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Bisexual Monogamy

With Dr. Susan Block

Internationally renowned Sexologist Dr. Susan Block talks about “Bisexual Monogamy” with Alex and Mark, a young woman and man in love, both of them bisexual, yet struggling with his desire to be monogamous and hers to be free to explore other women and even threesomes.

Subjects of discussion include relationships, bisexuality, monogamy, nonmonogamy, ethical hedonism, physical attraction, emotional commitment, self-pleasure and teaching your partner how to please you: “You can give pleasure by giving freedom to be with other people,” says Dr. Block. Also intercourse vs. outercourse and orgasm repression: “It seems that you don’t want to close off your options,” Dr. Block determines, “so you close off your orgasm.”

“Bisexual Monogamy” is a vintage clip from the “SEX CALLS” broadcast archives of The Dr. Susan Block Show (circa 1998). This is NOT a call with actual therapy clients; those are absolutely private and confidential. This is a caller on Dr. Block’s Saturday night live show. For more information, call us at 626.461.5950. For current shows and other events, visit us at http://drsusanblock.com.

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MASKS are SEXY!

Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth. – Oscar Wilde

by Dr. Susan Block.

As the Coronapocalypse continues to rage, with public spaces opening up, closing down and then opening back up again, you might have a couple questions about masks…

  1. Should you wear a mask?

Answer: Whether or not you wear a mask is up to you, just like whether or not you wear pants is up to you. You don’t have to do either, but there are consequences.

In the case of no pants, you could get kicked out of places, arrested and/or catch cold. In the case of no mask, you could also suffer all of the above, except instead of just a cold, you could catch Covid-19.

Or you might give it to someone. Maybe someone you care about.

So, personally, I join with the countless scientists and other experts who say YES, you certainly *should* wear a mask when you are closer than ten feet to any breathing human with whom you’re not sheltering, especially if you’re indoors.

But don’t panic! This is not a life sentence. At least, I hope it isn’t. However, better a life sentence than a death sentence.

Your Nurse is here to help you see how sexy a well-designed face mask can be.

Lucky for all of us, vaccinations appear to be going pretty well. At first, they were rolling out with the speed and focus of an inebriated elephant threading a needle. But every day, more and more people are getting vaccinated. I received mine, and as soon as you can, you should get yours!

So, there’s hope. Keep in mind that a few years after the deadly, masked-up Influenza of 1918, the world exploded into the sexy, mask-free Roaring Twenties—with hot flappers, cool jazz and wild “speakeasies.”  So, stay positive!

But be realistic.  The death count is over 500,000 and rising, and new Coronavirus strains are continuing to emerge.

Whatever the future holds, if you want to keep yourself and others relatively safe right now, even if you’re vaccinated, you have to cover that kissable mouth and adorable nose of yours with something. Or maybe two somethings. The experts are now encouraging double masking.

That said, I can’t *make* you wear a face mask (let alone two), even via strict domination combined with erotic hypnosis using your favorite fetish as a trigger word. However, stores, take-out restaurants and other establishments have every right to require that you wear a mask within their walls.

That means you either 1) insist on your right to bare your cheeks while the staff (or security cam) films you, making a fool of your totally exposed (and probably bright red) face all over social media, or 2) you do the right thing and wear a damn mask.

Need to talk about masking up, navigating your sex life, relationships, fantasies and realities during the Coronapocalypse? Call the Therapists Without Borders of the Dr. Susan Block Institute anytime: 213.291.9497. We’re here for you.

Comfort Is Sexy

Having dispensed with Question #1, let’s move on to…

#2: Now that you know you ought to wear a damn mask, how can you make it more fun? With face coverings as “essential” an article of clothing as shoes or underwear (nothing against going commando, but you get the idea), how can you make them more comfortable, cool, effective and most important, SEXY?

Sexy? Say what? Thanks to their practical function, it’s hard for most of us to imagine face masks as something fun, let alone sexy.

But the Coronapocalypse has already drained so many pleasures from life; we need to find them wherever we can. So, why not in our face masks? As a sexologist, I believe it’s important to our sexual health and well-being to make masks sexier.

I for one never look at a guy in a mask and think, “What a weakling! I bet he’s really bad in bed.”

Start with comfort, which is a key to feeling and looking sexy. Let’s be honest: Masks aren’t always comfortable. This is why many people won’t wear them, and the politics is just “patriotic” window-dressing for their feelings. Privileged individuals especially, accustomed to getting their way in life, feel their personal physical comfort to be a top priority, usurping even their own safety, as well as the safety of others.

It’s amazing how many people who wiggle themselves into skyscraper heels or strangling neckties find facemasks unbearably uncomfortable. Fortunately, some very creative people are designing more and more comfy coverings, so perhaps the comfort cravers will soon be satisfied. And it’s a step towards making masks sexy!

Personal Note: Though masks may be uncomfortable, they’re far less uncomfortable than a ventilator. Believe me; I’ve been on one.

Triggered by Masks

“Nothing is more real than the masks we make to show each other who we are.” – Christopher Barzak

For many people, mask mania is more emotional than physical. Some feel *triggered* by masks because they’ve heard (possibly from a certain former U.S. President) that they represent a terrible infringement on their *freedom.*

Hooded U.S. Prisoner tortured in Abu Ghraib, Iraq, 2004. Unlike a face mask, you can’t see through a hood.

It’s true that many societies throughout history have made prisoners wear inhuman “masks of shame” and hoods, like those detainees have been forced to wear in Abu Ghraib, Guantanamo and other military prisons. So, these fears of forced masking are not totally baseless, though they have been warped to fit certain political agendas.

Just remember folks, we’re not prisoners of war here! We’re in a pandemic, and we’re being asked to cover our mouths and noses to protect ourselves and our neighbors, not to punish or imprison us.

Another twisted notion is that wearing a mask makes someone appear “weak.” In reality, caring for the health and well-being of others is anything but “weak.” I for one never look at a guy in a mask and think, “What a weakling! I bet he’s really bad in bed.”

However, belief can be a powerful force, even if it’s wrong, unscientific and has more to do with fear and fantasy than reality.

 

Concerned about being “weak,” cuckolded or “measuring up” in some way? Need to talk about it with someone you can trust?  Call the Therapists Without Borders of the Dr. Susan Block Institute anytime: 213.291.9497. We’re here to help.

What Do People Think of You?

Behind every mask there is a face, and behind that a story. – Marty Rubin

For some, anti-mask fervor arises from peer pressure; the people in your family, team, neighborhood, political party or religious group actively despise liberals, “political correctness,” socialism and masks, so you do too.

Then, sprinkle a little physical discomfort with that fear of weakness, stirred up within a fervent anti-mask cult that believes the earth is flat, the election was “stolen,” vaccines are the mark of the beast and masks are a government plot to “muzzle” the populace, and the next thing you know you’re storming a shopping mall, demanding your “right” to show off your fuming, spitting mug to folks who really don’t want to see it, let alone be spit on by it.

Refusal to wear a mask indoors during a pandemic is, in this humble sexologist’s opinion, worse than refusing to wear pants… or a seatbelt, both being illegal in the U.S.

It’s more like insisting on your “right” to drive while drunk, endangering not only yourself, but everyone who happens to be on the road with you.

Nevertheless, it’s disingenuous to say that mask-wearing is “nothing” or “no big deal.” Let’s all just acknowledge, it’s a pain in the ass. Well, the face.

Confused? Anxious? Horny? Need to talk? The Therapists Without Borders of the Dr. Susan Block Institute are highly experienced in erotic matters. So, if you don’t know where to start, no worries! Looking for safer sex through the erotic theater of the mind? Developing a medical fetish looking at all those sexy masked-up doctors and nurses? What sexy alternatives can you explore in the Coronapacalypse? Give us a call anytime at 213.291.9497.

No Glove, No Love? No Mask, Don’t Ask!

Like any article of clothing, comfort depends on style, fabric and fit. Some masks are so bad, wearing them is like having sex while wearing a too-tight condom or, even worse, a too-baggy one.

Actually, in a way, wearing a mask to prevent the spread of COVID-19 is like wearing a condom to prevent the spread of STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) or STIs (sexually transmitted infections). For one thing, condoms aren’t terribly comfortable, so why do we wear them? Very often it’s because our partners insist, “No glove? No love.”

The Coronapocalyptic equivalent might be, “No mask? Don’t even ask!”

Make a bikini like this out of nothing but masks! Don’t forget to save one for your face 😉

In fact, Germans have come up with a new term for masks, “gesichtskondom,” or “face condom.” It’s an article of clothing that protects the wearer and others from disease and the exchange of bodily fluids, so it really *fits*!

Also, like a condom, it’s important to wear your mask correctly. Otherwise, it’s pretty useless. Many of those politicians who look dumb (and not at all sexy) in their facemasks are just wearing them wrong.

Make sure your nose is covered and that the mask fits your face snugly, but not so tight, it’s uncomfortable. For combining comfort with protection, choose a breathable, but protective fabric.

Does wearing a mask or a condom makes things completely safe? No, just safer. It’s like we used to say back in the 1990s: There is no such thing as absolutely “safe sex.” There’s only safer sex through outercourse, phone sex and condoms. A condom doesn’t guarantee protection from an STI—after all, the condom could break, or you could put it on or take it off sloppily— so wearing a mask doesn’t guarantee you won’t get or give someone COVID.

In the Coronapocalypse, there is no such thing as absolutely “safe” living. Only safer living through hand-washing, physical-distancing and wearing a damn mask.

Masks can be as liberating as they can be confining.

Masking up is nothing new. What history peeks out at us from behind the masks we wear today?

Hint: Some of it has to do with sex appeal…

Who Was That Masked Man—or Woman?

Humans have been wearing masks since prehistoric times for disguise, protection, performance and seduction. In the Coronapocalypse, we think of our facemasks primarily for protection against COVID-19, but there’s no reason we can’t enjoy them for the other three purposes too.

A Kinky Masked-Up and Physically Distanced Whipping on the 4th of July, 2020.

Hold-up; by “disguise,” I don’t mean you should disguise yourself with facemask to rob your local convenience store. It’s true that one of our most common conceptions of facemasks stems from images of bandits concealing their identities with a bandana before holding up a bank.

Unfortunately, in the Coronapocalypse, some modern thieves have exploited the mask mandate to do just that. This pandemic economy is particularly unjust for the poor and has made desperados out of many otherwise decent people, but that’s no excuse!

Side note: Anti-maskers who believe the “Deep State” is making us wear masks to “control” us are ignoring the simple fact that covering your face makes you harder to identify and control by the government, bots, scanners or your local store clerk. That’s why thieves have always masked up for disguise.

As long as you don’t commit crimes, you might enjoy the fact that your face mask “disguises” you to some degree. If you’re shy, anonymity can even be an aphrodisiac; that’s one reason so many masked revelers have long loved Venetian and Brazilian Carnavale.

In this sense, masks can be as liberating as they can be confining.  You might like going out incognito, wearing a dark, mysterious mask with matching shades, like a spy in a romantic thriller. But please, no stealing, no stalking and no ammosexual accessories (you’re not really a spy)!

 

Hopeless romantic? The Therapists Without Borders of the Dr. Susan Block Institute can help you with your romantic issues, your fantasies, problems and pleasures. Need to talk about something you can’t talk about anywhere else? We can help. Give us a call at 213.291.9497.

 Weapons of Masked Seduction

“If you want to say something and have people listen then you have to wear a mask.” – Banksy

Masks have long been an integral element of theater.

Ancient Greek Theater Mask of Agamemnon

The oldest mask ever discovered dates back 9000 years to 7000 BCE, but the art of making and wearing masks is far older, visible in 30,000-year-old paleolithic cave drawings. Because these prehistoric masks were made of perishable materials like leather and wood, they didn’t survive, but we can see by the cave drawings that the earliest uses of masks were for performance, dance, ceremonies and rituals. Whether dazzling, comforting or frightening, all of these face coverings conveyed some kind of artistic, “magical,” seductive appeal.

Prehistoric masks were the first Weapons of Masked Seduction.

Such theatrical masks continued to be worn in the ancient Greek Dionysian Festivals, Medieval Passion Plays, Guy Fawkes, the Phantom of the Opera and beyond.

Let your body talk. Since people can’t see your face, they will pay more attention to the rest of you.

Personally, I’ve always loved theatrical masks, since I was a Theater Studies major at Yale, especially in the Italian Commedia Dell’Arte tradition, and eventually in my own Commedia Erotica style.

Over the years, as I put on hundreds of masks to assume different roles and for the sheer, playful pleasure of masquerade. Honestly, I never dreamed I’d be wearing a mask to protect me and those around me from death-dealing microbes. But my masked theater experience does give me ideas for making masks—even face masks—fun and sexy.

Many of our theatrical Comic-con culture’s greatest superheroes—from Zorro to Batman—also wear sexy masks, aka “domino masks,” but they tend to go around the eyes instead of over the mouth, Spiderman and the Flash being notable exceptions.

Have you ever worn a mask in a play, cosplay, film, masquerade party, on Halloween, Mardi Gras, Purim, Carnival or Carnavale? Perhaps you *played* a trickster, sexpot, superhero or alter ego. Did it make you feel less inhibited, more adventurous, less constrained by your usual worries of what people might think of you because the real, identifiable *you* was partially hidden?

Take that party-mask energy into face-mask-wearing, and you’re almost guaranteed to be sexy.

Let your body talk.  Since people can’t see your face, they will pay more attention to the rest of you. So, if you’re not already a dancer, model or bootcamp graduate, straighten up that saggy posture and learn to move like you mean it!

Pretend you’re a costume designer choosing accessories; wear a mask that either matches your outfit or contrasts with it in an appealing way.

Try Etsy, Dolls Kill, Forever 21, d.Bleu.dazzled, Redbubble or Stylecaster for fun, festive and mostly feminine masks. If you’re looking for more masculine options, check out this GQ article.

Of course, these cartoon penis masks and vulva art facemasks are great comic erotic conversation-starters (though maybe not church or family gatherings!).

Variety is the spice of life, sex and theater. Wearing the same mask every day is not only very unhygienic, it’s boring. Between utilitarian, fancy, romantic, scary, kinky and crazy, you can wear different masks to suit your varied moods… or perhaps seduce someone special.

But please don’t throw your used facemasks out the car window! The Coronapocalypse is just another aspect of devastating climate change in the Anthropocene. Don’t make it worse by polluting the environment with your dirty old facemasks. Wash used masks or try facemasks like 4ocean, which are recyclable, and the support frames provide extra comfort.

Masks in Asia

Western cultures, with their focus on individual—and corporate—freedom mixed with scorn for “big government” and socialism, appear to have the most trouble persuading their citizens to wear a damn mask.

Even though the idea that our leaders are trying to enslave us through facemasks is extremely illogical and unlikely (they have other ways…), it carries a lot of weight, especially in the United States, Brazil and Europe.

In contrast, East Asian cultures tend to prioritize the welfare of the community over the freedom of the individual. In most Asian countries, wearing a facemask is a sign of discipline, respect and social responsibility, not weakness.

I’d prefer everyone go naked… well, except for the face mask, right now, of course.

Many East Asians have been masking up in public for years to protect themselves and others from airborne sickness and pollution. I imagine some of them also enjoy the psychological “protection” and anonymity masks provide for individuals in crowded public spaces.

Maybe this is why, as of this writing, Asian death rates from COVID-19 are considerably lower than in the West.

Masking Up for God

Covering the bottom half of the face is popular in the Muslim world, but not because of the pandemic.  In traditional Islamic culture, many women wear a veil that covers the whole face except for the eyes, such as the niqab or burqa. Westerners tend to think of the Muslim veil as oppressive, and it can be since it is often required nonconsensually, and only of women, rarely of men.

Lili Miss Arab in Muslim Niqab vs. Coronapocalyptic Me in Face Mask on DrSuzy. Tv

Personally, I’m not a fan of any kind of cover-up, especially on so-called “moral” grounds. I’d prefer everyone go naked… well, except for the face mask, right now, of course.

My views are based on philosophical as well as personal experience wearing a burqa. When I was 19, I went on a hippie-ish trek through Asia and, while wandering through the rather devout city of Kandahar, Afghanistan, a friendly shopkeeper gifted me with a burqa. I put it on over my clothes and continued my walk around the marketplace, only to collide with another burqa-clad lady and a fruit stand. Nobody was hurt, but the lady was pretty annoyed, I had to pay for a dozen damaged melons, and I never wore a burqa again.

I felt like I was inside a smothering, billowing tent covering everything except for a small window for me to look through, and even that tiny opening was covered with a crisscross fabric, so I felt like I was trying to see through fishnet stockings. Not my style.

If you think face masks are oppressive, check out these burqas!

Nevertheless, my research and experience as a sex therapist tells me that many women have no such impaired vision issues, and some are actually empowered by wearing the veil. It helps them to feel protected, in control, mysterious, special… and sexy! Some Muslim women tell me that they enjoy being able to choose with whom they share the special gift of their naked face.

On the other side of the tent, many Muslim men say that seeing a veiled woman arouses them precisely because that which is hidden is enticing. It presents a question: What does she look like? And of course, they want to know the answer.

I still don’t like that so many orthodox Muslim communities make women wear the veil for religious reasons—sometimes under pain of violent punishment. On the other hand, Islam isn’t the only religion to force its practices on its adherents. And in terms of the current question—How to Make Masks Sexy?—Westerners can learn a lesson from this undoubtedly sexist, but sometimes intriguingly sexy, Islamic custom.

Takeaway: Wear your facemask like a veil that erotically empowers you.

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The Eyes Have It

Though a facemask should cover your mouth and nose—and often the chin and cheeks as well—it usually doesn’t cover your eyes. This can be key to making your mask sexy.

Weapons of Masked Seduction

As the “windows to the soul,” your eyes are your most powerful Weapons of Masked Seduction.

You could think of your mask as a fan, “making eyes” over it, coquettishly. Whether you make “Smize” (“smiling eyes,” as coined by Tyra Banks), sultry “smokey eye,” cute puppy dog eyes, or squinty tough-guy eyes, you can communicate volumes without moving your lips.

Speaking of lips, you don’t have to put on lipstick while wearing a mask… and you probably shouldn’t as it will smear in all the wrong ways (unless you’re wearing smear-proof). Some good news for folks who get tired of smiling through pain or boredom; you can relax your mouth muscles more with a mask on!

But if you really want to be mask-sexy, you probably ought to step up your eyeliner, shadow, lashes, mascara, etc. routine. Unless you’re wearing dark goggles, your eyes tend to be visible. Careful about how you put on and remove your mask, or you might take off a false eyelash along with it (I’ve done that!).

Masks So Scary They’re Sexy

Yes, scary masks can be very sexy on the right person in an arousing scenario.

Masked Full Moon Halloween Witch

Always keep things consensual and safe and try not to trigger traumatic memories with your masked fun and games.

That said, a pinch of fear is like spice in your enchilada… though too much spoils the meat.

So, what turns you on? Zombie sex worker? Frankenstein’s Bride? Sexy Freddy Kreuger? Gasmaskgirl?

There are a million sexy monsters to choose from; just make sure your monster mask covers your nose.

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The Plague Mask

Perhaps the quintessential “scary mask” for the Coronapocalypse is the “Plague Mask.”

Somewhere between sinister and magical, with an elongated, bird-like beak and large, circular eyeholes, sometimes framed by crystals, the “Plague Mask” was originally worn during the 17th century (not the Middle Ages, as many believe) to protect “plague doctors” from catching the disease that was killing their patients.

The giant leather beak shielded the wearer’s mouth and nose, somewhat like a facemask, plus it was filled with fabric soaked in aromatic herbs that were supposed to ward off germs, but really just helped “mask” the stench of sickness and death.

Even prior to the Coronapocalypse, some people wore stylized plague masks to parties, fetish balls and during kinky play. Now, they’re even more popular, in different colors with sexy embellishments like feathers and glitter.

So… have yourself a ball! Though if you want to stay safe, wear a regular face mask under your plague mask.

Fetish Masks

Speaking of fetish balls, the mask has long been an important article of kinky clothing in the BDSM world.

GasMaskGirls mask up for the Coronapocalypse.

These range from a Mistress’ glittery party mask, such as those seen in old Lasse Braun loops or that ritual orgy in Eyes Wide Shut, to a slave’s full-coverage leather or latex bondage hood.

Fetish masks of this kind have long been associated with kink, sexual fantasies and taboo trysts. They can be used to enhance sexual experiences and consensual power exchange, especially in roleplay, as punishment, reward or even just for style.

Besides being kinky, fetish masks help to keep the wearers totally or somewhat anonymous and so, like the Carnavale masqueraders, they feel freer to express their true sexual selves.

Traditional fetish masks aren’t always COVID-safe, but you can find sexy kinky facemasks for both protection and fun. Consider this sleek latex facemask, a more extreme hood, a leather neck corset that’s also a facemask or the classic gasmask (includes a drinking connection).

Need to talk about your favorite fetish, with or without the mask?  Call the Therapists Without Borders of the Dr. Susan Block Institute anytime at 213.291.9497.

Sensory Deprivation & Masked Kisses

One ironic erotic benefit of masks is the way they enhance certain senses through sensory deprivation. For instance, if you’re blindfolded, your sense of hearing, touch and smell are enhanced.

Kissing Capt’n Max through My Homemade Betty Boop Face Mask early in the Coronapocalypse when We had to Make Our Own.

A face mask doesn’t deprive you of a particular sense in that way. However, there are two things you can’t do while wearing a facemask, and those are eating and drinking.

This is, of course, a big inconvenience, but it has its benefits.

Maybe it’ll help lower our society’s skyrocketing rates of obesity which, by the way, is a telltale “pre-existing condition” that makes obese Coronavirus patients more likely than others to die.

That’s not meant to be “fat-shaming,” but to encourage people to provide a little less of an appetizing meal for these crowned critters to feast upon.

Masked Xmas Hanukkah Solstice Saturnalia 2020 in Bonoboville.

Masks can be beautiful, mysterious and even romantic.

A kiss through facemasks deprives the kissers of the taste and touch of each other’s tongues, thereby—via the *magic* of sensory deprivation—enhancing their sense of each other’s aroma.

Such a tantalizing tease!

Warning: Kissing through masks isn’t COVID-safe; it’s just a fun way for couples who are self-isolating together to connect while out and about.

“Self-isolating together” has become a special kind of commitment, a “Love in the Time of Coronavirus” that is both more and less serious than marriage.

My “prime mate,” Capt’n Max, and I are self-isolating together, but we wear masks when we’re around other people, and it feels very romantic to kiss “through” our masks.

An image of a husband-and-wife team of nurses wearing masks, vizors, gloves and gowns as they embrace went viral (so to speak) early in the pandemic.

Masked Romance

Looking at it and seeing the love and romance combined with discipline and service that it conveys, still brings tears to my eyes.

Make Masks Sexy!

The human face is, after all, nothing more nor less than a mask. – Agatha Christie

Why is it so important to “make masks sexy”?

I’ll let someone who tweeted that I looked “immensely kinky” in my GasMaskGirl gas mask, answer that question, “Dr Susan if you can convince people to wear masks to prevent airborne contagion of Covid-19, you might have saved many lives.”

It’s funny, but for some people, kink and sex are greater motivators than matters of life or death.

Mask Up for Love

If I can help reduce the spread of the dreaded virus by showing how sexy and kinky a face mask can be, I’m thrilled.

Take It Off!

Remember, masks are not forever. They’re not even for all day.

There comes a time, in the course of a day or during a romantic relationship, when you take off the mask. Though I’ve been talking up how sexy masks can be, there’s no denying that taking off the mask can be even sexier.

In the Coronapocalypse, it should also be very special, something you only do close-up with someone you trust, at a point when you know you are both COVID-free.

In these masked-up times, removing your mask to expose your face (when you’re in a safe space) sexier than a striptease.

But before you take it all off, be sure to put that sexy mask on. It just might save your (sex) life.

Mask Up! Then Take It Off…

© March 11, 2021. Susan Block, Ph.D., a.k.a. “Dr. Suzy,” is a world renowned LA sex therapist, author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure and horny housewife, occasionally seen on HBO and other channels. For information and speaking engagements, call 626-461-5950. Email her at [email protected].  Editorial Assistance on this article provided by Adriana Gomez-Weston 

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Are you thinking about gangbangs?

Do you ever fantasize about multiple men having sex with one woman? Do you imagine your wife, lover or favorite celebrity at the center of the action?  Would you want it to be with your friends or strangers? Have you ever participated in a gangbang? Would you like to try it?

Do you need to talk about it?

Being aroused by the idea of participating in a consensual gangbang is normal and a lot more common than you might realize.  You may want to act on your desire, or you may not. Regardless, though gangbangs and all forms of group sex are taboo in most modern human societies—and no one should ever take part in a nonconsensual gangbang—they remain part of our prehistoric primate heritage. Indeed, gangbangs have been going on since the dawn of humanity, for thousands of years before the concepts of monogamy and even fatherhood came into understanding.

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Why Do You Love Gangbangs?

Many gangbang enthusiasts are worried that their interest in gangbangs, threesomes “The Lifestyle” and other forms of group sex makes them “weird.” If that sounds like you, rest assured you’re not weird.

Human sexual history, in fact, is loaded with various kinds of group sex, including gangbangs. Unfortunately, much of it—way too much of it—has been by force, most notably and tragically during wartime. Unfortunately, when Hollywood movies, such as The Accused, depict gangbangs, though they don’t show genitalia like porn, they almost invariably show the horrible, nonconsensual kind.

However, some of the group sex that’s been going on since hunter/gatherer times has been consensual and a great pleasure, as well as a profoundly meaningful experience, for all involved. That includes gender-balanced swing parties, same sex orgies, one male with a “harem” of females, as well as one female having sex with multiple men.

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So, there’s nothing new about group sex, including gangbangs. What is *new* is that the Internet allows us to learn more about what other people do than ever before in human history. Moreover, if we want, we can *hook up* with people who share our desires—including the desire to watch or partake in a good gangbang.

Search “gangbang” in google, and you’ll see megatons of gangbang porn, and the great majority appears to be enthusiastically consensual. According to PornHub.com, which received 42 billion visits in 2019, “threesome” was the 13th most popular search term and “gangbang” was the 19th most popular, putting both in the top 20.

But why is this? Aren’t we supposed to want to be with just one special lover? Why would sharing lovers with others turn us on?

 

Sperm Wars & the Upsuck Effect

The “Sperm Wars” phenomenon—where the womb becomes a battleground for sperm that fight like armies or football teams to get one of their sperm (the proverbial football) to the egg first—gives us a biological explanation of why gangbangs are so popular.

Studies show that a man’s sperm count tends to rise when competition to fertilize the egg of his wife or girlfriend appears to be high. Whether the man really has genuine rivals who are having sex with his partner or it’s just in his vivid imagination, his brain sends a message to his testicles that says, “Send in the army!” or “We need the whole football team, including reinforcements, for this game!”

In other words, “Make more sperm!”

Whether he’s excited and happy about the competition or jealous and angry, this phenomenon tends to give a man a stronger erection and a more explosive ejaculation. Of course, it’s better for everyone concerned if he’s more glad than mad, but that does explain why jealous, angry lovemaking or “makeup sex” can be so arousing for some people, despite their better judgment.

Conversely, sperm counts often decline in the routine sex of monogamous relationships, no matter how intimate and loving. Since the element of competition is missing, the brain’s message to the balls is, “You don’t need the whole football team to score this goal since there’s no rival team on the field. Conserve your resources and just send in a few runners.”

The shape of the human penis gives us another clue as to why gangbangs are so popular. A study by Gordon Gallup and coworkers (2003) concluded that one evolutionary purpose of the thrusting motion characteristic of intense intercourse is for the penis to “upsuck” another man’s semen before depositing its own. Thus a man’s urge to thrust, through intercourse or masturbation, is often enhanced by the presence of another man or several men, whether real or fantasized.

 

A Galaxy of Gangbangs

There are many different kinds of gangbangs.

There’s the beach party gangbang, a birthday gangbang, a soft-swing gangbang that involves outercourse instead of intercourse. It could be a spanking gangbang, a cuckold gangbang, an oral or an anal gangbang.

In terms of the participants, there’s the classic one-woman-with-a-male-gang scenario—and then there’s anything else that turns you and you partner(s) on.

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Maybe you’re a man who longs to be gangbanged by other men, or perhaps by a group of women sporting strap-ons or squirting all over you.

Most men who imagine such scenarios don’t dare express their feelings, not to other men nor to the women in their lives, for fear of being humiliated… even if “humiliation” is part of the fantasy.

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Consent is Essential

As with any type of sexual activity, the most important element of a gangbang is consent. Fantasy gangbangs can involve whatever turns you on, but any real-life gangbang should require enthusiastic consent from all participants, especially the recipient, the person (usually, but not always, a female) who is at the center of the gangbang.

Otherwise, it’s a gang rape. Even if that turns you on in fantasy, it’s not something to ever participate in reality.

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Keep in mind that, for many reasons, feelings of consent can change over the course of a few minutes or hours. So, it’s important to continually “check in” with the recipient to make sure she or he is “all right,” happy and eager for more.

At the first sign of reluctance on the part of the recipient, no matter how turned on everybody else is, the gangbang must stop.

Whether or not the gangbang is a success, it’s important to provide “after care,” especially to the recipient. This could take the form of hugs, drinks, food, help cleaning up, words of appreciation, a massage or whatever the recipient enjoys.

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We’ll help you to make sure it’s a success for all concerned.
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Are You a Cuckold?

Cuckold” is an old English term for a man whose wife (often called a “hotwife”) has sex with other men (called “bulls”). In the 21st century, there has been a resurgence of interest in the cuckold’s predicament, cuckold sex, cuckold fantasies, cuckold erotica, hot wives, big bulls, sperm wars and the cuckold lifestyle.

There’s also the cuckold gangbang, when the hotwife has sex with several bulls at one time. The gangbang may or may not include the cuckold himself.

There are many types of cuckolds: Submissive Cuckolds, Dominant Cuckolds, Sissy Cuckolds, Fantasy Cuckolds, Sapiosexual Cuckolds, Interracial Cuckolds, Small-Cock Cuckolds, Bi-Curious Cuckolds, Swinger Cuckolds, Spanked Cuckolds, Cuckolds-in-Bondage, Cuckolds-in-Chastity, Director Cuckolds, Cuckold Voyeurs, Cuckold Exhibitionists, Cheated-On Cuckolds, Trans Cuckolds, Reluctant Cuckolds, Humiliated Cuckolds, Happy Cuckolds and many more varieties.

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Along with the growing popularity of cuckolding, there has been a growing acceptance of it as a “normal” sexual interest, even if it’s enhanced with a gangbang, as long as it’s all consensual.

Nevertheless, many men feel ashamed of their desire to be cuckolded, perhaps especially if it involves a gangbang. Such men tend to feel a whole lot better when they learn the “sperm wars” biological explanation for their desires, as well as just how common and “normal” these desires are.

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Group Sex & Swinging

There are many forms of group sex, from threesomes to orgies, polyamorous arrangements, swing parties and pansexual celebrations. Gangbangs are another form of group sex.

Group sex might sound very kinky for some, but it fulfills a very natural, human need to share erotic, orgasmic, loving experiences with multiple people, friends, loved ones and attractive strangers.  In a world that increasingly demands compartmentalization and isolation, there are few arenas left in which humans can share in this vital, life-affirming experience of communal ecstasy.

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Different group sex formations are popular, such as the “daisy chain” in which participants perform oral sex on each other in circular formation.  

Some threesomes exhibit a gangbang flair, such as the “spit-roast,” where two males engage a female (or another male), with one penetrating from the rear, usually doggy style, while the female performs fellatio on the other male. There’s also “double-penetration” in which one male penetrates the lady’s vagina while the other enters her anus. If she goes down on another, that’s a triple-penetration.  Add a few more guys around them, watching, stroking themselves and waiting their turn, and you’ve got a classic gangbang.

 

Go Bonobos for Gangbangs

Gangbangs and other forms of group sex are very common amongst our closest genetic cousins, both common chimpanzees—who are more likely do it non-consensually—and especially bonobos —who usually do it with enthusiastic consent and are thus far more worthy of our emulation

In fact, the sexual behavior of all the great apes is a fascinating window into how early human sexual behavior evolved, giving us vital clues as to why gangbangs are so arousing for so many people.

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Many anthropologists agree that prehistoric humans often engaged in various forms of group sex for tens of thousands of years before the advent of farming and “civilization” started pressuring people, especially women, to be sexually monogamous.

Certainly, prehistoric humans participated in consensual gangbangs and other bonoboesque forms of recreational sex that are generally considered taboo in modern human society.

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Bukkake Gangbangs

If you’re a porn fan, you probably know that “bukkake” is a Japanese term that refers to spraying the face and body of a person, usually a woman, though sometimes a man, with sperm from one, several or many men. The word actually means “splash” or “squirt” in Japanese. In some bukkake sessions, 150 men ejaculate onto one woman.

That’s some gigantic gangbang!

In American-style bukkake, the recipient acts like she’s enjoying herself, rubbing the sperm into her skin like a beauty treatment.

In Japanese-style bukkake, the recipient is more degraded, often acting like she is an unwilling participant (hopefully, it’s just an act). 

Legend has it that in ancient Japan, an adulterous woman would be dragged into the town square and tied up, whereupon every man in town ejaculated all over her in a frenzied bukkake gangbang. Basically, they seem to have been saying, “If you’re going to take it from a man other than you husband, you’re going to get it from everyone else. You’re going to be gangbanged.”

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Some say it comes from the practice of stoning an unfaithful woman to death, and that bukkake is a “kinder, gentler” chastisement. Whether or not the legends are true, “bukkake” became a form of Japanese porn in the 1980s, grew in popularity, and now if you type “bukkake” into google, you’re likely to get hundreds of sites, even if you don’t spell it right.

Bukkake is so vivid and provocative, it can represent many different ideas and feelings. Years ago, in an antiwar context, I compared the “Shock & Awe” bombing of Iraq with bukkake (the nonconsensual kind) in Bukkake Bombing Crusade.

But back to consensual bukkake (even if it’s made to look forced) where nobody gets killed and, hopefully, everybody has fun and big orgasms, including the recipient.

By far the most common bukkake scenario is a group of males ejaculating on a female, but there are scenes where a group of women gangbang a man or woman, spraying the recipient with female ejaculate.  

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Gay male bukkake gangbangs are also popular in which a group of men gangbang one male recipient, covering him in their creamy spunk.

Just the sight of all that semen can trigger the Sperm Wars effect in many guys—gay, straight or bi.

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Gangbangs: Natural, Normal…But Not Easy

Just because a desire for gangbangs is natural and popular doesn’t mean it’s easy to make it happen in real life, especially in our erotophobic society. There are many variables with one-on-one sex, and group sex just ratchets up the possibilities for problems as well as pleasure.

For instance, say you’re a man with an intense gangbang fantasy that you’d really like to make happen in real life. But what if the woman (your wife? Your girlfriend? Your sex buddy?) isn’t as enthusiastic about being “gangbanged” as you are about seeing her in that situation? 

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What if you can’t find the right guys? Where do you find them? How do you screen them? How do you handle safer sex? What if, despite the fantasy turning you on, the reality makes you jealous? What if people gossip about it, take photos without your permission or otherwise betray your trust?  How do you mix lust with trust?

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Sometimes it helps to talk freely with someone who understands, won’t judge you and will help you. Whether you need more personalized advice or just want to roleplay a fantasy, call the Dr. Susan Block Institute anytime at 213-291-9497

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Are You a Gangbang Goddess?

Are you a woman who wants to be gangbanged? Congratulations! You are a very sexual female, and you deserve to enjoy the tremendous, unparalleled pleasures of group sex.

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The good news is it probably won’t be tough for you to find partners who want to gangbang you. Just post an ad on a swinger site and watch the replies flood your inbox.

The bad news is that it’s not so easy to find partners you really like, feel attraction for and trust with your naked sexuality. It might take some time and patience to mix trust with lust to create the gangbang of your dreams.

Unfortunately, most modern societies around the world denigrate all forms of group sex, including consensual gangbangs. This can make your partner judge you harshly for confessing or expressing your desires. So, it’s usually best that you understand your feelings and the issues involved before divulging too much.

Most importantly, before you plunge into the deep end of gangbanging and group sex, make sure this is something you want to do, not just something your husband or lover wants you to do. Don’t grudgingly “go along” with a scene that doesn’t turn you on, like Paul Manafort’s wife is alleged to have done in their “interracial” gangbangs. Enthusiastic consent—on your part and the part of all involved—is the basis of a great gangbang or any kind of great sex at all.

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Need to talk about how to turn your gangbang fantasy into reality?  Want to find out how to create the ultimate gangbang, whom to invite, what to serve and what to wear? Want to learn more about the origins of your personal gangbang desires? Or do you just want to enjoy guided masturbation as we explore the fantasy together?

Whatever you need to talk about, you can call the Therapists Without Borders of the Dr. Susan Block Institute and talk to one of our male, female,  trans or non-binary therapists of all ages over 18 with great gangbang knowledge, experience and erotic appreciation.

Whether you’d like to get a better understanding of your fetish, get some tips for talking to your partner about it, work through past experiences, hear about our  experiences with gangbangs, or just explore gangbangs in the Erotic Theater of the Mind over the phone, via webcam through sext therapy and/or in person, we’re here to help.  Call us anytime at 213-291-9497.

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BONOBO WAY bound for DOMCON LA 2019

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LOS ANGELES, Calif., Apr. 30, 2019 — Susan M. Block, Ph.D., a.k.a., “Dr. Suzy,” internationally renowned sexologist, talk show host and best-selling author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure, will deliver an updated reprise of her acclaimed talk, FemDoms of the Wild: The Bonobo Way of BDSM, at DOMCON LA 2019 on Saturday, May 11, 2019 1-2 p.m.in Room B1 of the Hilton Hotel LAX.

“I’m really looking forward to returning to the fabulous, kinky world of DomCon,” says Block, “and so excited to share more about how bonobos, the amazing peace-through-pleasure-loving FemDoms of the Wild, can empower human kinksters and humanity in general.” Inspired by the real-life bonobo apes, our closest living primate relatives, Block will deliver her popular, practical, sapiosexual, multi-media DomCon presentation with an updated outlook on current events and trends, from Trumpanzee politics to Bonobo BDSM, #MeToo (bonobo-style), the SESTA/FOSTA challenge, going bonobos to slow climate change, bisexuality/pansexuality and “incel” therapy in a natural femocracy.

Accompanying her talk will be fascinating film footage of bonobos in the wild and the zoo, as well as live human Commedia Erotica dramatization, topping it all off with Bonobo Way book-spankings. Block wrote the definition of “erotic spanking” (as well as “cuckolding,” “sexual fetishes,” “phone sex” and “striptease”) for the Wiley-Blackwell International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality), and she is about to publish a new “Spank ‘n’ Art” issue of Dr. Block’s Speakeasy Journal. “Adult consensual impact play, BDSM and even a little loving erotic humiliation have great healing power for bonobos as well as humans,” observes Block. “Consider how the brief spanking that Stormy Daniels gave a certain exceedingly narcissistic future president made him stop bragging about himself long enough to have an almost normal conversation—and sex (albeit ‘mediocre’)!”

“Dr. Suzy is phenomenal!” declared world-renowned domina, Goddess Soma Snakeoil, after attending last year’s packed presentation. “I loved this class. It was such a joy, and I learned so much!”

In this year’s Commedia Erotica dramatizations, Block will be assisted by her Dr. Susan Block Show assistant, Blossom Green, as well as “Most Well-Rounded Kinkster” SUZY award winner, MFA and award-winning filmmaker Rhiannon Aarons, Block Institute sex therapist Del Rey and more TBA, demonstrating bonobo play, conflict resolution,”hoka hoka” and female empowerment, “penis fencing” and male well-being and the “Trust Game.”

“In 2019, bonobo culture is more timely than ever,” Block continues. “Women are taking power in Congress and the bedroom. It’s awesome, but some people are afraid it’s ‘unnatural.’ Bonobos show us that female empowerment and male well-being are not at odds in nature, and together, they create sustainable peace through pleasure. Unlike humans and all the other Great Apes, bonobos have never been seen killing each other in the wild or captivity. How do they do this, and can we humans learn to release our ‘inner bonobos’ before it’s too late? At this especially turbulent point in human history, it’s worth a try.”

Times are also turbulent for the highly endangered wild bonobos, now in critical danger of extinction, thanks to human degradation of their natural habitat in the Congolese Rainforest, especially bushmeat hunting. “Bonobo conservation is integral to the Bonobo Way,” asserts Block. “If we lose the bonobos, then we will lose a key to peace through pleasure we can never find again.”

Besides DomCon 2018, 2017, 2016 and 2015, Block has presented The Bonobo Way of Inclusivity at AASECT 2016 in San Juan, Puerto Rico, and she will be delivering The Bonobo Way of Transformational, Healing Pleasure at AASECT 2019. She presented The Bonobo Way of Ecosexuality as the keynote speech at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayagüez, for the world’s first Ecosexuality Symposium at an academic institution, and at UC Berkeley for the 5th Conference on Monogamy & Nonmonogamy, as well as The Bonobo Way of Inclusivity at AASECT, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors & Therapists. Recently, she spoke on writing The Bonobo Way at Yale University (her alma mater), and presented The Bonobo Way of Great Sex at Adultcon LA. She has also spoken about the Bonobo Way at USC, UCLA and Caltech, for MENSA and the Young Presidents Organization. These presentations and others are made possible, in part, thanks to Malcolm Jones and the Bonobo Way Female Empowerment Outreach Project.

Throughout DomCon, Dr. Block will wear latex outfits designed by Demask Latex and The Latex Store.

Founded by Mistress Cyan St. James, DOMCON LA is “the world’s largest professional and lifestyle domination convention.” DomCon LA 2019 will be held May 8-12. FemDoms of the Wild: The Bonobo Way of BDSM is scheduled for 1-2 PM on Saturday, May 11, 2019. Get tickets here. For a taste of what’s to come, watch last year’s The Bonobo Way at DomCon LA. For information about Dr. Block’s appearances at DomCon 2019 or to arrange an interview, please call 310-568-0066.

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HUMANS LOVE THE BONOBO WAY

The Bonobo Way is a refreshing must-read for our times. Dr. Susan Block pushes the envelope and brings us the truth about bonobos and ourselves—with wit, intelligence and sexual positivity all balancing on a fulcrum of fascinating hard science.”
—Dr. Patti Britton, American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) Past President

“Impactful, often hilarious… wildly entertaining… The Bonobo Way just might hold the key to world peace.”
—HUFFINGTON POST book review by Steve Karras

The Bonobo Way is sexy and fun… damn smart too.”
Sex at Dawn, author Christopher Ryan, Ph.D.

“The Bonobo Way is a pleasure on all counts… and especially significant at this time.”
—Dr. SerenaGaia Anderlini D’Onofrio, co-editor of Ecosexuality

“Bravo Dr. Block for paving the way to a hopefully more bonobo future.”
—Vanessa Woods, Duke University primatologist and author of Bonobo Handshake

“Brilliant. A great book about human sexuality and how reverting to an evolutionary path can divest the human race from its aggression and violence.”
—Sherry Rehman, Pakistan’s Ambassador to the U.S. (2011-15)

“Amazing! Dr. Susan Block is an ecosexual visionary.”
—Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., ecosexual artist and filmmaker

“The Bonobo Way is marvelous! A happy book for a happy life in a happier world.”
—Xaviera Hollander, author of The Happy Hooker

“Awesome book… Excellently written and transformative”
—Dorion Sagan, science writer and author of Death & Sex

“Dr. Susan Block has a new understanding of how to enhance our intimate relationships!”
—Progressive News Network interview with Dr. Diana Wiley

“Adventure, optimism, and love is what Dr. Susan Block is all about… Patients become fans, and fans become evangelists.”
—CITIZEN LA Inside the Pleasure Compound with Dr. Susan Block

“AMAZING… The Bonobo Way shines a light on humanity’s capacity for peace.”
—Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, author of Wired to Create

“The Bonobo Way will save our planet! Dr. Susan’s insight into sexuality is not only incredible…it is also the sexual revolution, easily mapped out, that we have been waiting for.”
–Tracy Vanity, blogger

“I love every page of The Bonobo Way!”
—Christian Bruyère, producer of Champions of the Wild

The Bonobo Way is available in kindle and paperback on Amazon or direct from the publisher. A portion of all proceeds from book sales goes to Lola ya Bonobo, the Bonobo Conservation Initiative and the Bonobo Project, as well as other organizations actively helping to protect and save the highly endangered wild bonobos from extinction.

Tired of conventional sexuality experts? Dr. Block is available for comment or interview. Would you like to review The Bonobo Way? Contact us today.

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Dr. Suzy to take “Inner Journey” #3 with Greg Friedman on KX 93.5 this Sunday

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This Sunday night, July 29th, international sexologist, director of the Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences and Bonobo Way author Dr. Susan Block will be the featured guest on another sure-to-be fascinating Inner Journey on KX 93.5 FM with spiritual guide and veteran talk show host Greg Friedman in beautiful balmy Laguna Beach, California.

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Tune in Sunday evening, July 28th, 7 pm – 9 pm PST (click “LISTEN LIVE” in the green box in the upper right to listen live) and call in: 949-715-5936.

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“Greg Friedman is a great radio shaman and spiritual guide,” says Dr. Block.

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“On this show, I expect that he and I will get into another deep sapiosexual two-hour conversation about ‘taking the BOO out of taboo,” sexual healing, our new Speakeasy Journal, “Splosh ‘n’ Art” edition, as well as our upcoming “Spanking” issue, #MeToo and The Bonobo Way, Incel Sex Therapy, Stormy Daniels, “12 Steps to Releasing Your Inner Bonobo; “Peace Through Pleasure” in Bonoboville; sex therapy with the Dr. Susan Block Institute; how to help save the highly endangered real bonobos from #extinction in the wild (donate to Lola ya Bonobo, Bonobo Conservation Initiative and The Bonobo Project, among other ways to help!); effects of sexual abuse on sexuality; kinky erotica on the Dr. Susan Block Show; hoka-hoka among bisexual bonobos and bonobo sapiens; monogamy, polyamory and being monogamish; ethical hedonism, Post-Trump Sex Disorder; war and peace; kegel yoga and the Holy Water of Female Ejaculation & much more! After the show, Capt’n Max and I will go to Mozambique (or maybe some place else) for drinks, food and fun. Come join us if you’re in Laguna Beach (for info, call our office anytime at 626-461-5950 & ask for Harry Sapien) or just tune in this Sunday to KX radio.”

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Dr. Susan Block’s Bonobo Way returns to DomCon LA!

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Los Angeles, California: May 7, 2018 — Susan M. Block, Ph.D., a.k.a., “Dr. Suzy,” internationally renowned sexologist, talk show host and best-selling author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure, will deliver an updated reprise of her acclaimed talk, FemDoms of the Wild: The Bonobo Way, at DOMCON LA 2018 on Saturday, May 12, 2018 at High Noon in Room A1 of the LAX Airport Hilton.

Founded by Mistress Cyan, DOMCON LA is “the world’s largest professional and lifestyle domination convention.” DomCon LA 2018 will be held May 10-13. In addition to giving her presentation, Dr. Block will also serve as a judge at the DomCon LA Pet Awards, a talent showcase and competition among the BDSM community’s most well-trained and creatively costumed “human pets,” hosted by Mistress Ellen and Madame Margherite, in Room B2 on Saturday, May 12 at 1:30 PM, right after her Bonobo Way talk.

“I’m looking forward to returning to the wonderful world of DomCon,” says Block, “and so excited to share more about how bonobos, the amazing peace-through-pleasure-loving FemDoms of the Wild, can empower human kinksters and humanity in general.” Inspired by the real-life bonobo apes, our closest living primate relatives, Block will deliver her popular, practical, sapiosexual, multi-media DomCon presentation with an updated outlook on current events and trends, from Trumpanzee politics to Bonobo BDSM, #MeToo (bonobo-style), the SESTA/FOSTA challenge. bisexuality/pansexuality revelations and “incel” therapy in a natural femocracy, illustrating some points with Commedia Erotica dramatization and topping it all off with a Bonobo Way book-spanking (Block wrote the definition of “erotic spanking,” as well as “cuckolding,” “sexual fetishes,” “phone sex” and “striptease” for the Wiley-Blackwell International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality). “Adult consensual impact play and other forms of BDSM play have tremendous healing power for bonobos as well as humans,” observes Block. “Consider how the brief Forbes Magazine-spanking that Stormy Daniels gave a certain exceptionally narcissistic future president made him stop bragging about himself long enough to have an almost normal conversation.”

“Dr. Suzy is phenomenal!” declared Goddess Soma Snakeoil after attending Block’s packed DomCon 2017 presentation. “I loved this class. It was such a joy, and I learned so much!”

In this year’s Commedia Erotic dramatizations, Block will be assisted by her assistant, Dr. Susan Block Show associate producer Phoenix Dawn, and champion wrestler Mistress Kara, demonstrating bonobo play, conflict resolution,”hoka hoka” and the “Trust Game,” as well as Rhiannon Aarons in the role of Ms. Daniels using The Bonobo Way (and that telltale Forbes) to discipline her pet ferret/Trump.

“Animal play is a great release from human stress and folly, and bonobo culture is especially timely in 2018,” Block continues. “Many fear women taking power, but bonobos show us that female empowerment and male well-being are not at odds in nature, and together, they create sustainable peace through pleasure. Unlike humans and all the other Great Apes, bonobos have never been seen killing each other in the wild or captivity. “How do they do this, and can we humans learn to make like bonobos (not baboons)? Can we release our ‘inner bonobos’ before it’s too late? At this especially tempestuous point in human history, it’s worth a try.”

Times are also tempestuous for the highly endangered wild bonobos, now in critical danger of extinction, thanks to human degradation of their natural habitat in the Congolese Rainforest, especially bushmeat hunting. “Bonobo conservation is integral to the Bonobo Way,” asserts Block. “If we lose the bonobos, then we will lose a key to peace through pleasure that we can never find again.”

Besides DomCon 2017, 2016 and 2015, Block has presented The Bonobo Way of Ecosexuality as the keynote speech at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayagüez, for the world’s first Ecosexuality Symposium at an academic institution, and at UC Berkeley for the 5th Conference on Monogamy & Nonmonogamy, as well as The Bonobo Way of Inclusivity at AASECT, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors & Therapists. Recently, she spoke on writing The Bonobo Way at Yale University (her alma mater), and she presented The Bonobo Way of Great Sex at Adultcon LA. These presentations and others are made possible thanks, in part, to Malcolm Jones and the Bonobo Way Female Empowerment Outreach Project.

FemDoms of the Wild: The Bonobo Way is scheduled for High Noon on Saturday, May 12, 2018. Get tickets here.

Throughout DomCon, Dr. Block will wear latex outfits designed by Demask Latex, The Latex Store and BlackLikorish Latex.

For a taste of what’s to come, watch last year’s The Bonobo Way at DomCon LA. For information about Dr. Block’s appearances at DomCon 2018 or to arrange an interview, please call 626-461-5950.

Contact: David Rossi Phone: 626.461.5950 Email: [email protected] www.thebonoboway.com

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WHAT PEOPLE SAY about THE BONOBO WAY

“Impactful, often hilarious… wildly entertaining… The Bonobo Way just might hold the key to world peace.”
—HUFFINGTON POST book review by Steve Karras

The Bonobo Way is sexy and fun… damn smart too.”
—”TANGENTIALLY SPEAKING” Podcast with Sex at Dawn author Chris Ryan, Ph.D.

“The Bonobo Way is a pleasure on all counts… and especially significant at this time.”
—Dr. SerenaGaia Anderlini D’Onofrio, co-editor of Ecosexuality

The Bonobo Way is a refreshing must-read for our times.”
—Dr. Patti Britton, American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT) Past President

“Bravo Dr. Block for paving the way to a hopefully more bonobo future.”
—Vanessa Woods, Duke University primatologist and author of Bonobo Handshake

“Brilliant… A great book about human sexuality.”
—Sherry Rehman, Sr. VP of Pakistan People’s Party & former Ambassador to the U.S.

“Amazing! Dr. Susan Block is an ecosexual visionary.”
—Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., ecosexual artist and filmmaker

“The Bonobo Way is marvelous! A happy book for a happy life in a happier world.”
—Xaviera Hollander, author of The Happy Hooker

“Awesome book… Excellently written and transformative.”
—Dorion Sagan, science writer and author of Death & Sex

“Dr. Susan Block has a new understanding of how to enhance our intimate relationships!”
—Progressive News Network interview with Dr. Diana Wiley

“Adventure, optimism, and love is what Dr. Susan Block is all about… Patients become fans, and fans become evangelists.”
—CITIZEN LA Inside the Pleasure Compound with Dr. Susan Block

“AMAZING… The Bonobo Way shines a light on humanity’s capacity for peace.”
—Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, author of Wired to Create

“I love every page of The Bonobo Way!”
—Christian Bruyère, producer of Champions of the Wild

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The Bonobo Way is available in kindle and paperback on Amazon or direct from the publisher. A portion of all proceeds from book sales goes to Lola ya Bonobo and the Bonobo Conservation Initiative, as well as other organizations actively helping to protect and save the highly endangered wild bonobos from extinction.

Tired of conventional sexuality experts? Dr. Block is available for comment or interview. Want to review The Bonobo Way? Contact us today.

David Rossi
Phone: 626.461.5950 Email: [email protected] Web: thebonoboway.com Social Media: bonoboville.com

Watch the Video: http://j.mp/TBWyouTubeTrailer

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Dr. Suzy & Pr. Max’s 26th Wedding Anniversary

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Saturday night, April 14th, The Dr. Susan Block Show will celebrate international sexologist and Bonobo Way author Dr. Susan Block and publisher/producer Pr. Maximillian R. Leblovic di Lobkowicz di Filangieri‘s 26th Wedding Anniversary. Joining the couple live in-studio will be a star-studded special guests, friends and lovers, including Lexi Lore, Bryan JamesonChristina Hepburn, Kristen Kraves, Chef Be*Live, Daniele Watts, Rhiannon Aarons, GasMaskGirl, Jezebel Sweet, Goddess Lilith, Mistress Porcelain Midnight, Elena Rayn, Lexi Mansfield, Tammie Parrot, Professor Oni, Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, Barry Fisher, Janelle Hopkins, Del Rey Bonobo, Alex More, Laira Roux, Mistress Kara, Jack Friday, Surka Noelle, Mistress Mina, Goddess Mpenzi, Bratty Wolfie, Monica RavenChristina Dupree, Madame Mina, Vanessa Block, Jil Chrissie, Danni Dawson, Goddess Soma, Moushumi Ghose, Ikkor the Wolf, John Barrymore, Jux Lii, Madame Margherite and of course, Phoenix Dawn, plus more TBA.

Click Here to RSVP to attend this show in the “Speakeasy” studio audience this Saturday, or call 626.461.5950 (you can call anytime; someone is always here). Studio doors open at 9:30 pm. Studio Members FREE. Membership Has Its Pleasures.

Dr. Suzy & Pr. Max’s 26th Wedding Anniversarywill broadcast LiVE from Bonoboville on The Dr. Susan Block Show this Saturday night, April 14th, 2017, 10:30pm-Midnight PST. It can be viewed on DrSuzy.Tv or in Bonoboville where you can also chat live in the Bonoboville Studio. This show and all past shows can be viewed in archives on DrSuzy.Tv and can be heard free on DrSusanBlock.com.

Call-In During the Live Broadcast: 1.866.289.7068. Tweet comments and questions @RadioSUZY1 and @DrSuzy. Listen Free or Watch the live show at DrSusanBlock.Tv.

This week’s live broadcast sponsored by Sybian, Condomania, Glyde America ALL-VEGAN Condoms, Agwa Cocoa Leaf Liqueur, Ron de Jeremy Rum Cannabelly & JuxLeather.

 

The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education, based in LA, founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials. The Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and The Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure. A portion of all proceeds goes to help save the highly endangered “make love not war” bonobos from extinction in the Congo and to promote the Bonobo Way around the world.

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The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure is the ultimate antidote to the fear and hatred that is driving us apart. Give it to someone you love, even if that someone is you.

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Dr. Susan Block to present The Bonobo Way of Great Sex at ADULTCON 2017

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This Saturday, September 23rd, Susan M. Block, Ph.D., a.k.a., “Dr. Suzy,” internationally renowned sexologist, best-selling author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure and award-winning talk show host, perhaps best-known for her groundbreaking specials on HBO, will present “The Bonobo Way of Great Sex” at AdultCon LA 2017.

“The Bonobo Way of Great Sex presents a new, sex-positive paradigm for humanity,” says Block, “touching on sexuality, pornography, war, peace, the balance of gender power, as well as building loving relationships and inclusive, “bonoboësque” communities.” Inspired by the real bonobos, “The Bonobo Way of Great Sex” will deliver mind-boggling science (not “alternative facts”) about our “Make Love Not War” Great Ape “kissing cousins,” who swing through the trees—and with each other, as well as invaluable tips to enhance your sex and love life, with humor, passion, compassion and life-changing wisdom.

The old “killer ape” paradigm, based on common chimpanzees and baboons, has long been used to explain—and excuse—human violence, sexual repression, hyper-masculinity, misogyny, the rise of Donald Trump and America’s state of perpetual war. However, bonobo apes, who are at least as close to humans as common chimps, never kill each other. Instead, they utilize good, consensual sex (and lots of it), empathy, female empowerment and the sharing of resources to defuse violent tensions before they explode into murder and war, thereby cultivating an ecosystem of “peace through pleasure.”

How do they do this, and can we humans learn to “make like bonobos” (not baboons) and live in erotic harmony with each other and the Earth? “At this especially turbulent point in human history,” says Dr. Block, “it’s worth our serious—and playful—consideration to give peace through pleasure a chance.”

Times are also turbulent for the highly endangered wild bonobos, now in critical danger of extinction. “Bonobo conservation is integral to the Bonobo Way,” asserts Block. “If we lose the bonobos, then we will lose a key to female empowerment, peace through pleasure and great sex that we can never find again.”

Block has presented Bonobo Way talks at various symposia, conventions and university settings, locally and abroad. At the University of Puerto Rico, Mayagüez, she delivered the keynote address to the world’s first Ecosexuality Symposium at an academic institution. At UC Berkeley, she presented “The Bonobo Way of Nonmonogamy” at the 5th Conference on Monogamy & Nonmonogamy. She gave a talk on the “The Bonobo Way of Inclusivity” at AASECT, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors & Therapists. At DomCon LA 2016, she presented “The Bonobo Way of FemDom Power,” and she was invited back as a “Guest of Honor” to deliver “FemDoms of the Wild: The Bonobo Way of Female Empowerment” at DomCon 2017. Dr. Block has been a visiting lecturer in Human Sexuality departments at USC, UCLA & Caltech, as well as at her alma mater Yale University for Sex Week at Yale and other events. Always a fascinating speaker on multiple subjects, she has addressed a variety of groups from YPO (Young Presidents’ Organization) to LSO (Lifestyles Organization) on sex, love, pleasure, relationships, feminism, culture and the Bonobo Way.

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Dr. Block’s interviews with porn stars on HBO, cable TV and the Internet are legendary, so she looks forward to seeing the stars and meeting the fans at AdultCon. “The Bonobo Way of Great Sex” will explore the full range of erotic possibilities, including how to “release your inner bonobo,” topping it all off with an exciting book-spanking or two (as well as traditional book-signings) with the book that’s inspiring a revolution, The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure. Dr. Block also wrote the definitions of “erotic spanking,” “cuckolding” and “sexual fetishes,” among others, for the Wiley-Blackwell International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality.

AdultCon LA 2017 will be held September 22-24 at the LA Convention Center. Get tickets here. “The Bonobo Way of Great Sex” is scheduled for 4 PM on Saturday, September 23, 2017. For information about Dr. Susan Block’s appearance at AdultCon or to arrange an interview before or during the convention, please call 626-461-5950.

The Guy to talk to: David Rossi Phone: 626.461.5950 Email: [email protected]
Web: thebonoboway.com Watch the Video: http://j.mp/TBWyouTubeTrailer

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WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING about THE BONOBO WAY

“Impactful, often hilarious… wildly entertaining… The Bonobo Way just might hold the key to world peace.”
—HUFFINGTON POST book review by Steve Karras

The Bonobo Way is sexy and fun… damn smart too.”
—”TANGENTIALLY SPEAKING” Podcast Interview with Sex at Dawn author Chris Ryan, Ph.D.

“The Bonobo Way is a pleasure on all counts… and especially significant at this time.”
—Dr. SerenaGaia Anderlini D’Onofrio, co-editor of Ecosexuality

The Bonobo Way is a refreshing must-read for our times.”
—Dr. Patti Britton, American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) Past President

“Bravo Dr. Block for paving the way to a hopefully more bonobo future.”
—Vanessa Woods, Duke University primatologist and author of Bonobo Handshake

“Brilliant… A great book about human sexuality.”
—Sherry Rehman, Sr. VP of Pakistan People’s Party & former Ambassador to the U.S.

“Amazing! Dr. Susan Block is an ecosexual visionary.”
—Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., ecosexual artist and filmmaker

“The Bonobo Way is marvelous! A happy book for a happy life in a happier world.”
—Xaviera Hollander, author of The Happy Hooker

“Awesome book… Excellently written and transformative.”
—Dorion Sagan, science writer and author of Death & Sex

“Dr. Susan Block has a new understanding of how to enhance our intimate relationships!”
—Progressive News Network interview with Dr. Diana Wiley

“Adventure, optimism, and love is what Dr. Susan Block is all about… Patients become fans, and fans become evangelists.”
—CITIZEN LA Inside the Pleasure Compound with Dr. Susan Block

“AMAZING… The Bonobo Way shines a light on humanity’s capacity for peace.”
—Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, author of Wired to Create

“I love every page of The Bonobo Way!”
—Christian Bruyère, producer of Champions of the Wild

The Bonobo Way is available in kindle and paperback on Amazon or direct from the publisher. A portion of all proceeds from book sales goes to Lola ya Bonobo and the Bonobo Conservation Initiative, as well as other organizations that are actively helping to protect and save the highly endangered wild bonobos from extinction.

Tired of conventional sexuality experts? Dr. Block is available for comment or interview. Would you like to review The Bonobo Way? Contact us today.

David Rossi
Phone: 626.461.5950 Email: [email protected] Web:thebonoboway.com

Watch the Video: http://j.mp/TBWyouTubeTrailer

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“No On Prop 60” with Adult Superstar Julia Ann & Free Speech Coalition Advocate Siouxsie Q James this Saturday on DrSuzy.Tv!

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This Saturday night, September 17th, The Dr. Susan Block Show will examine California Proposition 60, on the ballot November 8, which targets adult industry performers, requiring them to wear condoms and other latex barriers (including goggles!) on all film shoots, and incentivizing California residents to sue adult performers and producers for not complying with the proposition. Joining international sexologist and Bonobo Way author Dr. Susan Block live in-studio will be multi-award-winning adult superstar Julia Ann, leading the fight against Prop 60, as well as Free Speech Coalition (FSC) activist adult performer, “The Whore Next Door” columnist for the SF Weekly and Truth, Justice and the American Whore author Siouxsie Q James.

“During this divisive election season, it’s difficult to get Republicans, Democrats, and Independents to agree on anything, but Prop 60 is so poorly drafted that (it) is the only measure on the November ballot with tri-partisan opposition,” states the FSC. “Julia Ann joins the California Democratic Party, the California Republican Party, the California Libertarian Party, Equality California, The Transgender Law Center, the Los Angeles LGBT Center, AIDS Project Los Angeles, San Francisco AIDS Foundation, San Francisco Medical Society, the Friends Committee on National Legislation, the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee, Free Speech Coalition and a growing list of organizations that oppose Proposition 60.”

Dr. Suzy is excited to host the dazzling, world-renowned Julia Ann, whom she first interviewed back in 1997 for Playboy TV when the voluptuous blonde was a member of the popular duo “Blondage” with her friend and fellow bombshell Janine Lindemulder. Since then, Julia Ann has gone on to become an adult superstar, earning several AVN awards, including “Best Actress” in 2004 and “Best MILF Performer” in 2010, 2011 and 2013, as well as four XRCO awards and a 2014 XBIZ award for “MILF Performer of the Year.”

Julia Ann’s political activism comes on the heels of being “frustrated with the AHF [AIDS Healthcare Foundation, the sole proponents of the initiative] Prop 60 commercials and it was so bothersome to know that we just can’t compete with that type of campaign since we don’t have the financial means,” she explains. “However, the Adult Industry has cultivated an extreme social media presence and I thought a grassroots effort could shed light onto what is really happening for us and how we truly feel. So, I sat down with the No On 60 buttons [designed by Isabel Dresler] that were already created and formed social media templates so we could educate voters and raise awareness about on our opposition.”

One Weapon of Mass Discussion on sure-to-be sapiosexually stimulating show will be: ARE YOU NEXT? If Prop 60 passes, will its supporters then demand that you and your friends wear condoms and other latex barriers when engaging certain kinds of sex that they deem dangerous? What if you film yourself and your honey making love?

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Click Here to RSVP to attend this show in the “Speakeasy” studio audience and share pleasures under the palms of Bonoboville this Saturday, or call 626.461.5950 (you can call anytime; someone is always here). Studio doors open at 9:30 pm. Studio Members FREE. Membership Has Its Pleasures.

No Prop 60″ will broadcast LiVE from Bonoboville on The Dr. Susan Block Show Saturday night, September 17th, 2016, 10:30pm-Midnight PST. It can be viewed on DrSuzy.Tv or in Bonoboville where you can also chat live in the Bonoboville Studio. This show and all past shows can be viewed in archives on DrSuzy.Tv and can be heard free on DrSusanBlock.com.

Call-In During the Live Broadcast: 1.866.289.7068. Tweet comments and questions @RadioSUZY1 and @DrSuzy. Listen Free or Watch the live show at DrSusanBlock.Tv. This week’s live broadcast sponsored by Sybian, Condomania, Glyde America ALL-VEGAN Condoms, Agwa Cocoa Leaf Liqueur, Ron de Jeremy Rum & JuxLeather.

The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education, based in LA, founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials. The Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and The Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure. A portion of all proceeds goes to help save the highly endangered “make love not war” bonobos from extinction in the Congo and to promote the Bonobo Way around the world.

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Make 2016 your Year of the Bonobo and get your copy of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure. Already got one? Give it to someone you love.

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Dr. Susan Block to present the Bonobo Way at AASECT 2016

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Los Angeles, California: June 1, 2016 — Susan M. Block, Ph.D., a.k.a., “Dr. Suzy,” internationally renowned sexologist and best-selling author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure (Gardner & Daughters Publishers), will present “The Bonobo Way: An Alternative Great Ape Paradigm for Human Sexuality” at the 48th Annual Conference of The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT), to be held June 8-12 in San Juan, Puerto Rico.

“I look forward to sharing this very special portion of the ‘Bonobo Sutra’ with my fellow sex educators and therapists,” says Dr. Block who has been presenting various aspects of the Bonobo Way, locally and abroad, at different academic and lifestyle conferences over the past few months, including the keynote address to the world’s first “ecosexuality” symposium in an academic institution, convened at the University of Puerto Rico, Mayagüez by UPRM Humanities Professor SerenaGaia Anderlini D’Onofrio. She also gave a talk on nonmonogamy among bonobos at the 5th International Conference on Monogamy & Nonmonogamy at UC Berkeley; and she just delivered a rousing presentation at DomCon LA 2016 on bonobos as the “Most FemDom Apes on Earth.”

Next, on Saturday, June 11, she will speak at AASECT 2016 where “Putting the Pieces Together: Inclusivity in Practice” will be the conference theme. “A vital piece of the human sexuality puzzle is our interconnected Great Ape nature,” says Block, an AASECT member since 2005. “Bonobos are the most inclusive apes on Earth. They love to share food and sex with friends and strangers. This is deeply linked to another “piece” of the puzzle that bonobos “put together”: peace through pleasure. Bonobos are the only great apes who have never been seen killing each other. We humans can learn a lot from our bonobo cousins about our own sexual diversity, erotic inclusivity, gender equality and inherent potential for harmony. As sex therapists, we can help our clients to release their ‘inner bonobos’ consensually, relatively safely and enjoyably. And speaking of joy, I am overjoyed to return to Puerto Rico, the ecosexual ‘Island of Enchantment’ and a wonderful place to learn about love.”

A consistent message in all of Block’s Bonobo Way talks is the critical importance of saving the highly endangered wild bonobos from imminent extinction, and she encourages her audiences to “adopt a bonobo” with Lola ya Bonobo or the Bonobo Conservation Initiative, among others. “Bonobo conservation is integral to the Bonobo Way,” says Block. “If we lose the bonobos, then we lose a key to understanding human sexuality that we can never find again.”

AASECT 2016 will be held June 8-12, 2016 at the Condado Plaza Hilton in San Juan, Puerto Rico. “The Bonobo Way: An Alternative Great Ape Paradigm for Human Sexuality” is scheduled for 4:15-5:45 pm on June 11, 2016. For information about the Bonobo Way at AASECT 2016 or to arrange an interview with Dr. Susan Block, please call 626-461-5950.

Contact: David Rossi Phone: 626.461.5950 Email: [email protected]
Web: thebonoboway.com Watch the Video: http://j.mp/TBWyouTubeTrailer

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HUMANS ARE LOVING THE BONOBO WAY

The Bonobo Way is a refreshing must-read for our times.”
—Dr. Patti Britton, American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) Past President

“Impactful, often hilarious… wildly entertaining… The Bonobo Way just might hold the key to world peace.”
—HUFFINGTON POST book review by Steve Karras

The Bonobo Way is sexy and fun… damn smart too.”
Sex at Dawn, author Christopher Ryan, Ph.D.

“The Bonobo Way is a pleasure on all counts… and especially significant at this time.”
—Dr. SerenaGaia Anderlini D’Onofrio, co-editor of Ecosexuality

“Bravo Dr. Block for paving the way to a hopefully more bonobo future.”
—Vanessa Woods, Duke University primatologist and author of Bonobo Handshake

“Brilliant… A great book about human sexuality.”
—Sherry Rehman, Sr. VP of Pakistan People’s Party & former Ambassador to the U.S.

“Amazing! Dr. Susan Block is an ecosexual visionary.”
—Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., ecosexual artist and filmmaker

“The Bonobo Way is marvelous! A happy book for a happy life in a happier world.”
—Xaviera Hollander, author of The Happy Hooker

“Awesome book… Excellently written and transformative”
—Dorion Sagan, science writer and author of Death & Sex

“Dr. Susan Block has a new understanding of how to enhance our intimate relationships!”
—Progressive News Network interview with Dr. Diana Wiley

“Adventure, optimism, and love is what Dr. Susan Block is all about… Patients become fans, and fans become evangelists.”
—CITIZEN LA Inside the Pleasure Compound with Dr. Susan Block

“AMAZING… The Bonobo Way shines a light on humanity’s capacity for peace.”
—Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, author of Wired to Create

“The Bonobo Way will save our planet! Dr. Susan’s insight into sexuality is not only incredible…it is also the sexual revolution, easily mapped out, that we have been waiting for.”
–Tracy Vanity, blogger

“I love every page of The Bonobo Way!”
—Christian Bruyère, producer of Champions of the Wild

The Bonobo Way is available in kindle and paperback on Amazon or direct from the publisher. A portion of all proceeds from book sales goes to Lola ya Bonobo and the Bonobo Conservation Initiative, as well as other organizations actively helping to protect and save the highly endangered wild bonobos from extinction.

Tired of conventional sexuality experts? Dr. Block is available for comment or interview. Would you like to review The Bonobo Way? Contact us today.

David Rossi
Phone: 626.461.5950 Email: [email protected] Web:thebonoboway.com

Watch the Video: http://j.mp/TBWyouTubeTrailer

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8 Great Benefits of Masturbation

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by Dr. Susan Block

It’s Masturbation Month, a time to honor and extol the virtues of sex-for-one. Virtues? For centuries, masturbation has been denigrated as self-abuse. However, more and more, we are calling it what it is: self-pleasure. It feels good. And it is good. But what is it good for? A lot more than you can stuff in a hand basket. But the following are 8 great basic benefits to masturbation, wanking, jacking off, jilling off, walking the dog, polishing the pearl, spanking the monkey, dancing around the Maypole, sexual solitaire, self-pleasure or, as Doonesbury calls it, ”self-dating,” starting with the fact that….

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  1. Masturbation is Natural.

Bonobos do it.  So do dolphins, horses, dogs, kangaroos, porcupines and most other animals, including humans. Ultrasounds show us that many fetuses-in-utero put their tiny hands between their little legs… and masturbate.

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  1. Masturbation is Convenient.

As Truman Capote once wisely pointed out, “You don’t have to dress up for it.” Come as you are. The Greek philosopher Diogenes praised the extraordinary physical efficiency of masturbation: “Would to heaven that it were enough to rub one’s stomach in order to allay one’s hunger.” The folks who brought the world democracy understood the powerful, positive benefits of solo sex. So did their gods. Maybe we should too.

 

Discussing the benefits of self-pleasure while riding a Sybian. Photo: Ono Bo

Teaching the benefits of self-pleasure while riding a Sybian on The Dr. Susan Block Show. Photo: Ono Bo

 

 

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  1. Masturbation is Ecosexual.

Though masturbation has been called “self-pollution,” it actually produces very little real pollution (unless you toss your tissues out the car window). Regardless, masturbation is a great form of population control. You won’t get pregnant from it. Do it in the great outdoors (but not in a park where you’ll get arrested), and feel at-one-with-nature. Love the Earth You Make Love On. Just watch out for the poison oak. Also, some fruits and vegetables seem shaped for masturbation. Try a nice cucumber or turnip—Nature’s Own Dildos!

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  1. Masturbation is Safe.

As long as you’re not playing auto-asphyxiation games or sticking lightbulbs up your rectum, you won’t get hurt. As long as you’re just using your own toys or putting condoms on the ones you share, you won’t get an STD. Even more important, you won’t hurt other people. Just in case you’re clueless about consent, masturbation keeps you from raping anyone. If you have problematic sexual desires, if you want to do illegal, immoral, nonconsensual things to people, just don’t do them! Masturbate.

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  1. Masturbation is Relaxing.

Partner sex is more romantic, but it can be stressful in ways that masturbation is not. Director Milos Foreman said, “What I like about masturbation: You don’t have to talk afterwards.” No pressure. Just pleasure. Much like partner sex, orgasms through masturbation can relax you deeply, release your stress and help you to get the deep rest that your body needs.

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  1. Masturbation is Educational.

When it comes to learning your own turn-ons physically and mentally, you can’t beat masturbation education. You can use your self-pleasure time to practice your kegels, tantric breathing or the stop-start technique. You can test new sex toys more easily when solo-sexing than when you’re with a partner. But mutual masturbation is also educational: show and tell your partner what you like. Talk about home schooling! You won’t want to play hooky from this.

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  1. Masturbation is Healthy.

Masturbation, especially when climaxing with a good heart-pumping orgasm, is a great cardio workout, good for your heart rate, blood pressure and brain chemistry. It also protects against yeast infections in women and prostate cancer in men, not to mention, masturbation releases mood-boosting endorphins, and it can clear your sinuses, at least temporarily. It also keeps you in shape for partner sex. “Use it or lose it!” they say, and masturbation uses it. Self-pleasure is healing in a million different ways, physical and mental. Heal your sexual shame through self-pleasure! Most importantly, masturbation will not kill you. Auto-asphyxiation notwithstanding, nobody dies from masturbation.

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  1. Masturbate: Know Thy Sexual Self!

Nobody talks about it, but the longest term relationship you’ll ever have with anyone is the one you have with yourself. So why not make it a good one? Masturbation enables you get to “Know Thyself” (with a hat tip to Socrates), sexually speaking. So, get into it, and get to know you. Treat yourself. Just for a few moments, focus on your pleasure without worrying about anyone else but you. Turn self-pleasure into self-love. And no, that doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you feel good. And when you feel good, you’re more likely to be good to others.

Merry Masturbation Month from Bonoboville. Photo: Jux Lii

Merry Masturbation Month from Bonoboville. Photo: Jux Lii

So go ahead and spank that monkey shamelessly, at least through Masturbation Month. Make love to someone you love… even if that someone is you.

And if you need a hand—a friendly, supportive, knowledgeable, sex-educational guide into your self-pleasure exploration or celebration—the sex Therapists Without Borders of the Block Institute are just a phone call away. Call 213-291-9497

© May 1, 2016. Susan Block, Ph.D., a.k.a. “Dr. Suzy,” is a world renowned LA sex therapist, author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure and horny housewife, occasionally seen on HBO and other channels. For speaking engagements, call 626-461-5950.

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Dr. Suzy & Pr. Max’s 24th Wedding Anniversary Bacchanal in Bonoboville this Saturday, April 9th!

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Saturday night, April 9th, The Dr. Susan Block Show will celebrate international sexologist and Bonobo Way author Dr. Susan Block and publisher/producer Pr. Maximillian R. Lobkowicz di Filangieri‘s 24th Wedding Anniversary. Joining the ridiculously happy couple live in-studio will be a star-studded guest list, including Guests of Honor Mistress Selina Minx, Ron Jeremy, Jessica JaymesJohn Barrymore, Eric John & Riley Reyes, Amor Hilton, Luc Wylder & Alexandra Silk (aka Silky), Isiah Maxwell, Jessica Shores (aka J-sho), Master D, Onyx Muse, Anthony Lee Winn, Tammie Parrott, Corpsy, Joe Williamson, Luzer Twersky, Loni Legend, Barry Fisher, Me$$ed UpIkkor the Wolf,  Nori Carter, Daryl Wright and DrSuzy.Tv associate producer Dayton Rains.

An orgasmic anniversary cheesecake will be whipped up with pansexual love by Rawkstar Chef Belive, aka Brian Lucas, who will attend with renowned Django Unchained star of stage and screen Daniel Watts.  (together they are famous as the interracial couple cited by LAPD for allegedly having sex in the car, though they were fully clothed). Ron Jeremy (not just a penis, but a pianist as well) will play a medley of classics and Nori Carter will play his original music on Dr. Suzy’s grandmother’s 1926 Steinway medium grand piano (just pulled out of storage and tuned by Dan the Piano Man!) in honor of the 24th Wedding Anniversary, the symbol of which is “Musical Instruments.” Mistress Selina Minx will play harp or ukelele, depending on her mood. Other guests will also show off their musical talents in this sure-to-be amazing celebration of sex, art, music and long-term love. And yeah, there could be some sex…

Click Here to RSVP to attend this show in the “Speakeasy” studio audience or call 626.461.5950. Studio doors open at 9:30 pm. Studio Members FREE. Membership Has Its Pleasures. For press passes, please call 626-461-5950 anytime 24/7 and ask for David Rossi or email DrSusanBlock @ gmail.com.

For a glimpse into Dr. Suzy and Pr. Max’s most recent wedding anniversary bacchanals, check out Citizen LA‘s 2015 report on “The Pleasure Compound I Dr. Susan Block” and “I interviewed Sex Therapist Dr. Suzy at Her 22nd Wedding Anniversary Party” in Vice.

Dr. Suzy & Pr. Max’s 24th Wedding Anniversarywill broadcast LIVE from Bonoboville on The Dr. Susan Block Show Saturday night, April 9th, 2016, 10:30pm-Midnight PST. It can be viewed on DrSuzy.Tv or in Bonoboville where you can also chat live in the Bonoboville Studio.

Call-In During the Live Broadcast: 1.866.289.7068. Tweet comments and questions @RadioSUZY1 and @DrSuzy. Listen Free or Watch the live show at DrSusanBlock.Tv. This week’s live broadcast sponsored by Sybian, Condomania, Glyde America ALL-VEGAN Condoms, Agwa Cocoa Leaf Liqueur, Ron de Jeremy Rum, JuxLeather, Wein-Erotik-Edition.

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Comicon Provocateur & Webcam Performance Artist ARI DEE on DrSuzy.Tv this Saturday

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This Saturday night, June 27th, The Dr. Susan Block Show will explore Comicon cosplay and webcam performance artistry. Joining international sexologist and Bonobo Way author Dr. Susan Block in-studio live on the air will be Comicon “Model and Provocateur” Ari Dee.

Comicon Provocateur Ari Dee” on The Dr. Susan Block Show will broadcast LIVE from Bonoboville Saturday night, June 27th, 2015, 10:30pm-Midnight PDT on DrSuzy.Tv.

Click Here to RSVP to attend this show in the “Speakeasy” studio audience or call 626.461.5950. Studio doors open at 9:30 pm. Studio Members FREE. Membership Has Its Pleasures.

Call-In During the Live Broadcast: 1.866.289.7068.

Tweet comments and questions @RadioSUZY1and @DrSuzy.

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This week’s live broadcast sponsored by Agwa Cocoa Leaf Liqueur, Dirty Tequila, Cold Cock Whiskey, Condomania and JuxLeather

Want to “define our terms”? Dr. Suzy wrote the definitive definition of “striptease” for the new Wiley-Blackwell International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality

The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education, based in LA, founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials. The Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and The Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure. A portion of all proceeds goes to help save the highly endangered “make love not war” bonobos from extinction in the Congo and to promote the Bonobo Way around the world.

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Abby Martin On The Dr. Susan Block Show Next Saturday, April 18th!

 

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Next Saturday, April 18th, 2015, 10:30 pm PST The Dr. Susan Block Show will present a special evening with Abby Martin, the controversial American journalist, an important voice in alternative media, former host of Breaking the Set on RT America network, co-founder of the citizen journalism site, Media Roots, member of the board of directors of the Media Freedom Foundation which manages Project Censored, and powerhouse peace activist. An avid fan of Abby Martin’s paradigm-breaking show “Breaking the Set” and passionate peace activism, Dr. Susan Block looks forward to their in-studio interview on Saturday night, April 18th.

“An Evening with Abby Martin” on The Dr. Susan Block Show will air LIVE Saturday night, April 18th,  2015, 10:30pm-Midnight PDT on DrSuzy.Tv. 

Click Here to RSVP to attend this show in the “Speakeasy” studio audience or call 626.461.5950. Studio doors open at 9:30 pm.

Call-In During the Live Broadcast: 1.866.289.7068.
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This week’s live broadcast sponsored by Condomania, JuxLeather, Agwa Cocoa Leaf Liqueur and Dirty Tequila!

Abby Martin is also a visual artist, and an exhibit of her artwork opens at The Lab in Ventura on April 17, with proceeds going to the victims of police violence.

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Spring has sprung! Bonobos just wan to have fun! Make 2015 your Year of the Bonobo and get your copy of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure.

The Dr. Susan Block Show is produced by The Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences, an international center for sexual expression, therapy and education, based in LA, founded in 1991 by Susan M. Block, PhD, world-renowned Yale-educated sexologist, best-selling author and host of HBO specials. The Institute’s mission is to help individuals, couples and communities enhance their sexuality and improve their lives based upon Dr. Block’s philosophy of Ethical Hedonism and The Bonobo Way of Peace through Pleasure. A portion of all proceeds goes to help save the highly endangered “make love not war” bonobos from extinction in the Congo and to promote the Bonobo Way around the world.

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