by Dr. Susan Block

“Am I gay?” wonders Jo.

A 34-year-old woman who loves men, Jo can only orgasm when thinking about women, and only from oral sex (not intercourse). So, Jo calls me to help her sort it all out, and Oh-My-Goddess, do we!

Do YOU ever have fantasies that you don’t really want to act out, but nothing makes you climax like these taboo desires, so you wonder… should you act on them?

This is Jo’s dilemma. When she has sex with a man, she can only experience orgasm when he gives her oral pleasure, and as he does that, she imagines that her male lover is a woman.

“Does that mean I’m gay?” she asks me.

It’s a simple enough question, but complicated by Jo’s conflicted feelings. Does she *really* want to be with women, or is she enticed by the “forbidden” qualities of lesbian sex, flavored by her devout “Christian” upbringing? When should a fantasy become reality… if ever?

Is Jo simply bisexual? Bi-curious? Or does she really crave “making love to herself” – which appears as same-sex love in the erotic theater of her mind?  Is that the hidden meaning of Jo’s bi oral desires? Could real-life, shame-free self-pleasure help Jo discover her deepest orgasmic potential? Watch this riveting Sex Calls clip – featuring me, Jo and my slinky snake Eve – and find out!

“Bi Oral Desires” is a vintage clip from the “SEX CALLS” broadcast archives of The Dr. Susan Block Show (circa 1998). This is NOT a call with actual therapy clients; those are absolutely private and confidential. This is a caller on our Saturday night live show. For more information, call us at 626.461.5950. For current shows and other events, visit us at http://drsusanblock.com.

Have a question about bisexuality, oral pleasure or solo sex? Or is there something else you need to talk about that you can’t talk about anywhere else? Experience Phone Sex Therapy. Call the Therapists Without Borders of the Dr. Susan Block Institute anytime: 213-291-9497. We’re here for you.