Should Jessica Open Up to Her Next BF about Her Sex Soirées or Lead a Double Life?
Jessica calls into DrSuzy.Tv with the quintessential “lifestyle” issue.
“I’ve had a couple of orgies,” she explains. Wow, 26-years-old and quite the sex party hostess!
The problem, Jessica continues, is that every time she tells a new boyfriend about the orgies, he breaks up with her.
So, she asks me, should she keep her orgiastic exploits a “secret” or find someone who will accept this somewhat taboo part of her?
To Tell or Not to Tell…
That is the question! As I see it, Jessica needs to choose between two schools of sexual adventurism, the European and the American, which break down – more or less – like this:
1) The European Way: You lead a double life and keep your extracurricular secret from your significant other. This is sometimes referred to as cheating, but with the caveat that you will do your utmost to ensure that your partner will never be confronted with the truth. If and when they are, all bets are off. That’s the downside of doing it Euro-style; learning the truth of your partner’s lust can destroy your trust.
2) The American Way: You’re honest about your sexuality, even if it means alienating a potential partner. This might involve engaging in the extracurricular sex with them or just being open about it, even if they don’t join in. I realize that honesty isn’t all that “American” – at least not in politics – but this is how many kinky sex experts differentiate stealthy sex parties (Euro) from honest orgies (USA).
There are probably Asian and African Ways as well, but these seem to break down the basic choices open to Jessica’s conundrum.
Though I choose the “American Way” for myself and generally recommend it to others, I understand and even respect the European “double” lifestyle, despite its inherent dangers. Regardless of the way we choose to mix the flavors of our sex lives with the palate of our day to day, there will always be benefits and pitfalls.
To help her make her own choice, I ask Jessica: Are you the kind of person who likes to share what’s going on in your life with the person you love?
What do you think Jessica says? What way does she choose – European or American? Watch and find out!
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#1Lynn FrieldsJuly 31, 2024, 4:32 am
Great call! Dr Suzy’s recommendation to find a boyfriend from within the swinger lifestyle is excellent advice. Find friends who enjoy your interests. Go bonobos!
#2CCJuly 31, 2024, 5:32 am
I agree with Dr. Suzy’s advice in this instance, your partner should have a similar sexual style. Otherwise it is an uphill battle!
#3Missy WildeJuly 31, 2024, 4:41 pm
Short and very sweet – this “perfect call” really summarizes the kinky adventurer’s dilemma – to share or not to share?
#4Dalton JackJuly 31, 2024, 4:46 pm
In the hellstream of politics, a lot of lunatics are out there spouting off ignorantly about “satanic orgies” these days, so thank you for providing a glimpse into the world of real orgies – which may entail relationship issues – but is basically loving, consensual and a valid “lifestyle” choice.
#5PersiaRaeJuly 31, 2024, 8:44 pm
Right on Dr. Suzy is always educating couples and the individuals in those couples to embrace their own sexual nature. Great Clip. Keep the Sex Calls series going!
#6BaeAugust 2, 2024, 6:10 am
Love these calls! I feel like i’m back in college taking a sex course from the Great Dr. Suzy! The more I listen to these calls the more I embrace my natural sexual nature. Keep them coming!
#7HarryAugust 2, 2024, 9:03 pm
Wow, talk about getting a backstage pass to the cool kid’s club. I love how Dr. Suzy lifts the veil and gives us access to an amazing world that we all fantasize about.
#8richbigglyAugust 3, 2024, 1:24 am
It takes a lot of guts to reveal secret parts of yourself to someone that you’ve come to trust, and it definitely hurts when it ain’t taken well. But the good doctor always does a great job of pushing the truth; you gotta find someone who accepts every part of you.
#9Gideon GraysonAugust 3, 2024, 9:19 am
Great call and advice!
#10RichBigglyAugust 4, 2024, 2:40 am
Recommending honesty is timeless advice and always given by the wisest among us. It’s clear that Dr. Suzy knows what works best in the long run for most couples, which is why I don’t hesitate to tune in and catch what nuggets of wisdom she’ll drop next!
#11Ruby ArubaAugust 4, 2024, 3:26 am
This is a great interview with an interesting conversation and topic, I am not sure what my style is, I was raised in a European fashion but I am often wary of keeping secrets so I am conflicted about my style
#12PersiaRaeAugust 4, 2024, 7:12 am
Right on! Dr. Suzy is always educating individuals, couples and even groups about how best to embrace their own sexual nature, even when it comes to “secret orgies”. Very stimulating clip – in more ways than one. Keep this Sex Calls series coming!
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