it’s still more socially acceptable for women (even feminist women) than it is for men, so men more often combine feelings of humiliation with submission. Politically incorrect as it may be, male submission fantasies often involve being dressed up in traditional, sensuous or “slutty” women’s clothes and called derogatory "sissy" names. This may or may not overlap with cross-dressing or transgender fantasies.

Keep in mind that some people have transgender fantasies that are not at all submissive; they really do feel that they were born into the body of the “wrong” gender, and their fantasies are sometimes a prelude to “becoming” the opposite sex in real-life through hormones, surgery and lifestyle changes. But very often, male transvestite fantasies aren’t about really wanting to be a woman; they’re about submission in the form of erotic degradation.

I could go on and on about the many different types of sexual surrender and submission that people enjoy. In love--as opposed to war, politics or business, where "surrender" conjures images of defeat and shame--surrender can be sweet and the ultimate, intimate fulfillment. The ancient Taoist masters said, "In yielding, there is strength." In surrender, there can be power--certainly sexual fantasy power.

Exhibitionism and Voyeurism

Another common fantasy combo is seeing and being seen, showing off and watching the show, exhibitionism and voyeurism. It’s not all visual; you can be an audio-voyeur who enjoys hearing someone talk “dirty,” and you can be an aural exhibitionist who gets off on telling your sex secrets to the world. But most exhibitionism and voyeurism is about the joy of the erotic gaze and the thrill of being gazed upon, breaking through the strong social taboo of visual privacy.

The entire porn industry is based on people’s voyeuristic desires to see otherwise forbidden images of other people engaged in sex. We love to watch. There are obviously enough people who love to be watched that there are plenty of porn stars and strippers. Those are extreme professions to be in, but in fantasy you can do it all and bare it all before thousands or in forbidden places. Marilyn Monroe is said to have had recurring dreams in which she stripped off all her clothes in a church as a stunned congregation silently worshipped her naked beauty.

With the advent of reality shows, erotic blogs and obsessive, sexy photo-posting on social networking communities, exhibitionism and voyeurism are busting through the erotic theater of the mind and into that half-way house between fantasy and reality: the media. More and more, natural exhibitionists are just making and posting their own porn, turning everyone on their “friend list” into voyeurs.

In our society, we tend to think of exhibitionism as female and voyeurism as male. After all, due to the hot politics of cold cash, most strip clubs have female performers for male customers and the great majority of straight sex magazines and websites have pictures of women for men to admire. You can post anything on the Internet but, still, women tend to be the ones who get paid for sex as a stripper, prostitute, porn star, mistress or other sexual performer. Whether this shows that women are dominant--making money doing what they already enjoy as they call their own shots--or submissive--allowing themselves to be exploited and made to do things they don’t like for the sake of money--depends on the woman. Likewise, whether “paying for it” shows that men are dominant--wealthy and powerful enough to pay and get what they want--or submissive--forced to pay because that’s the only way they’ll get what they need--depends on the man.

Most people would say the He-Pays-To-Watch-Her scenario is the natural relationship between male and female, but is it? In nature, it's usually the male of the species that's the exhibitionist, the classic example being the peacock. His sex drive programs him to strut his sexual stuff for the female who watches him voyeuristically and quite critically, deciding whether he'd make a good sex partner based largely on the beauty of his tail. Since there aren’t too many opportunities for men to sexually display themselves for women in our society, many men secretly fantasize about exhibitionism. They desperately want to show themselves off, with special emphasis on their taboo penises that are so forbidden everywhere except hardcore porn. In fact, there’s a fetish that is gaining in popularity on the Internet known by its initials CFNM: Clothed Female, Naked Male.

Animals and Angels

Your wild erotic nature may emerge in animal fantasies. Don’t worry, having animal sex fantasies doesn’t (usually) mean you want to have sex with animals in real life. You may just revel in the ultra-taboo, bestial wildness. Horses and dogs figure commonly in men’s bestiality fantasies which usually involve them submissively receiving sex from the animal or voyeuristically watching a woman engaged in sex with the animal. Female fantasies tend to involve the woman being the animal, often something in the wild “pussy” family, such as a lioness, tiger or cheetah. No wonder wildcat patterns are so popular in women’s fashion.

Of course, real-life bestiality is appalling to most people. But animal sex fantasies connect you to your animal nature, often freeing your mind from the all-too-human sexual oppression that lurks within you.

On the other end of the sexual fantasy spectrum lies the spiritual. Sacred sex. You might fantasize about an Eros angel with wings to take you flying. Dreams of flying are often considered symbols of orgasm. You might imagine a divine threesome with you, your lawfully wedded spouse and the all-embracing presence of God or the Goddess. Your sacred sex fantasies might be influenced by a religious upbringing, the Bible, the Koran, the Tao Te Ching or other spiritual teachings that elevate the sex act to something heavenly, such that you might imagine your sexual union as a cosmic merger of two souls becoming one. Religious people don’t tend to characterize their ideas about spiritual union as fantasies, but if the holy robe fits, wear it. Fantasies of sex with space aliens and superheroes go into the “angel” category, though some might be a bit more animal.

These are the most basic types of secret sexual fantasies. There are many more variations, and I’d love to hear some of yours. But first let’s answer a few fundamental questions about sexual fantasy, where it comes from and where it can take you.

Where Do Fantasies Come From?

Your fantasies begin in the cradle, perhaps even in the womb. By the time you reach your teens, they get really intense. Many of your erotic fantasies stem from early memories, the first images you find arousing. If for no other reason than constant proximity, these images often come through interactions with family: your mother's lingerie hanging on the clothesline, your father spanking you, catching your sister naked in the bathroom, your brother wrestling you to the ground. That's one reason why incest fantasies of all kinds are so common. But don't worry; just having incest fantasies doesn't mean you've ever really had incest or ever will.

It’s true that real-life incest victims and perpetrators tend to be preoccupied by such imagery, often arising from traumatic memories. But most people who have incest fantasies have never acted on them. Oedipus complex, anyone? Freud may have been off on penis envy, but he was right on the money shot when he theorized that Oedipus and Electra, Mommy and Daddy complexes, and other types of terribly taboo incest fantasies permeate the secret spaces of many of our erotic minds.

Of course, the family is not the only source of secret sexual fantasy. You might pick up images from friends, neighbors and school experiences, as well as from your favorite fairy tales, movies, TV shows and popular music, not to mention Internet porn. These early images are very powerful, because they impress themselves upon you when you're very impressionable. They become blueprints for your desire, repeating themselves in your memories and activating your imagination, infusing your natural sexuality with meaning and excitement. They alternately confuse, excite, please, comfort and torment you. And they become secret sexual fantasies.

Your erotic fantasies might be influenced by aspects of your early years that aren’t so obviously sexual. We human beings are masters at finding silver linings in black clouds, and we often do this through the “magic” of sexual fantasy. For instance, if you were very sick as a child and confined to bed, you might go on to fantasize about bondage or sensory deprivation. If you were abused or bullied when you were small, then later in life you might turn being bullied into something pleasurable and fantasize about erotic submission or humiliation. On the other hand, your fantasy mind might rather turn the tables on reality and eroticize domination.

What Are Fantasies Good For?

Sexual fantasies can be keys that unlock the doors of your repressed personal history. They can help you to cope with your real-life problems, just as your dreams do, though they tend to do it when you’re awake. They can help you work through past trauma or abuse, operating like an erotic painkiller on negative, hurtful memories. Of course, that can lead to other problems, such as wanting to act out the fantasy and perpetrate the abuse that you experienced onto someone else. But it doesn’t have to. Sexual fantasies and erotic dreams, especially when accompanied by orgasm and perspective (not necessarily in that order), can help to release the stress and trauma of the past. They can also help you relive good sexual memories. You appreciate this benefit of fantasy more as you get older. And no, you don’t have to act out anything in real life; you can keep your secret sexual fantasies and memories locked up in your mind for safekeeping.

But fantasies aren’t just about the past. They can also prepare you for the future. Fantasies can be hazy or detailed rehearsals in the erotic theater of the mind for sexual acts you haven't yet experienced. That’s probably a pretty common use of fantasy at Yale, or on any college campus. Just as athletes imagine playing and winning the Big Game before it actually happens, so you might imagine seducing or being seduced by your Perfect Lover before the Big Date--or the Big Hook-Up. Some Casanovas and Cleopatras combine fantasy with strategy to entice any partner they desire. This is part of the Mystery method that Matador represented at Sex Week at Yale in 2008. If you can dream it, you can do it.

On the other hand, your secret sexual fantasies can trip you up. Fantasies can be very perverse, enhancing your insecurity, even as they arouse your passions. If you tend to fantasize about being humiliated by people you desire, then you might have a hard time--so to speak--psyching yourself up in a positive way for a date with someone you’d like to impress.

Understandably, people often would like to get rid of troublesome fantasies. Maybe they fantasize about being embarrassed when they’d like to be confident, or having gay sex when they’d like to be straight, or doing their partner’s sister when they’d like to focus on their partner. But deleting a secret sexual fantasy from your mental hard drive is much easier said than done. In fact, it really can’t be done. Very often, the harder you try to banish a bad fantasy from your head, the more insidiously it will wrap itself around your every thought and feeling. You simply can’t control your fantasies, at least no better than you can control your dreams.

But your fantasies don’t have to control you either. Just because you imagine doing some crazy, kinky thing doesn’t mean you have to do it. You can’t control what you imagine. But you can, more or less, control what you do in real life. So don’t make like the Thought Police and bust yourself for your fantasies! Hold yourself accountable for your actions, not your thoughts. Your favorite, secret, sexual fantasy is a gift you can’t return, though sometimes, with time, it fades.

To Share or Not to Share?

Make friends with your fantasies. Don’t vainly attempt to control them, and maybe they won’t take control of you. Then you can use them as safe outlets for dark, naughty or forbidden desires that you can’t, or wouldn’t, want to live out--perhaps because you know that doing so would hurt you or someone you love. For some people, fantasies are great mental sex toys, interactive mind-movies, playgrounds for the libido. We grow up playing as children, but gradually all our games become serious and there’s very little playtime left in our adult lives. The erotic theater of the mind is a place for you to play. Do try to play safe, though that’s not always as simple as it sounds.

What about sharing? Opening up about otherwise secret sexual fantasies with your partner can make lovemaking more exciting. Sharing fantasies isn’t usually necessary when you first have sex together. So much is new in reality, your mind doesn’t have to go much farther than the present moment for stimulation. But after a while, when you’re in a long-term relationship, you get to know each other’s bodies so well that your mind is bound to drift…into fantasy. After all, there are only so many physical positions into which you can bend your bodies, but there is an endless array of mind-games you can play, or role-play. On the other hand, your secret sexual fantasy could hurt, anger, scare or disgust your lover. One person’s fantasy is another’s nightmare.

So, to share or not to share? It really depends on you, your partner and the fantasy. In other words: proceed with caution. Take baby steps…

If you've never shared a fantasy with your lover, and you'd like to try, start by sharing a memory, a thrilling erotic experience you actually had together. Reminisce about it in bed, then embellish the memory by imagining something that could have made the experience even more exciting. You can also stimulate the sharing of fantasies by reading or looking at erotica together. Be poetic, be explicit, be romantic, be outrageous, be honest, but be sensitive. Try tossing out small parts of your secret fantasies like test balloons; if it floats, keep embellishing; if you can see it sinking by your partner’s negative reaction, switch gears. It’s risky business, but nothing great in life comes without taking a chance. If you can share your fantasies with your lover, you can get to know each other deeply, weaving powerful strands of feeling into the fabric of your relationship, blending fantasies with memories and ever-expanding possibilities.

Your secret sexual fantasies evolve and change as you do. Of course, it’s your prerogative to keep them a secret. But if they haunt, obsess or hurt you in some way, it might be a good idea to share them with a sex therapist, if not your lover. Troublesome fantasies discussed and explored in a safe, enlightening but nonjudgmental manner tend to lose some of their obsessive, dangerous qualities. Sharing difficult, recurring fantasies with a good therapist might help you to put them in perspective, reducing their negative power over you, so you can make friends with your fantasies and learn to use them to release stress and come to terms with the many layers of your sexuality.

Need to Talk PRIVATELY about Your Secret Sexual Fantasies? Call The Dr. Susan Block Institute at 213-291-9497

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Striptease Therapy Comments Off on Striptease Therapy

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Are you turned on by a good striptease?  Do you love the seductive style of a sensuous exotic dancer?  Do you get a voyeuristic thrill from the bawdy bounce of burlesque?  Do you crave the devastating tease and denialof the skilled ecdysiast? Or do you go for the “amateur,” the sexy girl on the dance floor who lets the music flow through her body like a shimmering stream of pure rhythm?

Do you like to watch your lover dance for you just before you make love?  Or do you prefer to gaze upon a stranger, a hot, untouchable, superstar stripper high up above you on the strip club stage?  Do supple pole dancers drive you crazy? Are you a helpless fan of the femme fatale? A sucker for a supple lapdance?

Have you ever watched a sexy dancer—on the stage, at a club or in your dreams—wishing you could get to know her better?  Do you fantasize about getting her alone and having her deliver on what her dance seems to promise you? Do you imagine her dancing all over you, stripping off your clothes along with hers, then rhythmically riding you into a series of orgasms that has both of you screaming with deep wild pleasure and harmonious erotic energy?

Or do you worry that you (or a loved one) might be “addicted” to strippers?  Are you hanging out in strip clubs whenever you can, cheating on your partner or missing work, sticking all your hard-earned cash in those irresistible little G-strings or just giving the stripper of your dreams money shower after shower, until your wallet is empty and dry?

Or perhaps you prefer doing the striptease to watching it.  Are you a secret exhibitionist who longs to strip upon a stage, to reveal what you so often conceal?   Would you like to be an exotic dancer—professionally or just for fun?  Do you need advice about the "business" or encouragement to strip for personal, private pleasure?  Are you having trouble handling your desires for exhibitionism?  Are you a stripper that wants to transition into a different kind of life?

Do you need to talk about it? 

You can talk to us.  Call the Dr. Susan Block Institute now or anytime, 24/7,  for Striptease Therapy. What exactly is  “Striptease Therapy”?  It can take a variety of forms, depending on you and your needs.  Whether you need help disciplining your out-of-control stripper fetish, getting up the courage to do a seductive striptease for your husband (or wife), or roleplaying an exotic dancer domination fantasy, give us a call at [callus].

Dancing is the world's oldest art form. People have been dancing since shortly after they started walking, and some of the first dances they did were erotic dances, also known as "fertility dances." Essentially, these were dances to make the crops grow along with the men’s erections, dances to make the rain fall as the women got wet.  Some say that any kind of dance is erotic.  George Bernard Shaw famously called dancing “a vertical expression of a horizontal desire.”

Stripping is also very old.  Probably as soon as people started wearing clothes, some people started taking their clothes off in a sexy, seductive way.  Keep in mind that for many thousands of years, we humans were as naked as all the other animals in the forest.  As we started to wear clothing, human nudity became taboo.  Unclothing—or stripping—became theteasing “gateway” between the acceptable, civilized, clothed world and the realm of forbidden, primal nudity.

Thus stripping is one of the most basic, powerful aphrodisiacs there is. The gradual, sensuous removal of articles of clothing reveals the natural mysteries of the human body in a viscerally exciting way that takes us from our cultured world of clothing to a naked realm of primeval pleasures and our deep evolutionary origins.  A well-known University of Chicago Sex Survey found that the second most common turn-on, next to regular sexual intercourse, is watching someone sexy taking off their clothes

Slowly...as one of the greatest American strippers, Gypsy Rose Lee said, "Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly" (though, if you’re in a hurry, a quick strip can also hit the spot!)….

Speaking of Gypsy, in response to her request for a “more dignified” way to refer to her profession than “stripper,” H. L. Mencken is credited with coining the word "ecdysiast" – from "ecdysis", meaning "to molt."

Striptease in mythology goes at least as far back as the ancient Sumerian story of the descent of the goddess Inanna into the Underworld where, at each of the seven gates, she removes an article of clothing until her naked arrival in hell. Inanna’s cosmic striptease is carried on in the Dance of the Seven Veils of Salome, who danced for King Herod in the New Testament (Matthew 14:6 and Mark 6:21-22). Though the Bible records Salome's dance, the first mention of her actually removing seven veils occurs in Oscar Wilde's play Salome in 1893 and Richard Strauss's operatic version in 1905, which some claim as the origin of modern striptease.

In the Gay Nineties, striptease and burlesque flourished in Paris at the Moulin Rouge and Folies Bergère, and in 1905, the notorious and tragic Dutch dancer, Mata Hari, later shot as a spy by the French authorities during World War I, was an overnight striptease success at the Musée Guimet. In the 1920s, an American in Paris, Josephine Baker, stripped to nothing but a “skirt” of bananas in her sensational danse sauvage.

The 1960s saw a revival of striptease in the form of topless go-go dancing. This eventually merged with the older tradition of burlesque to create modern stripping. Carol Doda of the Condor Night Club in San Francisco is given the credit of being the first topless—then bottomlessgo-go dancer.  In the past, the performance often finished as soon as the undressing was over, but today's strippers usually continue dancing, pole-dancing and lapdancing in the nude.

Meanwhile, burlesque or “neo-burlesque” has branched off from stripping into a separate, somewhat more “dignified” and more humor-infused dance form, maintaining the old striptease traditions with new twists.  Then there are the modern temple dancers who perform "striptease therapy" in the sacred traditions of Aphrodite and ApsaraSo many ways to strip and tease!

One of the most famous striptease artists of modern times, Dita Von Teese, has appeared twice on The Dr. Susan Block Show, including once when Dr. Block interviewed Bettie Page, the late legendary American striptease, pin-up and fetish model, in 1996.

Dr. Block also wrote the definition of STRIPTEASE for the new Wiley-Blackwell International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality.

But back to you…and your stripper fetish

Do you need to talk with someone who’s been on both sides of the lapdance?  For serious sex therapy or a pleasureable phone experience or help with your—or your loved one’s—stripper habit, give us a call right now or anytime you need to talk.  Call [callus].  We’re here for you.

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Dr. Suzy’s Bday Bacchanal This Saturday 6/9 ! (0)

This Saturday night 6/9 , our live broadcast of The Dr. Susan Block Show will celebrate another amazing erotic-chaotic year in the rapidly lengthening life of our host with a sure-to-be awesome bacchanal of sex, fun, wisdom, Commedia Erotica, Weapons of Mass Seduction, performance sex, Sybian rides and birthday spankings for all.

Professors and porn stars, singers and swingers, strippers and scholars, celebrities and paparazzi, artists and exhibitionists, voyeurs and connoisseurs, old friends and new talent will congregate in the Womb Room at Dr. Suzy’s Speakeasy, broadcasting live  Saturday night, June 9, 2012, 10:30pm-Midnight PST.

Guest stars of this year’s bacchanal will include Stevie Shae, Courtney Taylor, Ash Hollywood, Anna Foxxx, Xander Corvus, TS Brit St. Jordan, Jessi Palmer, Mary Forrest, Amanda Blow, TS Morgan Bailey, Dominique D'vita, Tracey Sweet, Nova Brooks, Max Hardcore, Layla Rivera, Katie Kinns, Murrugan the Mystic, Cece Larue, Yossi Vardan, Alicia Secret, Eric/Erica, Jonni Lynch, Julien Nitzberg, Isiah King James IV,  Bon Jon Syn, Kat & BD, Stripperella creator Anthony Winn, Girls & Corpses Deaditor-in-Chief Robert "Corpsy" Rhine, Cathouse Pimpmaster Dennis Hof + more TBA! After the show, we'll have an erotic after-party with DJ Leo9!

Watch the LIVE BROADCAST & View All the Pix, Clips & Past Shows at http://tinyurl.com/DrSuzyTV.

To join our exclusive live in-studio audience and the after-party at Dr. Suzy’s Speakeasy in the Soul of Downtown LA, call or go to http://tinyurl.com/DrSuzyRSVP .

Dr. Suzy's Birthday Bacchanal will air live June 9th-10th, 2012, 10:30pm-Midnight PST on The Dr. Susan Block Show. Listen FREE at http://tinyurl.com/RadioSUZY1  Call-In Free: 1.866.289.7068.

Proceeds from donations go to help save the highly endangered “make love not war” bonobos from extinction in the Congo and to promote the Bonobo Way of peace through pleasure around the world.

Dr. Block and guests will enjoy sex toys provided by Sybian, Kinky Eddie, AdultPlayParlor, ScreamingO, Stockroom, Munkey-Barz, JuxLeather and Condomania condoms, plus a fine art exhibit featuring Anthony Winn’s Stripperella artwork and the classical erotic paintings of Scott Siedman.

The Dr. Susan Block Show beverage of choice is Agwa di Bolivia Coca Leaf Liqueur, among the many fine libations and gourmet hors d'oeuvres featured at the always popular Speakeasy Open Bar and Aphrodisiac Buffet.

Dr. Block and guests will enjoy sex toys provided by Sybian, AdultPlayParlor, ScreamingO, Stockroom, Munkey-Barz, JuxLeather and Condomania condoms, plus a fine art exhibit featuring Anthony Winn’s Stripperella artwork and the classical erotic paintings of Scott Siedman.

 The Dr. Susan Block Show beverage of choice is Agwa di Bolivia Coca Leaf Liqueur, among the many fine libations and gourmet hors d'oeuvres featured at the always popular Speakeasy Open Bar and Aphrodisiac Buffet.

The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education based in LA.  Founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials, the Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and the Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure. Read More

Kink Survivors & Auto-Sodomites This Saturday on the Dr. Susan Block Show (0)

This Saturday night’s live broadcast of The Dr. Susan Block Show will share the success stories of kinky survivors who screwed cancer in its own behind, so to speak. Joining international sexologist Dr. Susan Block in her Womb Room broadcast studios will be four Kink performers, including the amazing Jack Hammer, who will trade “beating bladder cancer stories” with Captain Max, fetish model Alice Kingsnorth, and married couple/fetish performers Audrey Rose and Henry Jacob. Plus, TS porn star Victoria Veil will help us continue celebrating Masturbation Month with her special talent for auto-anal-intercourse.  And we'll also celebrate our producer Tasia Sutor's birthday! Kinky Survivors & Auto-Sodomites will air live May 19th, 2012, 10:30pm-Midnight PST on The Dr. Susan Block Show. Listen FREE at http://tinyurl.com/RadioSUZY1  Call-In Free: 1.866.289.7068. Watch the LIVE BROADCAST & View All the Pix, Clips & Past Shows at http://tinyurl.com/DrSuzyTV. To join our exclusive live in-studio audience and the after-party at Dr. Suzy’s Speakeasy in the Soul of Downtown LA, call or go to http://tinyurl.com/DrSuzyRSVP . Proceeds from donations go to help save the highly endangered “make love not war” bonobos from extinction in the Congo and to promote the Bonobo Way of peace through pleasure around the world. Dr. Block and guests will enjoy sex toys provided by Sybian, AdultPlayParlor, ScreamingO, Stockroom, Munkey-Barz, JuxLeather and Condomania condoms, plus a fine art exhibit featuring Anthony Winn’s Stripperella artwork and the classical erotic paintings of Scott Siedman. The Dr. Susan Block Show beverage of choice is Agwa di Bolivia Coca Leaf Liqueur, among the many fine libations and gourmet hors d'oeuvres featured at the always popular Speakeasy Open Bar and Aphrodisiac Buffet. The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education based in LA.  Founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials, the Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and the Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure. Read More

Tease & Denial Phone Sex Therapy Comments Off on Tease & Denial Phone Sex Therapy

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Do you like to be teased? Does it arouse you to be made to wait for that sweet moment of release?  Or would you rather do the teasing, prolonging your seduction to make the object of your desire crazy with lust for you?  What is it that can make the art of "tease and denial" so irresistible, it's as if it weaves a magic spell around its helpless, happy victim? Everyone needs a little tease, at least sometimes.  Men need to be teased because it makes them slow down. Women need to be teased because it makes us come around.  Teasing puts the pizzazz and mystery into sex.  Otherwise, we’d just be rutting animals.  Even animals tease!  Look at the stop-start, pounce-retreat mating dances of birds, cats, apes, even snakes. A good tease is erotic but indirect, slowly building up to total seduction and surrender. As that consummate strip tease artist Gypsy Rose Lee once said, “Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly.”  A great tease has all the time in the world. And with a great tease, you never know if you’re going to get the gold you’re going for.  You might, but then again you might not.  You have to be flexible with a tease.  You have to remember the Golden Rule of TeaseYou never know.  The best laid plans may not get you laid the way you planned.  You have to be willing to go with the tease, please… Teasing wears a variety of masks and hats.  There is the innocent tease who doesn’t even know she’s a tease, and is all the more devastating for it.  There’s the experienced tease who spins her webs of seduction with great skill and sensitivity.  I say “her” because, though men can tease too, teasing is a feminine wile.  It is manipulative and circuitous, womanly attributes.  Some teasing is spontaneous, light as a feather.  Some teasing is calculated, steeped in the art of salacious sorcery.  Some teasing is loving and sweet, almost nurturing, like tickling a baby.  Some teasing is playful and charming, dazzling and devastatingly witty.  Some teasing is mean and nasty, even vicious and cruel.  Teasing can also be humiliating and torturous.  And some teasing really hurts.  Rapes, murders, even MASS murders have been committed by people—even children--who say they did it because  they were teased.  Teasing can be dangerous.  It can be quite harmless too, of course.  That is why we say “I’m just teasing!” to insist we’re harmless.  But it is the dangerous aspects of teasing that make it erotic.  That, and the sensuous nature of revealing something slowly, gradually, then maybe not at all, then maybe a little more.  It is too dangerous to show more.  Too hot to handle.  That is the Art of the Tease.

One of the greatest teases of history, believe it or not, is Queen Esther of the Bible. The shrewd and seductive Esther of Shushan, in what is now Iran, teased the great and powerful Persian King Ahasuerus into such an erotic frenzy that he freed her people from genocide.  Queen Cleopatra of Egypt was also a great tease; it was her extraordinary teasing ability that kept the Romans guessing and ultimately kept Egypt governed by its own people (that is, herself) until her death.

In modern times, teasing is the stuff of stars, Marilyn Monroe being the most legendary tease.  Bettie Page, sometimes called the Dark Marilyn, was also a most delicious tease. Now Dita Von Teese continues the legacy of the tease.  I was privileged to have Bettie Page as a guest on my show a few years ago--with Dita (when she was an 18-year-old Heather Sweet) in my studio audience!  Though Bettie spoke with me on the air for over an hour, she refused to show her face.  What a tease.  She said she wanted us to think of her the way she was, forever young and beautiful; she wanted control of her image.

And, yes, teasing is about control.  Once you lose control, you’re not teasing anymore. It’s tough to tease when you're in mid-orgasm.  Once the orgasm is on, the tease  is over....unless you're a really good tease.

Does all this talk about teasing make you yearn to be teased?

Call the telephone sex therapists of The Dr. Susan Block Institute for Tease and Denial Phone Sex Therapy. Whether you're looking to be teased yourself by one of our sweet, charming, experienced, degreed and/or deliciously cruel sex therapists, if you're in need of some teasing advice to seduce that someone you've been wanting for a while, or if you want to better understand, explore, express, limit and/or control your desire for tease and denial, we're here  for you 27/7. We are the world's foremost experts in the fine art of tease and denial.  Call now at [callus]

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Pet of the Year & Happy Hooker of Our Times (0)

“With the 2012 Pet of the Year in-studio & the new Happy Hooker on the line, we’re kicking off the new year with two of the world’s hottest, most successful, sexual women--live from the Penthouse floor,” says Dr. Block.

This Saturday night’s live broadcast of The Dr. Susan Block Show will focus on two of the hottest ladies of Penthouse.  Joining international sexologist Dr. Susan Block in her Womb Room broadcast studios will be the 2012 Penthouse Pet of the Year Jenna Rose. Plus, calling in live from Atlanta will be outspoken call-girl and Penthouse Magazine columnist Alex Lieberman. Svelte, tattooed Girls and Corpses model Bonnie Rotten and G&C Deaditor-in-Chief  and frequent guest on The Dr. Susan Block Show, Robert "Corpsy" Rhine, will also be joining us in-studio. Pet of the Year & Happy Hooker of Our Times will air live January 7th, 2012, 10:30pm-Midnight PST on The Dr. Susan Block Show. Listen FREE at http://tinyurl.com/RadioSUZY1  Call-In Free: 1.866.289.7068. To join our exclusive live in-studio audience and the erotic after-party at Dr. Suzy’s world-famous Speakeasy in the Soul of Downtown LA, call or go to http://tinyurl.com/DrSuzyRSVP. Watch the LIVE BROADCAST and View Pix, Clips and Past Shows at http://tinyurl.com/DrSuzyTV. Proceeds from donations go to help save the highly endangered “make love not war” bonobo chimpanzees from extinction in the Congo and to promote the Bonobo Way of peace through pleasure around the world.  Dr. Block and guests will enjoy sex toys provided by AdultPlayParlor.com, ScreamingO and The Stockroom, Condomania condoms, plus a fine art exhibit featuring Anthony Winn’s Stripperella artwork and the classical erotic paintings of Scott Siedman. The Dr. Susan Block Show beverage of choice is Agwa di Bolivia Coca Leaf Liqueur, among the many fine libations featured at the always popular Speakeasy Open Bar and Aphrodisiac Buffet. The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education based in LA.  Founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials, the Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and the Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure. Read More

Group Phone Sex Therapy Comments Off on Group Phone Sex Therapy

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by Dr. Susan Block.

Have you been thinking about group sex? Do you dream of casting all rigid social boundaries aside and indulging in the orgiastic hedonism of a threesome, multiple partners, a swing party, a pansexual celebration, a polyamorous arrangement or a full-on orgy?

Perhaps you already enjoy the pleasures of sex with more than one partner at one time, but you need to talk about your experiences with someone open-minded, knowledgeable and discreet. Maybe you’re considering group sex or the swinginglifestyle,” and you need to sort out the pros and cons.  Then again, you might believe that multiple partners, free love and orgies are best left in the realm of the imagination, but you’d love to share the fantasy with someone who understands, or maybe even more than one someone at one time; after all, we are talking about group phone sex therapy.

Do you want to make your group sex fantasies come true, at least partially? Do you need to talk about orgies, swinging, "designer relationships," open marriage, polyamory, communal ecstasy?  Want to know the ins and outs of threesomes, foursomes, and more-somes? Need advice on how to bring these exciting but touchy subjects up to your spouse?  Would you like to experience group phone sex therapy?  Call the Block Institute at [callus].

 

Several of our telephone sex therapists are experts in group sex, polyamory, swinging and our world-renowned philosophy of ethical hedonism.  Group sex might sound very kinky for some, but it fulfills a very natural, human need to share erotic, orgasmic, loving experiences with multiple people, friends, loved ones and attractive strangers.  In a world that increasingly demands compartmentalization and isolation, there are few arenas left in which humans can share in this vital, life-affirming experience of communal ecstasy.

 Most of us are expected to meet all our sexual and erotic needs within one relationship, usually a marriage, that is supposed to last our entire adult lives.  Our sexual experiences are expected to be always private, “just the two of us,” usually in a locked bedroom, often in the dark.  There’s nothing wrong with that; in fact, private couple sex with someone you love is probably the most intimate, meaningful kind of sex there is.  But there is something very special and truly wonderful about the “collective joy” (with apologies to Barbara Ehrenreich) of group sex that partner sex simply cannot duplicate.

Many anthropologists agree that prehistoric humans often engaged in various forms of group sex--just as our closest genetic cousins, the bonobos, do--for tens of thousands of years before the advent of farming and “civilization” started pressuring people, especially women, to be sexually monogamous.

Just because human society changed and started trying to squeeze the square peg of our true polyamorous, orgiastic sexual nature into the round hole of traditional marriage and monogamy doesn’t mean human beings changed.  We are still inherently nonmonogamous, or even what Sex at Dawn authors Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethas, as well as sexpert Dan Savage, call “promiscuous.”  Some of us can “control” our desires for multiple partners and group sex experience better than others.

 Of course, despite society’s sanctions against it, some people have always found ways to enjoy various forms of group sex.  The famously decadent orgies of ancient Rome come to mind.  In the 18th century, during the period known as The Enlightenment, European intellectuals commonly took pleasure in the delights of partner-swapping—including the proudly promiscuous and ingenious Mary Shelley, author of the classic Frankenstein. Of course, “cheating” has always been a popular option for those who can manage double lives, though often at great risk to the cheaters’ marriages and even their lives.  Swinging rose in popularity in the U.S. during World War II with the “Key Club” parties where married men would leave their house keys in a basket so that other men at the party could enter their homes and have sex with their wives.

As a result of the sexual revolution of the 1960s and 70s, and an increasing openness to nontraditional forms of sexual expression, swinging and other forms of group sex have become increasingly common in America and around the world.  Yet a cultural distrust of group sex still exists, and in many areas of society--especially those that are religious, conservative or very “politically correct”--this distrust and disapproval of any kind of erotic expression that goes beyond the married couple has risen and intensified.  Many normal, sexual people who have a basic human yearning for communal ecstasy are afraid to indulge in it, and even too ashamed to talk about it with their partners.  The repression of these natural desires can put the individual—and the marriage itself--under tremendous toxic stress.

What you do is up to you, of course.  But it always helps to talk about your feelings with someone who understands, someone you can trust with your secrets and desires.  The Block Institute offers conventional sex therapy as well as the opportunity to roleplay a group sex fantasy you may have over the phone through simulated swinging, guided masturbation or erotic hypnosis. Your group sex fantasy may involve orgies, threesomes, fetish play, bisexual activity, cuckolding, domination and submission,breaking taboos,or any number of other forms of erotic adventure.  You can even speak to multiple therapists at one time for group phone sex therapy. As always, your telephone sex therapy call is completely private and confidential.

For more information or to arrange to talk to a therapist right now, call us anytime 24/7 at [callus].

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Sperm Wars Comments Off on Sperm Wars

Cuckolds, Hot Wives, Threesomes & Evolutionary Biology

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Most men are excited by the idea of their women being with other men. Yes, most. They may or may not actually like it. But many an otherwise sensible gentleman finds himself aroused upon seeing his hot wife, girlfriend or significant other flirt with a stranger, or perhaps a friend. He may be jealous, hurt, angry, even enraged. Still, he often can’t help but want to make love to "his" woman as soon as they get home, his erection stronger than usual, and his ejaculation more powerful. It's as if he is pumped up to win some sort of sexual competition with another male for the prize of this valuable female, his wife.

A more adventurous gentleman might even encourage his lady to have sex with the other man, "cheat" on him with lovers, dress in "slutty" clothing when they go out in the presence of other men, or at least talk about the fantasyof being with another man, perhaps while she is pleasuring her with a large dildo, which *represents* the other man.

Traditionally, this kind of husband (or boyfriend) is called a cuckold, an old English word that carries connotations of unwilling sexual submission and shame. Many cuckolds, willing or not, are sexual submissives in their relationships, helpless slaves to their women's desire for other men, or their own fetish for being cuckolded by their "slutty," often cheating wives, sometimes masturbating as they watch their hotwives get it on with "alpha" males, even sexually servicing their wives' well-endowed partners or being the subject of intense humiliation.

But many other gentlemen who enjoy watching or imagining their female primemates* having sex with other men in threesomes, at swing parties, in porn or with dildos, don't feel humiliated at all. They do, however, feel extremely excited, and experience harder erections and stronger ejaculations than usual. Some so-called cuckolds effectively dominate the scene, choosing lovers for their hotwives, sometimes advising the lover as to how to turn on the wife, much like a film director selects a leading man for his leading lady, and then coaches him on how to play the scene.

What do all these very different types of cuckolds - the Submissive, the Dominant, the Sissy, the Swinger, the Director (just to name a few) - have in common? They are all extremely aroused by seeing, hearing or imagining their women having sex with other men.

So, what is going on here?  Why are so many men excited by cuckolding? Even if they’re jealous? There are many explanations, but one of the more compelling reasons for this type of male arousal lies in human evolutionary biology. Scientists used to think that there was only one kind of sperm with a single goal: to swim to the egg and inseminate it - ejaculation being like the proverbial gunshot at the start of a marathon, sending all the little tadpoles swimming upstream in a race to the mothership. Sounds plausible, but it’s largely wrong. Looking through giant microscopes, evolutionary biologists Robin Baker and Mark Bellis found that “egg-inseminators” make up only about 1% of a man’s sperm. So… what about the rest? What about the 99%? It turns out that sperm aren’t so much like a bunch of individual runners or swimmers, but more like an army or a football team. The offensive players are the tackles and fullbacks in the Big Game going on inside the female’s reproductive tract. They don’t ever even try to race to the egg because their job is to hunt, tackle and kill sperm.

What sperm are they trying to kill? Not other sperm from the same male, that would be "friendly fire," and it wouldn’t be very good teamwork. These “killer” sperm are trying to attack and destroy sperm from another male that might be sharing the vagina with them in the Superbowl of Sex. They even use chemical warfare, emitting powerful spermicidal enzymes. But the attack sperm then come up against “defensive” sperm on the other side that block and protect their respective inseminator-quarterback brothers from incoming attacks. And the Big Game is on. Go team go! The Sperm War is underway…

The Sperm Wars theory explains some men’s passion for football and other war games. More to the point, it illuminates male excitement over female non-monogamy, male competition and the idea of being cuckolded (a cuckold being a man whose wife or girlfriend has sex with other men). This goes back to our prehistoric human ancestors who were probably not monogamous. Like our cousins, the bonobos and common chimps, often several males would mate with one fertile female within a few days of one another, sometimes in the midst of a prehistoric "gangbang." These different men’s sperm would then duke it out within one woman for the evolutionary goal of fertilizing her egg, and so the male psyche was primed to find male competition arousing.

How do Sperm Wars affect men today? Obviously, we don’t have so many gangbangs as our ancestors probably did. But whenever a man has sex with a woman, he unconsciously considers the odds of her being with another man. If he feels that she is totally faithful to him, he might feel very happy and secure and love her a lot, but his erection won’t be at its strongest, nor will his sperm volume be at its highest. Unconsciously, his brain sends a message to his testicles: Don’t bother to send out the full army (or football team) of several hundred million sperm to an empty field where there’s no opposing team.

But if he suspects his wife or girlfriend is having sex with another man, whether she is or not... if he feels she could be cuckolding him—whether he’s a happy swinger, a curious voyeur, a humiliated cuckold, a knowledgeable polyamorist, a controlling pimp, an angry victim or just a confused spouse—his testicles will spring into action and produce as many hundred million warrior sperm, blockers and inseminators as they can. The result is that the man has a much stronger erection, more copious ejaculate and a more intensely pleasurable orgasm than usual. Studies have shown that a husband’s sperm count rises when his wife is away for a few days, even if he’s ejaculated as much as he normally does during her absence. Not knowing exactly what the little lady is up to when she goes out “with the girls” or stays late “in a meeting” can send that urgent telegram of arousal to a man’s balls to assemble the army, so he’s hot, hard and ready to jump her bones by the time she gets home. This tends to happen whether the man is insanely jealous or filled with sweet compersion. Often considered the opposite of jealousy, the word “compersion” is used by swingers and polyamorists to convey the empathetic, bonoboësque joy they feel for their partners’ pleasure with others. Not everyone is capable of compersion or even wants to be, but it certainly makes the sperm wars effect more enjoyable.

Apparently, the human male is wired to be aroused by sexual competition. This is one reason why so many men are drawn to so-called "slutty" women, despite the fact that so many societies, around the world and throughout history, have consistently and vigorously denigrated sluts. This also explains why so many men love pornography. When a man views porn, he tends to watch a woman he desires having sex with someone else, usually another man, or maybe even with several men, as in the popular gangbang genre of porn. Some male porn lovers enjoy watching women masturbating or lesbian porn, but the vast majority of men choose to watch heterosexual porn. Essentially, they are watching a slutty woman with another man or men. This tends to trigger a stiff, Sperms Wars-powered erection.

The Sperm Wars theory also explains why so many men, even if they adore their wives, get sexually bored with them after a few years. If a gentleman feels there is no possibility that he could be "cuckolded," and that his wife could cheat on him or that she could be with another man, then his sperm count will stay *comfortably* low. After all, no sense sending out the whole football team of sperm when just a few runners will do the trick.

This is not to say that couples can't stay monogamous and enjoy hot sex for many decades, but such couples often utilize the power of fantasy, either together or individually. But a long marriage that never even entertains the possibility of cuckoldry, i.e., another man having sex with the wife, is almost inevitably doomed to low sperm counts and comfortable boredom in the bedroom.

What about jealousy? Sperm competition is exciting, reminding a man that his woman is worth fighting for, making his erection fighting hard. The danger is that jealousy, which is all tangled up with possessiveness, insecurity and fear, will add the wrong kind of fuel to the Sperm Wars fire, and all that fun fighting between sperm turns to real fighting between people. Even "retroactive jealousy" over past lovers or "fantasy jealousy" over future lovers or paranoid jealousy over imaginary lovers, might overwhelm a man to the point that the Sperm Wars going on within his balls only adds fuel to his rage and fear. The Sperms Wars cocktail is a potent one, and can be quite dangerous in high doses or when experienced at the wrong time or place.

Thus, a lady must respect her gentleman’s boundaries; with some men, playing the Sperm Wars game is playing with fire.

But remember: the woman doesn’t actually have to have sex with the other man to create the scintillating Sperm Wars effect. It is only necessary that her primemate think she might, even if he just imagines it, and even if everyone knows it's *just* a fantasy. Indeed, for most couples, the power of Sperm Wars and the experience of being "cuckolded" are best and most safely explored in the realm of the imagination.  The realm of fantasy which can be almost as exciting as the real thing, and a lot less dangerous. There’s a fine art to this, the art of balancing love and lust. The Sperm Wars theory is not just a sex geek’s delight (thought it certainly is that). Understanding how Sperm Wars works really helps to keep lust alive in a long-term relationship

Now, if only we could keep the wars to the sperm, and stop the wars between people… MAKE SPERM WARS, NOT REAL WARS ~Susan M Block, Ph.D. *A primemate is a "primary mate." A couple may have more than one sex partner, but they are each other's primemate.

 ARE YOU A CUCKOLD? Is Your Hot Wife Having Sex With A Big Bull? Do You Wish She Was? For Phone Sex Therapy on the subject of Sperm Wars, Swinging, Threesomes, Cuckolds, HotWives, Cheating Wives, Sluts, Bulls or Anything Else You Need to Talk About, Call The Dr. Susan Block Institute Anytime at 626-461-5950.

For Phone Sex Therapy on the subject of Sperm Wars, Swinging, Threesomes, Cuckolds, HotWives, Cheating Wives, Sluts, Bulls or Anything Else You Need to Talk About, Call The Dr. Susan Block Institute Anytime at 213-291-9497.

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Secrets, Stories & Techniques of G-Spot Female Ejaculation

by Dr. Susan Block

What is Squirting?

One of the great sexual wonders of the world is Female Ejaculation. Called by a variety of names, from the poetic to the worshipful to the crass, it is the Nectar of Aphrodite, the waterfall of womanhood, the champagne of sexuality, a broken fire hydrant, the ultimate orgasm, the geyser of desire. Squirting! Spurting! Spraying! Gushing... Healing as Holy Water, sexy as sin, it's good for the soul, not to mention the skin. Luminous as a sparkling spring, threatening as a flood of feelings, female ejaculation is carnal proof that a woman's ability to hit her lover right between the eyes when she comes is equal to that of a man. Thus, its importance is not only erotic, but political, as it is a tangible, palatable (i.e., delicious!), orgasmic symbol of female sexual power.

Often, female ejaculation is even more profuse and forceful than the male variety. Not everyone finds it erotic. Some are repulsed or threatened by the Raging Waters of Venus. Some women squirt naturally, some never do squirt at all, still others learn how to do it. Though female ejaculation is older than humanity, it is on a new frontier of female sexuality. Both women and men are expressing greater and greater interest in it. As a sex therapist, I get asked these questions more and more on my show and in my private practice: How can I squirt? How can I help my partner to squirt? The *meme* of "squirting" is veritably flooding the world. So, batten down the hatches! Better yet, ladies: uncork your champagne! Gentlemen: get ready to get soaked! If the squirting wave hasn't yet engulfed your neighborhood, it's on its way to bursting out of the closet (the water closet?), and drenching a bed near you.

When I first discovered the phenomenon of G-spot female ejaculation orgasms, I was intrigued, excited, mystified and challenged. As a sex therapist, I wanted to understand it. As a woman, I wanted to experience it. This essay is about both. It is a journey into the eye of a sexual hurricane, a trip into inner space, delving into the deep sensations, as well as the anatomy, history, technique, spirituality, relationship issues, controversies, culture, comedy and sheer Dionysian-orgasmic release of squirting.

Is It Real?

Throughout Western history, prominent scientists have reported witnessing and experiencing the forceful release of fluids from the vagina during sexual activity. We can begin with the Western world's most famous ancient scientist, Aristotle, who wrote about the phenomenon of women's vaginal expulsions during sex, maintaining that they did not have the appearance or aroma of urine, nor did they stain the lady's toga.

In the first century, the Greek Hippocratic "Father of Medicine" Galen, described the "fluid in the female prostate" as thinner than in males. In the 1500's, the Italian anatomist and surgeon Realdo Colombo, who claimed to have discovered the clitoris which he called "the sweetness of Venus," wrote about female fluid "rushing out" and "coming in one gush" from a woman in a state of sexual excitement. The first modern description of female ejaculation came from the Netherlands, which is not so surprising as the Dutch have long been open-minded about sex. In the 17th century, Dr. Regnier DeGraaf wrote about the urethra being pierced by ducts through which fluids are discharged, "occasionally in large quantities." In 1880, Dr. Alexander Skene found two glands in the urethra that emit prostate fluid. These are now called the Skene's glands.

In the 1940s, American gynecologist Dr. Arnold Kegal discovered that if a woman has a strong PC, she is less likely to suffer from urinary incontinence. Just in case you don't know, the PC is not politically correct (on the contrary!), nor is it a personal computer. The PC is the pubococcygeus, also known as the "sex muscle," right between the genitals and the anus. This is the muscle you squeeze to stop yourself from peeing. Both men and women have PC muscles, and both benefit from squeezing and releasing them in what's known as a Kegel exercise. Whatever your gender or genitalia, squeezing and releasing your PC muscle helps you to have bigger, stronger orgasm with and without squirting.

In 1950, a German obstetrician, Dr. Ernest Grafenberg found a very sensitive spot inside the vagina which he immediately named after himself: the G-spot, handily located just an inch or so up from the entrance on the side of the vagina closest to a woman's abdomen. Dr. Grafenberg found that stimulation of the G-spot could lead to expulsion of fluid from the urethra. "Large quantities of a clear, transparent fluid expelled not from the vulva, but out of the urethra in gushes," gushed Dr. G. "At first, I thought that the bladder sphincter had become defective by the intensity of the orgasm. But," he continued, "the fluid was examined and it had no urinary character (rather it was) secretions of the intra-urethral glands correlated with the erotogenic zone along the urethra in the anterior vaginal wall." Sounds like Mrs. G was a gusher."

Despite Dr. G's discoveries, G-spot fever didn't take hold of 1950s Western society. Even the sex-positive feminists of the sexual revolution of the 1960s and 70s pretty much ignored it. Feminists proclaimed women's essential equality with men in and out of the bedroom, but somehow missed the fact that a woman can squirt like a man, sometimes with even greater force. Most women who did ejaculate were quiet about it, often mistaking it for urination.

In the 1980s, the bestselling book The G-Spot by Dr. Alice Kahn Ladas, Dr. Beverly Whipple and Dr. John Perry, broke through the dykes, and a wealth of information about women's sexuality, including G-spot orgasm and female ejaculation, gushed forth. Since the 1990's, several studies have been done by Perry and Whipple, as well as Dr. Milan Zaviacic, Dr. Gary Schubach and Dr. Cabello Santamaria, regarding the liquid expelled during female ejaculation to determine the chemical makeup. According to Wikipedia, the expelled fluid has been found to contain fructose and sucrose, two natural forms of sugar. It also includes very low levels of creatinine and urea (the two primary chemical components of urine, found in high levels in pre- and post-ejaculatory urinalysis). Most interestingly, it contains prostate-specific antigen (PSA), the fluid produced by males in the prostate gland, which forms the base of male ejaculate. In females, it is generated by the Skene's glands which are located in the G-spot. That's why some people, including world-renowned FE expert Deborah Sundahl, author of Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot, and featured in BlockFilms' award-winning DVD Dr. Suzy's Squirt Salon(s), call the G-spot the "female prostate."

In Eastern history, female ejaculation and the G-spot have long been recognized as important aspects of normal female sexuality. Tantric sex practitioners often refer to the G-spot as the Goddess Spot or sacred spot. They call the fluid "amrita," the nectar of the gods. The Kama Sutra is almost certainly referring to female ejaculation when it says "The semen of women continues to fall from the beginning of the sexual union to its end." Images of women ejaculating are carved into Buddhist and Hindu temples, along with other erotic sculptures. Japanese woodcuts show women squirting into bowls in ecstasy. Many East Asian men and women drank female ejaculate for its supposed aphrodisiac and rejuvenating qualities.

A Storm of Controversy

Despite the scientific evidence, the medical establishment has long been extremely dubious about female ejaculation. Over the years, the subject of G-spot female ejaculation has stimulated a veritable thunderstorm of debate among sex researchers, doctors, sex educators, porn stars, lovers, husbands and wives. Detractors insist that there is no G-spot, that women who squirt during orgasm are just peeing while they're coming, and all this hoopla over G-spot female ejaculation is nothing but a glorified golden shower.

But those of us who have experienced the power and glory of G-spot female ejaculation - giving or receiving - know that it exists. This is not a matter of faith; this is the science of sex. Squirting orgasms have been documented, researched and chemically analyzed. In that regard, my own experience, as well as my video-study in female ejaculation, Dr. Suzy's Squirt Salon(s) provided me with extremely strong evidence. Too bad film isn't something you can scratch and sniff, because then you would know that it doesn't smell like urine! But the pleasure and power of female ejaculation do come across onscreen. You can see it, you can hear, and you feel it. And it feels good.

This *feel-good* aspect of squirting is perhaps another reason that the naysayers have held sway over the years. Female ejaculation is a pure recreational pleasure that has no apparent direct role in procreation, except that women who squirt may, over the millennia, have procreated more, simply because we tend to enjoy sex more.

Skepticism about squirting goes from the lab to the bedroom. On one of the Squirt Salons, Rebecca, a part-Native American (Cherokee) woman called in from South Dakota. She had no trouble squirting; she'd been doing it almost all of her adult life and loved it. Her problem was getting her new boyfriend to enjoy it with her. In fact, he didn't even believe that it was real. He accused her of peeing on him, implying that she was being rude. My guest expert Deborah Sundahl and I tried to help Rebecca to navigate the challenges of sharing the pleasures of female ejaculation with a skeptical lover. First, do the smell test; comparing the aroma of female ejaculate with that of urine. Next, let him read the scientific literature on the subject.

In 2002, Dr. Emmanuele Jannini of Italy's L'Aquila University conducted a study that found that the Skene's gland openings vary in size from one woman to another, and some women appear not to have them at all. If Skene's glands do cause female ejaculation, this may explain why some women can do it profusely, while others can't at all, or just produce a little spurt (though a little spurt can feel mighty good!). According to other studies conducted by Dr. Cabello Santamaria, the phenomenon of "retrograde female ejaculation," where the fluid travels up the urethra towards the bladder, could also explain why many ladies can't or simply don't squirt. Many women, when they learn to ejaculate, realize that they have squirted in the past, but they haven't known what it was. Many have ejaculated into the toilet during or immediately after sex, assuming, of course, that they were peeing.

Female ejaculation is by no means "necessary" for female sexual pleasure. But it is a healthy, normal, natural feminine experience that some women have without even trying. But just because it's "natural" doesn't mean any woman can do it without help. Just as many women (like me), needed to learn how to have a *regular* orgasm, most of us need to learn how to ejaculate. We need to learn a combination of technique and relaxation. And guys who are interested need to learn how to help, if they really want to help.

Learning How to Squirt

Female Ejaculation is an everyday miracle. Just about every normal woman has the anatomy for it, but most don't do it. Moreover, the practice is veiled in mystery. Some porn films show it, but they don't explain what it is or how to do it. Sometimes they even use misleading tricks, like filling the woman's vagina with water that she then squirts out for the camera. Some sex education videos and books explain female ejaculation in much the same way that this essay tries to do, but they don't show it very well. Granted, it is difficult to explain. Thus, over the years, I have tried to create my own videos and literature that shows this process as clearly, and with us much fun and erotic delight, as possible.

I first heard the term "G-spot female ejaculation" from Deborah Sundahl back in 1992 at a Lifestyles Convention, having wandered into her seminar quite by accident. I had never heard of such a thing as women having "squirting" orgasms, at least not on purpose. Neither had anyone else in the seminar. It was something "new" and very exciting, but rather confusing and seemed way out of my personal realm-of-possibility, especially in a seminar like this, where we were sitting in rows of chairs as if we were in a biology class. I found Deborah to be quite charming and knowledgeable, and interviewed her on my show a couple of times, but didn't get an intimate lesson in squirting from her until 12 years later! In the meantime, I would encounter a slightly different approach to the art and science of female ejaculation.

The Braun Method

Years passed, and I didn't give much thought to female ejaculation until I met one of the most prominent, prolific, "hands-on" (and fingers in) modern crusaders for G-spot female ejaculation, Axel "The G-Man" Braun. Axel (now an award-winning director) is the handsome, nimble-fingered son of renowned Italian sex pioneer and filmmaker Lasse Braun. The elder Braun, an old friend of mine (now dearly departed), had written a booklet, The Nectar of Aphrodite, a sort of G-Spot Female Ejaculation Manifesto based upon his personal research into the phenomenon with 130 different women. Braun the Younger took his father's work into the next generation of ejaculation.

Axel has long boasted that he can "make any woman squirt." He almost lives up to his grandiose claim, having succeeded with 12 out of 15 of the women on whom he's tried his method at the Dr. Susan Block Institute, most notably the vivacious and juicy Shayna Knight. As for the other three: One was deadset against squirting at all; she wanted to prove him wrong, and she did. Another was sick with a 102 degree fever (on another occasion, when she was well, she did squirt). The third admitted that she was too worried about what her jealous boyfriend would think to relax and let anything happen. The other 12, myself among them, all squirted with Axel, even though we'd never squirted before.

The "Braun Method" is all in the finger action. It begins with the woman lying back, legs spread open, her partner (let's call him the "G-Man";) at her right side, if he is right-handed. After some sort of foreplay (kissing, oral sex, nipple play, rubbing the clitoris and labia, whatever gets her wet), the G-Man inserts two fingers into her vagina. Axel uses his middle and ring fingers for this, though you might prefer to use your middle and forefingers. Slowly, the G-Man moves his two fingers around inside of her, continuing the foreplay - rubbing her clit, playing with her nipples, lightly spanking her butt, etc. With probing fingers, he locates her G-Spot. He can feel it as a slightly raised, spongy, ridged bump on the "roof" of the vaginal cave. In most women, it is just behind the clitoris, and some experts consider it to be an extension of the clitoris. He then finds the center of this spot, pressing it gently but firmly. This pressure releases a warm flow of fluid, whereupon the G-Man begins vigorously "fingering" her, in and out of her vaginal opening, causing the rapid expulsion of fluid. That is, female ejaculation.

The first time Axel made me squirt was New Year's 2000. Talk about toasting the New Millennium with my own Cristal Ejaculate! I'd just done a New Year's show, plus received a particularly good whipping from Axel's Daddy Lasse on Mario Saucedo's Bondage Cross, and sat down and up a few times on Mario's Dildo Chair. All that wild "foreplay" mixed with a few flutes of champagne got me loosened and lubricated for adventure. While Lasse was whipping me, Axel was whispering into my ear that he wanted to make me squirt.

I'd seen several women ejaculate - Deborah, Kiss, Annie Sprinkle and Carol Queen, to name a few - but I'd never been able to do it myself, not that I'd really tried. I was also one of those skeptics who wondered if it wasn't just peeing while you're coming. Not that there's anything wrong with a nice golden shower, but well, that's just peeing.

But Axel and Lasse both, each commandeering one of my ears, promised me it wasn't just peeing. Moreover, Axel insisted he could make me squirt without my knowing how to do a thing. As soon as I agreed, Axel disappeared into the bathroom to wash up. Emerging with sleeves rolled up and hands raised, he looked like a surgeon about to operate, or a magician showing he had nothing up his sleeve.

Just to prove to myself that it wasn't urine, I took a nice long whiz right before sitting down with Axel. As I was already highly aroused and very wet thanks to all that whipping and whispering, Axel didn't have to do much in the way of foreplay. He slid his middle and ring fingers easily between my inner labia and into my vagina and immediately began probing around for my G-Spot. Once he located the raised spongy spot under the roof of my vaginal cave, he pressed it gently yet firmly. I felt a slight pinprick sensation, followed by a gushing feeling in my womb, at which point Axel began his dynamic forceful fingering technique. In and out, in and out. I felt like I was blacking out, but I could hear the oohing and ahhing of spectators around me. Actually, I felt kind of like a human washing machine (in a good way!) on rinse cycle. My eyes were closed, so I couldn't see myself squirt, but when I was done, everyone assured me that I had, indeed, ejaculated. I also noticed that Axel's arm and the towel I sat on, as well as the sofa under it, were soaked with my bountiful juices. Later, I looked at the video. Yes, indeed, there I was, squirting like a burst water pipe.

These juices did not smell like pee. They smelled like pussy.

As for the orgasm itself, it was intense, a little bit painful, and exhilarating like a roller coaster ride, leaving me breathless, dizzy and more than a little worn out. A few minutes afterwards, I found myself feeling hornier than usual and wound up having a lot of wild wet sex that night. No more squirting, but some of my deepest, longest, juiciest orgasms ever.

From 2000-2004, I experienced G-spot female ejaculation about a half dozen more times, all with the G-Man, a frequent guest at my Speakeasy. Though I couldn't yet squirt with my husband or other sexual partners, I noticed that my regular orgasms became stronger, longer and more frequent than ever, and I seemed to lubricate more easily and copiously than before.

Ivona's Way

During this time, I met Ivona Diamond. When Ivona came to the Dr. Susan Block Institute, she had never squirted before. One night after the show, Axel asked her if she'd like to try it. Ivona's boyfriend Larry went down on her as I played with her nipples. Then she let Axel's fingers do the walking, using the Braun Method to make her ejaculate forcefully within about 10 minutes. Ivona is a very sensuous, adventurous woman. So no one was too surprised when she let loose and squirted up a small tropical storm. Still it was a baptismal sexual revelation. Soon Ivona became a Squirting Star. She squirted for me at my birthday party and at the first show on my broadcast bed at a new building of ours. Just as they christen a new ship with champagne, we uncorked our own personal Sex Bubbly to kick off a new era for the show in our beautiful virgin space. She squirted on her own birthday and for Halloween. She squirts regularly at home too.

Ivona still enjoys G-spot female ejaculation according to the Braun Method, which Larry mastered along with oral sex. But Ivona taught herself to squirt quite profusely with no fingering at all. With nothing but the firm pressure of her favorite plug-in vibrator, Mr. Hitachi, on her clitoris, labia and pushed-out G-Spot, Ivona can spray like a turbo-charged sprinkler system in a matter of seconds.

How does she do it? Goddess only knows, but she does it almost every time. Some women are squirting naturals; they do it without even trying. In fact, if they haven't been educated about female ejaculation or if they have ignorant lovers, they may even be embarrassed about it, though, of course, they shouldn't be. Ivona's not exactly a natural. She didn't start squirting until the G-Man pressed her button. But she does practice and, at this point, she can pretty much squirt on command. Here's her essential routine: She lies down, head propped against pillows, legs bent and spread wide, buns raised up slightly off the bed. She lubricates her sizeable clitoris and abundant inner labia with her saliva (or Larry's), then pulls those big wet butterfly lips open, placing Mr. Hitachi's head right under her clitoris and over her spread labia. Then she presses Mr. Hitachi down, turning him on high speed, raising her butt, breathing deep, squeezing and releasing her kegel or pubococcygeous (PC) muscles and gently but firmly pushing out her G-spot so that it is stimulated by Mr. Hitachi. After a minute or two, or maybe at the most, three, her eyes squeeze shut and a high-pitched moan emerges from her throat. A second or two later, the geyser erupts. It lasts up to five seconds. The amount of ejaculate that she releases ranges from not much more than a sparkly spritz of pussy perfume to a dazzling, gushing tsunami of amrita. Her secret? Practice, she says. Also, she says it's easier to for her to squirt a lot when she hasn't done it for a couple of weeks. Just like guys.

Annie Body: Squirting Superstar

Most of us can only squirt once or twice in a session. Some women are squirters unlimited. Take the amazing Annie Body who made her first appearance on my show in February, 2002. It was a low-key night with no other guests and no studio audience. Just me, my staff and Annie. Ms. Body, with her horn-rimmed glasses, naturally faded jeans and form-fitting lavender and purple toe socks, looked more like a college biology major than the porn star she is. Little did I know that this sweet, petite, slightly nerdy-looking young lady would turn out to be one of my hottest, wettest, wildest guests ever, and I'd discover exciting aspects of female biology I'd never witnessed before.

At first, Annie just bounced around like a sexual puppy, licking me everywhere and doing it doggystyle with her friend AIN's Steve Nelson. But it wasn't long before we witnessed a rather remarkable aspect of Annie's body. That is, when Steve gently but firmly slapped her clitoris and swollen labia with his penis, she started squirting profusely. Wow! What a splash! I'd never seen a woman emit so much fluid! Steve could only cock-slap for so long, but Annie kept on squirting, like a backyard sprinkler. Then she let me do it. I'd never before made a woman squirt by my own hand! But I had no trouble making Annie squirt, spray, ejaculate and come like the Trevi Fountain over and over again, just by lightly slapping her engorged vulva.. I must admit it was a thrill, and I gave Annie a big hug and kiss for making it so easy for me.. She was ecstatic because, she said, this was only the second time she'd squirted in her life! I wasn't sure what to make of that. But I felt this was indeed a very special occasion. All that squirting made Annie thirsty. She took a long slurp of ice water and spit it out, reminding me of how much squirting is like spitting. Her saliva traveled across the bed like a cruise missile, hitting Steve in just the right spot. Then she went, lickety-spit to lick up her spit, and wound up giving him a very nice blowjob.

That, of course, is another story. I didn't see Annie again until 2004 when she came back to squirt even more voluminously on several shows in succession, including "Bonobos and Missionaries in the Squirting Pussy Rainforest," "Faith-Based Sex," "Dommes & Hollie" and "Future Sex." That last show featured another female ejaculator, Avy Lee Roth (80s rock star David Lee Roth's porn star daughter), who had squirted once on another one of my shows, "Latina Orgasmical" while singing "Girl You Got Me" along with her dad. Squirting is so rock 'n roll.

The Sundahl Method

But the most important session of female ejaculation we've ever had here at the Institute would have to be the long, erotic, highly educational, soaking wet night we call Dr. Suzy's Squirt Salon(s). It was indeed a baptismal sexual revelation. My featured guest was noted FE expert Deborah Sundahl. Deborah stayed over at the Institute for a few days before the show. While she was here, I read her book Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot. One afternoon, I went up to the roof to do my usual yoga exercises, and I brought the book and a little hand mirror with me. There I was all alone with a panoramic view of Los Angeles, a towel, a pussy mirror, and this book on how to squirt. Sometimes I get aroused from just going through various yoga positions, and this was one of those times. I picked up the book and reread the parts with directions on how to squirt.

Learning about sex from books isn't for everybody. But books have always helped me with my own sexuality. I learned how to have my first orgasm from Betty Dodson's Sex for One (then entitled Liberating Masturbation). That afternoon, I learned how to female ejaculate on my own from Deborah's book. Of course, the book is much more detailed than this essay, and I highly recommend it if you're interested in learning to squirt. But here's essentially what I did: First, I urinated downstairs before I went up on the roof. Then I found my private spot, spread out my towel and did about 30 minutes of slow sensuous yoga, breathing deeply, squeezing and releasing my PC muscles, concentrating on the pleasurable feelings in my body in general and my genitalia in particular. Next, I licked my fingers, and stuck my hands in my panties (I didn't feel quite certain enough that I wouldn't be seen to get completely naked. I rubbed my now juicy clitoris until I was very excited but not orgasming. Then, I stuck my index finger inside my vagina, crooking it into the "come hither" position, and rubbed and pressed my G-spot, feeling the ridges on the bump just an inch up from the entrance.

I took my time. I didn't try to ejaculate, didn't really expect to ejaculate. I just focused on the pleasurable feelings in my G-spot. I felt it growing, swelling, enlarging against my finger. As Deborah's book suggested, I let it build and grow bigger and fuller. Every so often, I'd stop and breathe deep, and on the out-breath, I pushed as if I was going to pee, but I didn't pee. I just pushed out my G-Spot, so it was practically outside my labia. Sometimes it felt as if my G-spot was ballooning out on its own.

Deborah cautions against pushing too hard and straining yourself. But I found that pushing out slowly and gently did lead me to squirt. That's right, I had my very first self-propelled female ejaculation experience, with Deborah's book in one hand as my other hand rubbed and pressed my G-spot. I first felt it on my finger, then I pulled out my finger along with a stream of hot flowing ejaculate that wound up soaking my panties, the towel and the book, and seemed to make the police helicopter circling above me screech to a halt in the sky. I sniffed my soaked panties and was pleased to find them smelling very faintly of flowers, certainly not of urine. I floated blissfully on my wet towel under the clouds for who knows how long. Then I ran downstairs to show Deborah who sniffed my panties and squealed with delight. "Congratulations, Suzy, you ejaculated!"

Leila's Tantric Ejaculation

The next night, I held the Squirt Salon(s) with Deborah, Annie and a lovely lady named Leila Swan, whom I dubbed the "Missionary of Squirting," since she hails from an Evangelical Christian background. Leila's father was a preacher who baptized people in the river; now she baptizes her lovers with ejaculate. Leila told the story of how she left her home on a farm, went to Hawaii and got involved in Tantric sex, awakened her ability to ejaculate. It's not surprising that the techniques of Tantra, including deep breathing, PC muscle exercise, extended attention to female pleasure and male self-control, and maximizing a woman's orgasmic potential, would sometimes result in female ejaculation.

After Leila's story, a young lady named Maria called in on the show from the San Fernando Valley and told us that she was a squirter who had never been with another woman, and she could stop fantasizing about that. As Maria masturbated, I wove a story out of the reality of four hot women getting ready to squirt all over each other in her bed. Maria moaned and said she ejaculated. Next Richard called in from West LA, and asked for help in finding the G-spot. At this point, Deborah gave Richard - and the audience - a detailed, very close-up, anatomy lesson in how to find the G-spot, using Leila's beautiful G-Spot as a model. I invited our cameras to go "spelunking" into Leila's vaginal cave. Deborah said that never before had the G-spot been shown in such intimate, close-up detail. Then, she located Annie's G-spot. Finding it was so stimulating that Annie gave Deborah a very wet surprise! Just being a diagram made her squirt!

Then Ken called in from Texas, and told the story of his first-time experience with a woman who ejaculated. He asked what shape penis is best for getting a woman to squirt. Deborah explained that it didn't really matter because even the light touch of a finger can get a girl to ejaculate, as she had just demonstrated with Annie. But Annie and Leila insisted that a curved cock is best for *hitting the spot.* All this talk about cocks and curves got Annie very excited, so she spread out an American flag towel, sat down on it with her legs spread wide, started fingering her G-spot and slapping her clitoris, and before we could say, Tidal wave!" she was squirting up a storm, a flowing Fountain of Venus.. Soon, everyone was covered in ejaculate.

"You want to get fucked really hard," Deborah said to Annie.

"You want to fuck me?" Annie challenged the teacher.

Deborah accepted the challenge and proceeded to use her strong, skilled fingers to give Annie several more astounding ejaculatory orgasms, all the while explaining exactly what she is doing for the benefit of the audience. Then Annie squirted into a glass bowl, and I poured the ejaculate into a champagne flute, which we all passed around, sniffed and even sipped. Everyone agreed that the liquid looked, tasted and smelled nothing like urine. Trying to describe it was difficult though, like explaining fine wine!

To top off her performance, Annie fisted herself! Then she ran off to get her strap-on, and Leila assumed center stage to demonstrate the art and science of female ejaculation with toys, using a curved G-Spot Stimulator Magic Wand and a small vibrating egg.

Leila's ejaculate was not as forceful as Annie's, but just as beautiful, a bit lighter and more delicate in delivery, but almost as profuse. Leila squirts more than a bowlful, and we poured her nectar into another champagne flute, sipped and compared it with Annie's. Then Leila's lover, Big D, entered the scene, showing his sexual mettle by taking a large swig of Leila's ejaculate from the champagne flute and smacking his lips with pleasure. Since Big D was wearing a skirt (well, a kilt), I assumed he wanted someone to lift it. So I did, only to find out just why he is called Big D. Leila proceeded to give him expert, loving fellatio, as Johnny from Hollywood called in, eager to see my G-spot...

I wasn't quite ready for that, so I took a call from Joyce in Iowa. Joyce boasted about her ability to squirt six feet, then proceeded to masturbate quite audibly as Leila rode Big D's big dick, bringing both Joyce and Leila to fantastic squirting orgasms. Then Mike called in from New York with statistical questions like "How much can a woman squirt?" which Deborah tried to answer as best as she could, with a veritable orgy going on around us. As Leila turned and rode Big D reverse-cowgirl style, we took another close-up look at Leila's G-spot. After all that riding and squirting, Leila's G-spot was more than twice the size it was before! It was so big and expressive; it seemed to speak to us. I called it "Pussy Talk," a show within the show.

After a little cartoony Pussy Talk, we went to a deeper level, discussing the profound emotional aspects of the G-spot, the "Gateway to Higher Love." Then it was Deborah's turn. She showed her own G-spot to one of my cameras, as Annie and our other camera went out into the studio audience, finding couples and threesomes inspired to make love by all the exhilarating ejaculation action on the bed.

I Squirt with Deborah

Then Deborah offered to help me find my G-spot. This seemed like a fun idea. I had, of course, found it with my fingers many times, and gotten a glimpse of it in the mirror when I was on the roof. However, I'd never before seen it bigger than life on a television monitor. This would be very cool. But first I had to pee. After all, the Squirt Salon is a pretty long, intimate show with no breaks. So I decided to pee right on camera into a "pee pot" that we keep handy for such occasions. Since I was in the mood for making a statement, I grabbed a photoshopped photo of our President giving me head and stuck it into the pot. Then I "Peed on Bush," releasing a stream of my political frustration along with my golden showers. Annie and Kim also peed on Bush. With this, it was apparent to all that our pee was very different from the ejaculate. It was yellow, smelled strongly of urine and had a noticeably thinner texture than the female ejaculate.

Then it was time for my own G-Spot Revelation. I leaned back against the pillows, opened my legs, breathed deep and pushed out as Deborah stimulated my G-spot with her forefinger. She rubbed it very slowly, telling me to relax, not an easy thing for me to do while I'm hosting a show. Of course, I had relaxed and ejaculated on the roof the day before. But I'd been alone and had plenty of time. Now I had an audience, including cameras. Of course, I'd done it on the show with Axel several times in the past. But he had really done all the "work." It didn't matter what I did; he just whipped the ejaculate right out of me. According to the Sundahl Method, I am more in control of my own ejaculation. So I had to really relax and feel the pleasure. To accomplish that, I imagined I was at the beach with waves crashing between my thighs. I closed my eyes, trying to forget the cameras and the audience. I breathed deep, and pushed out, feeling the pleasurable sensations of Deborah's finger gently rubbing my most intimate swelling spot, and then the next thing I knew, I was ejaculating ~ twice! What a surprise! I was speechless...for about a minute.

Then I called for champagne, and all the Squirting Stars came together for a giddy, Dionysian celebration, kind of a cross between a women's consciousness-raising group and a drunken orgy. I was on a roll. With Deborah's help, I ejaculated a third time. An erotic "After-Party" followed with masked dancing and more squirting hot sex. With Annie's help, I ejaculated a fourth time. The evening climaxed, fittingly enough, with Big D climaxing, providing a nice reminder that men squirt too! Praise the Lord and the Lady. We are all loving, squirting beings.

Since the night of the Squirt Salon(s), I've drenched many towels in squirting sex with my husband. I've also hosted other wet shows, including Faith-Based Sex, Squirt Crazy, Dommes & Hollie, Spring Showers, and Double-Annie Squirting Anniversary which featured 21-year-old Squirting Star Annie Cruz, as well as our beloved Rainforest Princess Annie Body.

Can You Learn to Squirt?

So, can you learn to squirt? Yes, you can! But will you? To some degree, it's up to you. As with any kind of learning, the first thing you need is motivation. Some, maybe most, women are just not motivated to do this, and that's fine. Female ejaculation is optional. You certainly don't have to ejaculate to be a happy, healthy, orgasmic, sexual woman. Some women aren't interested. Some just don't have the time. When you're worried about where your next meal is coming from, squirting is not at the top of your list of things to do. For some, it's "against their religion," which says only men should wear the pants and do the squirting in the family. Some women think men don't like it. Fact is that some men do; some don't. The ones that do tend to be the kind that really enjoy and seek out women's pleasure, and aren't too fussy about getting soaked with a splash of amrita.

Speaking of which, there are practical issues. Some women don't like sleeping on wet sheets. I confess this to be one of my own problems with squirting regularly. This is one reason why I, like so many women, tend to hold back from ejaculating during sex; then, at a certain point, I tell my lover, "I gotta go pee," then run into the bathroom and squirt into the toilet. Yes, the mess is an issue. Female ejaculate doesn't stain, but it does tend to soak everything within a 1-6 foot radius; just think of spilling a glass of water in bed. You can put a towel down, but a really good squirt soaks right through the towel. Best to do it in the bath, on a nice clean floor, on the roof, or best of all, in a bed you won't be sleeping in that night.

Face it, G-spot female ejaculation is one of those decadent pleasures, like fresh oysters, that require the right circumstances and preparation, as well as post-pleasure clean-up. Is it worth it? Well, aren't fresh oysters worth it, at least occasionally? Yes, they can be bitches to crack open, but if you succeed, you have yourself a real treat. So, isn't reaching a new height in sexual pleasure worth a little effort? I think so. But then, I love fresh oysters. At least, occasionally.

Once you've got the motivation, you might find yourself squirting like a sprinkler system with just a little concentration and some good G-spot rubbing sex. More likely, you'll need some instruction, which you can obtain through books, videos, the personal touch, whatever works for you. Then again, maybe this little essay is enough to get you going, or perhaps you need to read Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot and/or watch the Squirt Salon(s) or another show or clip on the subject. Some of you may need more instruction than others. Some of you may have psychological or physiological *learning disabilities* that plug up your porthole, so to speak. Don't be discouraged. If you really want to squirt, eventually you probably will. Most of us hold it back for myriad reasons, good and bad, crazy and sane, conscious and unconscious. But we can all squirt. Remember: the human body is about 75 per cent H2O. It's just a question of letting a little out.

Yes, indeed, Brothers & Sisters, Lovers & Sinners. Let the holy water shoot forth! Squirt Bombs produce Shock and Awe with Zero Casualties. Squirt for joy! Squirt for peace. Flood the world with pleasure. Cover the earth in cum. At least, occasionally...

Addendum (May 2015): Since I wrote this essay over 10 years ago, I've squirted hundreds of times. I've also helped dozens of women to squirt, some for the first time. Others are Squirting Stars, like Deauxma, Eden Alexander, Rainey Lain, Kartier, Vicky Vixen, Alexandra Silk and many more. During this time, several naysayers have said denied the existence of female ejaculation, as well as the G-Spot itself, citing specious, sloppy studies and fluid-phobic old wives' tales. But many others, including myself, have defended the reality of the G-Spot and squirting, with eloquence, experience and science. So... let the rivers flow and the geysers shoot! Don't be afraid... it's Holy Water, Brothers and Sisters!

 

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