Exhibitionism Therapy

Show off!

So what if you are? We all go through life performing. Being the center of attention, erotic or otherwise, can boost your ego. On the other hand, it can also be embarrassing. It is always, at its essence, revealing.

Some people spend their careers in the spotlight, like athletes, comedians, actors… and that special class of actors… no, not reality TV stars—porn stars—the most uninhibited exhibitionists of all. They know full well the erotic charge of exposing their bodies, alone or in explicit performance with someone else, for an appreciative audience.

But what about you? Do you ever feel like you want to be a star, sexually speaking? Do you like to show off? To show it off? What does it mean to be seen?

To be seen is to be immortal, if only for a moment, through the eyes of another. Triumphant. Shining like a star. Recognized. Celebrated. For that moment, you rule the world.

Or maybe you’re a more mischievous exhibitionist. Do you like to play? Shake your booty? Strike a sultry pose for the camera? Strut your stuff through cyberspace? Undress in front of your window with the curtains open? Get “caught in the act” of doing something naughty?

Do you fantasize that people are watching you, whether you’re by yourself or with someone else, engaging in the most intimate and erotic of human activities? How about exposing yourself to a stranger? How about millions of strangers clicking their mice in rhythm to your thunderous orgasm? Marilyn Monroe fantasized about being nude on the pulpit of her Church worshiped by the congregation. So, what about you? Are you Marilyn?

If so, there are places for you to take it off for an appreciative audience. Maybe not too many churches, but there are lots of strip clubs, swing parties, The Dr. Susan Block Show, festivals, parades, nudist beaches and many other venues and events centered around the promotion and consensual enjoyment of public exhibitionism. Here is where your exhibitionism, as long as you are reasonably attractive, will be welcome and applauded.

But what if you’re not exactly Marilyn? What if you’re not so attractive, at least not in the conventional sense, but you still yearn to show off like a shining star? What should you do? And what if your preferred form of exhibitionism involves exposing yourself where you’re not necessarily so “welcome,” where exposure is taboo? What if you’re excited by the possibility of getting caught with your proverbial pants down? What if you’re a “naughty exhibitionist”?

Well….are you a naughty exhibitionist? Have you ever masturbated with your door unlocked, knowing that at any moment your roommate, your sister, the babysitter, your neighbor, your wife’s best friend, the maid, your executive assistant, your mother-in-law or even your mom, could walk in and find you jerking away? How shocked would she be? Can you imagine the look on her face? Maybe she’d like it… maybe it would even turn her on, and then maybe it would turn into the most amazing sex you’ve ever had. Then again, maybe she’d be upset and punish, dominate or humiliate you in a really hot way, spank you or maybe crossdress you or take a photo of you and post it online. Then again, maybe not… In fantasy, it might always be exciting, but in real life, it can turn into a real mess…

Not that there’s anything really wrong or unethical about public exposure or masturbation, at least not in our opinion, as long as only consenting adults are involved. It might be annoying, but it doesn’t really hurt others, like stealing, assault, or other violent crimes do. But most societies consider “public indecency” a crime by law and, if you do get caught showing off in the real world, you know it wouldn’t be anywhere near as fun as the fantasy. Court time, court costs, jail time, public ridicule (which is very different and a lot more problematic than a “public disgrace” or humiliation fantasy) or, possibly the loss of your job, or family. Not very arousing or appealing, is it?

When politicians show off their exhibitionism, publicly or privately, they risk “public disgrace” in various forms. One of the most dramatic stories of political erotic exhibitionism is right in the Bible. In 2 Samuel 6:12-22, after King David captures Jerusalem, he dances in front of the Ark, wearing nothing but a loincloth (the Biblical version of a thong). Though David pleases the crowd with his exhibitionist antics and gifts of cake and dates, his wife Michal sneers at him like he’s no better than a Peeping Tom. “How the King of Israel has distinguished himself today, going around half-naked in full view of the slave girls of his servants as any vulgar fellow would!”

David doesn’t care. He is the King, after all. The exhibitionist revelations of modern leaders—from Weiner to Trump—are a lot more complex.

So this simple desire to be seen is not always so simple to fulfill. Do you know what we mean? Do you enjoy exhibitionism? Do you need to talk about it? Whether you need serious therapy to help you control your desire to expose yourself nonconsensually, a fun fantasy to help you explore the pleasures of exhibitionism, or if there’s something else you need to talk about, the world-renowned webcam and telephone sex therapists of the Dr. Susan Block Institute are just a phone call away. You can talk to Dr. Block herself or to one of our other therapists, each excellent in her or his specialty. You can also arrange for an in-person appointment at our offices in Los Angeles, and our webcam, sext and phone sex therapy services are open anytime 24/7. Call us from anywhere in the world at 213.291.9497.

And yes, you can masturbate, if you want, during sessions. And no, there is no other sex therapy or phone sex service quite like ours. Our form of sex therapy is unique in that we can discuss and help you with your real-life situations, and/or we can enter the Erotic Theater of the Mind (your mind or ours, or a combination) and roleplay your exhibitionistic fantasies—even the forbidden kind that would get you into serious trouble if acted out in real life. In fact, one of our specialties is “the forbidden,” the stuff you can’t talk about to anyone else. After all, pretty much everything is safe on the phone—where you can close your eyes and fantasize the wildest scenes possible through the hidden camera of your imagination. Moreover, your secrets are safe with us. Therapy with the Institute is completely private, discreet and confidential. Of course, we can’t tell you their names, but we count many celebrities and world leaders among our clients, so we understand the importance of strict confidentiality. We have been around and we intend to stay around, and we value your privacy as we value our reputation.

Exhibitionist phone sex therapy is fun, satisfying, edifying, defuses problematic desires (so you’re less likely to get into trouble) and often leads to great insights into your sexuality and other aspects of your deeper self. We’ve found the phone—private, intimate and essentially non-visual—to be an excellent vehicle for this kind of erotic insight. Then again, exhibitionism is primarily a visual interest, and you can also enjoy a very personal exhibitionistic experience tailored to your desires with one of our webcam sex therapists.

Whatever your exhibitionistic pleasure or problem, we’re here for you, 24/7, every day and night, including holidays, whether you need to talk…or be watched. Give us a call anytime at 213.291.9497.

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Voyeurism Sex Therapy

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“All the world’s a stage” (Shakespeare’s As You Like It), on which some of us love to play, and some of us prefer to watch. The players tend to get the glory, but without an audience there’s not much of a show.

Let’s face it: lots of us like to watch. We’re not talking Shakespeare here, though that can be erotic as well… we’re talking about sex. We’re talking about the thrill of watching another’s most intimate activities, getting turned on by seeing someone else get turned on.

Would you say this is you? If so, you might be a voyeur. Everyone’s a little bit of one, at least. We can all get turned on by the sight of something or someone really sexy. But some of us are more voyeuristic than others. Some of us like to cultivate our voyeuristic tendencies like wine connoisseurs cultivate their palettes, tasting different vintages. Perhaps you like to look through the silver screen into erotic worlds you’ve never seen. Maybe it’s a film or a digital stream on your computer or phone. Porn, after all, is the most common kind of erotic voyeurism going on in the modern world. And despite its popular explosion in the early 21st Century, visual erotica has been with us since humanity first started cave painting.

Then again, maybe you like to see it live, perhaps in a strip club, or fantasize about the quintessential live sex performance, with you sitting back like a sultan with your harem of exhibitionistic sex performance artists titillating your fancy in every way imaginable to delight your eyes and ears. Then again, maybe your favorite type of voyeurism is a bit more secretive. Do you like to sneak a peak through a keyhole, a hole in a shower wall or up through the floorboards of an old porch, like a child discovering something naughty? Do you like to look through your neighbor’s window, catching them in an intimate moment: a couple arguing and then making passionate love, a he-man flexing his naked muscles in his home gym, a beautiful woman undressing alone in her bathroom, stepping into the Jacuzzi, spreading her legs and masturbating to an aquatic orgasm on one of the ferociously whirling jets? Or do you like to combine exhibitionism and voyeurism, and just watch yourself in the mirror?

What does it mean to be seen? To be seen is to be a star. A sex symbol–immortal, if only for a moment. So what about seeing? To see is to glimpse a special secret, to go behind the curtain, to gain knowledge. Knowledge is power, and sexual knowledge is sexual power. No wonder you feel so excited and even powerful when you see someone or something special in a sexual way. No wonder we all can appreciate the erotic pleasures of voyeurism.

The passive delights of voyeurism are especially popular among the rich and powerful. Pope Alexander IX was one of history’s most decadent voyeurs. That’s right, a Catholic pope was openly enjoying banquets such as what follows, as described by his master of ceremonies Burchard, Bishop of Ostia: “Fifty reputable courtesans supped at the Vatican…and after supper they danced about with the servants and others in that place, first in their clothes and then nude…candelabras and lighted candles were set on the floor and chestnuts were strewn about and the naked courtesans on hands and feet gathered them up, wriggling in and out among the candelabras…Then all those present in the hall were carnally treated in public… The pope gave prizes to the men who copulated the most times with the courtesans.” Pope Alexander IX of the notorious Borgia family ruled the Catholic faithful from 1492 until his death in 1503 and was known for his libertine pleasures as well as for his relatively benign treatment of Jews, slaves and others. Possibly all that voyeuristic entertainment helped to make him more “Catholic,” at least in the liberal, compassionate sense of the word. Other famous voyeurs from the annals of history include Lord Byron, Casanova, Charlie Chaplin, King Farouk, Errol Flynn, Maxim Gorki, Victor Hugo, Martin Luther and the notorious Marquis de Sade.

Some call voyeurs “Peeping Toms,” stemming from the medieval story of Lady Godiva—obviously an aristocratic exhibitionist—who rode through town naked to protest her husband Lord Godiva’s unfair taxing of the townspeople (a bleeding heart liberal show-off if ever there was one). All the townspeople were supposed to close their shutters and not look upon the naked Lady on her horse. But one naughty, rather horny young man named Tom couldn’t resist taking a peep (can you blame him?), so that’s where we get the term “Peeping Tom.”

Though the word “voyeur” comes from the French, voir, “to see”, let’s not forget it really encompasses more than just the eyes. Sound is a big part of the pleasure of sensual observation. Ever find yourself overhearing the muffled moans of a housemate or neighbor banging away across the hall? Maybe you put your ear up to the door for more? Perhaps you’ve passed by an open window and had to stop yourself, listening to the excited breathing, a headboard hitting the wall, heightened voices… coming from just beyond. Did it turn you on? How could it not? Feelings are contagious, after all, and sound transports feelings, especially if the sound is someone sighing or crying out in ecstasy.

Speaking of feelings, do you need to talk about your voyeuristic desires, experiences or fantasies? Are your voyeuristic feelings getting you into trouble—or on the verge of trouble? Are you watching “too much” porn—maybe to the point that you feel (or someone you love feels) you are “addicted”? Are you spending so much time watching that you have no time or energy to actually do anything with your sex life? Would you sometimes rather just watch porn than have sex with your lover, even if she’s right in your bed waiting for you? Are you looking at stuff that’s illegal? Are you spying on someone without their consent? Do you find yourself going to strip clubs instead of doing the hard work of playing the dating game? Are you spending all your money on erotic entertainers who dominate you, turning you into a helpless “money slave” to their demands? Are they humiliating you, cuckolding you and taking advantage of your voyeuristic needs? Has your voyeurism morphed into cheating? Are you doing things that make you feel ashamed and guilty afterwards? Are your natural voyeuristic desires spiraling out of control?

If the answer is yes to any of these questions, you would greatly benefit by talking with someone who understands your desires and can help you regain control and keep them from ruining your life—without being forced to “abstain” or give up the natural, positive pleasures of voyeurism. This is a specialty of ours here at the Dr. Susan Block Institute. Many “regular” sex therapists aren’t comfortable addressing these topics, or perhaps you don’t feel comfortable talking to a regular therapist about your most personal feelings. Whatever your concerns, rest assured, you can talk to us. World-renowned sexologist Dr. Susan Block, a Yale graduate with two doctorates, and the therapists of the Institute, are all excellent in their various fields, utilizing telephone sex therapy to listen, talk to you and help you deal with all your voyeuristic pleasures, problems, questions and desires. You can talk to us about anything, and usually we can help, as we have helped people all over the world for over two decades.

And yes, you can masturbate, if you like, during sessions. And, no, there is no other sex therapy or phone sex service quite like ours. Our form of sex therapy is unique in that we can discuss and help you with your real-life situations, and/or we can enter the Erotic Theater of the Mind (your mind or ours or a combination) and roleplay your voyeuristic fantasies—even the forbidden kind that would get you into serious trouble if you acted them out in real life. In fact, one of our specialties is “the forbidden,” the stuff you can’t talk about to anyone else. After all, pretty much everything is safe on the phone—where you can close your eyes and fantasize the wildest scenes possible through the hidden camera of your imagination. Moreover, rest assured that your secrets are safe with us. Therapy with the Institute is completely private, discreet and confidential. Of course, we can’t tell you their names, but we count many celebrities and world leaders among our clients, so we understand the importance of strict confidentiality. We have been around and we intend to stay around, and we value your privacy as we value our reputation.

Voyeuristic phone sex therapy is fun, satisfying, edifying, defuses desires (so you’re less likely to get into trouble) and often leads to great insights into your sexuality and other aspects of your deeper self. We’ve found the phone—private, intimate and essentially non-visual—to be an excellent vehicle for this kind of erotic insight. Then again, voyeurism is primarily a visual interest, and you can also enjoy a very personal voyeuristic experience tailored to your desires with one of our webcam sex therapists.

Whatever your voyeuristic pleasure or problem, we’re here for you, 24/7, every day and night, including holidays, whether you need to talk…or just watch. Give us a call anytime at 213.291.9497.

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Tantric Phone Sex Therapy

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Do you seek a more spiritual approach to sexuality?

Are you dissatisfied with the sex-negative dogma of most organized religions, yet not entirely comfortable with the crass, objectifying, even soul-deadening lack of intimacy involved in most non-spiritual approaches to sex?

Do you want to find “pure bliss” in this lifetime? Do you desire erotic enlightenment? Do you long to feel the deepest connection between your body and your partner’s, or between the universe inside and outside of you? Would you like to experience better, more frequent, and longer orgasms? Full-body orgasms? Touch-free orgasms? Or are orgasms not really the point for you? Do you yearn for the kind of soul-enlivening intimacy that can only be called “spiritual”?

Are you striving to make sex more than just a path to orgasm, more even than just something “enjoyable”? Do you have a sense that there is a more intense pleasure and deeper understanding and connection available through sex than you have yet experienced? Do you long to practice a more “sacred” sexuality? Or, perhaps your desires are more down to earth… perhaps you are seeking a real solution to a real physical problem. Then again, maybe you are just curious by nature, and are eager to explore new regions of erotic knowledge and understanding.

In any case, if the answer to more than one of the above questions is “yes,” you would benefit from learning something about Tantric Sex.

Although there are many definitions, Tantra is a body of beliefs, practices, and teachings aimed at expanding consciousness, enhancing interconnectedness, and weaving the different natures of the universe into an integrated whole. In fact, the word “tantra” means “weaving,” and tantric ritual seeks to weave the supra-mundane or spiritual with the mundane or physical, identifying the microcosm with the macrocosm. The Tantric practitioner uses yoga, mantras, mudras, mandalas, chakras, yantras and other systems to attempt to manipulate prana, an energy that flows through the universe (inside and outside of one’s own body) to attain goals that may be spiritual, material or both.

“Tantric Sex” forms a subdomain of this overall tradition that weaves the spiritual with the material. Some call tantric sex “neotantra,” identifying it as the “new age” variation or modern Western interpretation of traditional Eastern Hindu and Buddhist tantra. Tantric sex uses special mind and body techniques to cultivate ecstatic consciousness as well as increased spiritual awareness of the erotic consciousness that pervades one’s human nature. Tantric sexual methods may be practiced alone, in partnership, or in the sacred sex rituals of groups.

Tantric sexual practices aren’t “just” about heightened consciousness. They certainly have immediate, tangible benefits: they can make you more anatomically flexible, and can help solve many physical sexual problems. Tantric sex techniques can be a great help to women who have difficulty experiencing orgasm, men with premature ejaculation tendencies and couples who wish to attain more intimacy through sex. These practices can greatly help people to “slow down,” breathe deep and discover new and exciting sexual positions and techniques. Tantric practice can literally breathe new life into your sexuality.

However, Tantra is also about going even deeper…about connecting with the sexuality of your partner (whatever their sex, and whatever way you swing), and connecting with the orgasmic sexuality of the entire universe. Tantric sex practices not only teach us ways of prolonging and enhancing the pleasure of making love, but of utilizing potent orgasmic energies more effectively for your overall health, enlightenment and well-being. This is not only to increase your individual awareness and understanding, but that of the people around you. Overall tantric philosophy focuses on enhancing compassion and consciousness, so as to serve, heal and help others: one of the greatest pleasures in life. Indeed, serving, healing and helping others is exactly what the Block Institute is all about.

Dr. Susan Block, the founder of the Institute, has studied and practiced various forms of Tantra since she was a freshman at Yale University where she meditated and practiced Kundalini yoga and advanced deep breathing techniques for an hour every day before class. She went on to study at Tantric ashrams and communities in Kathmandu, Nepal and Dharamsala, India, as well as with the late Tibetan Tantric Meditation Master Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, eminent embodiment of the “crazy wisdom” (Tibetan: yeshe chölwa) tradition of Tibetan Buddhism, and other Tantric masters and practitioners at Naropa Institute in Boulder, Colorado. She has also studied the work of Guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh aka Osho, and follows Margot Anand’s “Skydancing Tantra,” Annie Sprinkle’s “Tantric Massage,” Diana Daffner’s “Tantric Sex for Busy Couples,” Dr. Judy Kuriansky’s “Idiot’s Guide to Tantric Sex” and Barbara Carrellas’ “Urban Tantra” and the harnessing of ecstasy.

Dr. Block and some of our other more Tantra-skilled therapists here at the Institute can help you with your questions about this ancient and yet thoroughly modern philosophy of the erotic mind and body. We teach many Tantric practices and principles, as well as provide a Tantric Sexual Experience, with a customized combination of Erotic Hypnosis, Guided Masturbation, Erotic Theater Therapy: Fantasy Roleplay, Bonobo Liberation Therapy, Sensual Domination, Sex Therapy, Phone Sex Therapy and Tantric techniques. We teach and practice Tantra over the phone, on webcam and via text and provide in-person Tantric sex education classes and tutorials for some of our regular phone and webcam clients.

If you’re interested in Tantra or any kind of deep, meaningful sexuality, we’re here for you. And you can talk with us any time of day or night, any day of the week, even holidays. We’re ready to teach you, learn from you, guide you, serve you and heal you. We’re here to take your sexuality to a higher level physically and spiritually. Don’t worry about concepts that seem complex or foreign, or even if you feel you’re far from the spiritual state you think you ought to be in. We understand. And we’re here to help. It’s easy to talk to us, and you’ll be surprised how good you’ll feel when you do—body, mind and soul.

Call the Dr. Susan Block Institute anytime at 213.291.9497. We’re open 24/7, and we’re here for you.

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Phallus Fetish – Phone Sex Therapy

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Do penises turn you on? (It’s okay, you can admit it… to us.) Do you find yourself thinking about, visualizing, or fantasizing about them (or one in particular), either a lot, or just a little? Maybe you spend time seeking out the male member in online or other forms of pornography. Maybe you’re considering having a physical, sexual encounter with one in real life (and we don’t mean just your own). Maybe you already have. Maybe it was recently, maybe it was from long ago… perhaps in your childhood, be it friendly or sensual, and now you’re thinking about it again. Maybe you’re considering looking but not touching…or maybe more.

Attraction by a male to the penis of another male is quite common, and comes in an amazing number of variations. It could be just in the context of women; perhaps the idea of a threesome with a hot girl and another guy turns you on. You may have a cuckolding fantasy or a desire to be humiliated. Maybe you like to watch women, but find lesbian porn a little boring. You’d rather see the woman having sex with a guy… yep, there’s that penis. That doesn’t make you weird or gay or even necessarily bi. Not that there’s anything wrong with being gay or bi, but lots of straight men are turned on by looking at cocks. One reason that straight male/female porn is the most popular form for straight guys to watch is that most straight guys enjoy watching a hot woman having sex with a well-hung dude. And the dude himself usually isn’t all that important. It’s the penis.

You might be more turned on when this penis is very large and super hard, attached to a strong, muscular, dominant “real man” who knows how to use it. Then again, maybe you like a penis attached to someone that looks and acts like a female, aka a trans or gender-fluid person… with a penis. Maybe you want to worship what you imagine to be a “superior” penis, or let both your cocks and balls compete in a “sperm war.” Maybe you enjoy being penetrated by a finger or pegged by a strap-on dildo, but feel a penis can do more for you. Maybe your desire for the penis is oral.

Maybe sex isn’t even a part of it… perhaps you are simply fascinated by another man’s member, for reasons which aren’t just about lust. Think about all the phallic objects in the world—from cannons to columns, skyscrapers to obelisks—most of it manmade, and you might realize how many other guys through history have had a bit of a penis fetish.

Either way, in today’s world, even with increasing tolerance for homosexuality, bisexuality, and a healthy sexual curiosity, the same sex attraction to a penis is still stigmatized by a cultural subtext that labels it “deviant.” Even labeling things as simplistically as “gay” or “straight” can actually serve to diminish our understanding, not to mention our pleasure. The truth may be that human sexuality is nuanced, varied, and runs a wide gamut, taking on an infinite variety of forms. But “truth” and “reality” don’t always coincide. So you may find it challenging—to say the least–to work out your feelings or desires, realized or not, when it comes to your interest in penises.

Think about how many guys engaged in games that involved comparing members as little kids. Many go further… touching, playing and performing with them…after all, with a healthy curiosity comes a curiosity about sex, and our bodies. For some, the curiosity was just that. For others, it led to deeper, more long lasting feelings and desires. Now, after some time, maybe you still feel the need to satisfy some unfulfilled urge. Perhaps you want to know how to do this in your life, or maybe you want to gain control over those desires or just work out very confused feelings.

Over all, you just might need to talk with someone who understands and can help you sort out your feelings. Simply trying to repress these feelings can lead to your brain frying, as evidenced by all the closet “homosexuals” recently emerging in the harsh glare of the media from, say, the Republican Party, or the priesthood of the Catholic Church. All the inordinate time spent hypocritically railing against and oppressing feelings that are quite normal can lead to those unexpressed needs and wants festering and mutating until they cause real damage and pain… hence all the scandals that plague many of our most venerated institutions.

Whatever desires you have, if you want to simply learn more about them and what they mean, or if you are concerned that they are “deviant” (they’re not) or that you are “gay” or “bi,” you should know that nothing is wrong, and that we are here to help you cope with your feelings and your situation, your fantasies and your reality. If you just want to explore the aural pleasures of a penis-oriented, sexpert-guided masturbation or erotic hypnosis session, that’s also available to you. Many of our male and female therapists have penis fetishes themselves, and have been through many growth experiences learning about this endlessly fascinating subject. Speaking of fascinating, the Latin root of that word is fascinum, a penis-shaped amulet that ancient Roman men and women wore on necklaces for good luck.

But back to you. Do you need to talk about this? Whether you’re looking for serious therapy or a hot phone sex experience, you can talk to us. In our work, we’ve talked to thousands of people of all kinds in different situations from many different places and cultures around the world—all strictly confidential. We wouldn’t say we’ve “heard it all,” but we’ve heard a LOT. We don’t judge you. We help you. If you don’t feel “normal”, if you need advice, or just want to express yourself, you can call us anytime. Don’t be embarrassed. You’d be amazed at the number of seemingly “mainstream” people who have hidden desires like this under the surface. Even if you’ve never really talked about this before, you’ll be amazed at how easy it is to talk with us, and how good you’ll feel when you do. Call the Dr. Susan Block Institute at 213.291.9497. We’re open 24/7, and we’re here for you.

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Virgin Phone Sex Therapy

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Virgin, huh? That’s got to be tough. Whether by choice or by circumstance (or both), the overwhelming mythology we subscribe to in today’s society is that it’s the norm to lose your virginity by the time you’re out of your teens. Even as prudish, vanilla, hypocritical, and somewhat oppressed as some parts of this society may be, this is the undercurrent of the modern world. Maybe it shouldn’t be that way, and maybe some people are happy as virgins. Maybe you’re one of them! Even so, if you’ve reached your 20s and you still haven’t had sexual intercourse, for better or worse, you’re considered “outside the norm.”

This has to impart some psychological toll. You might feel like a throwback, an outcast, a loser, confused or just plain frustrated. Maybe you want desperately to lose your virginity, but don’t know how, under your circumstances. Maybe you’re not so eager, but you still want to talk about your feelings, desires and options with someone who understands and isn’t going to judge you or make you feel awkward. Perhaps you’re not sure what you want; you just know you need to communicate, to sort it all out. But you’d feel weird talking about this to friends or family, let alone clergy, and understandably so. You may not even feel comfortable discussing this with a regular therapist or counselor. But you know you need to talk about it with someone with expertise and compassion, someone who can help you.

That’s what we’re here for at The Dr. Susan Block Institute. We’re cutting-edge sex therapists, and we talk to all types of people, with all types of sexual problems, issues, questions, kinks, desires, fantasies, fetishes and hang-ups. In fact, some of us have been through many of these issues ourselves. We speak from personal experience as well as professional expertise. Dr. Susan Block and her team has helped thousands of men and women from all over the world, including a number of sexual virgins.

If you want to “lose” your virginity, we can help you to find an appropriate and desirable sexual partner, just as we’ve helped so many others in similar situations—sometimes after decades of trying with no luck (some of these have gone on, in fact, to become sexual dynamos)!

If, on the other hand, you want to remain a virgin—perhaps until marriage or maybe for life—we can help you to cope with your sexual feelings, frustrations, beliefs and fantasies in a positive, pleasurable and enlightening way. Just because you stay a virgin doesn’t mean you have to be sexless or lonely. No matter what your particular situation, being a sexual virgin shouldn’t be a life sentence to emotional solitary confinement.

Does being a virgin or the fantasy of being a virgin, or perhaps being “deflowered,” turn you on? What about the other side of the virgin sex coin? Do you have a “virgin fetish”? Do you want to do the deflowering? Does the sexual inexperience and erotic innocence of virginity turn you on? The “virgin fetish” has captivated the erotic minds of billions of men and quite a few women since the dawn of civilization. It’s one of humanity’s more common fetishes. And yet it can be extremely problematic, since once you’ve deflowered your virgin, he or she is no longer a virgin. So where do you go from there? Fantasy roleplay is a safe and exciting alternative. Therapy to help you understand where your virgin fetish comes from and how to handle it, also helps

Whatever your circumstances, whether you are a virgin, you fetishize virgins or you just had sex in the tiny WC of Virgin Airlines, whether you want to make a change, explore a fantasy or you just need to talk, you can talk to us. For telephone sex therapy, webcam, sext therapy from anywhere in the world, or for in-person counseling at our offices in Los Angeles, you can call us anytime. We’re here for you every day, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Call us now! Whenever you need to talk, you can call the sex therapists of the Dr. Susan Block Institute at 213.291.9497.

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Premature Ejaculation Combat Tips Techniques

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Find yourself coming before your partner’s even gotten going? Would you like to learn to slow down and satisfy your partner? Want to enjoy more passionate lovemaking & bigger orgasms, instead of inadvertently shooting your wad before you can say “Oops, I did it again”? For information about telephone sex therapy for premature ejaculation and other issues, call 213.291.9497

Premature Ejaculation is most often described as the inability to delay ejaculation to a point when it is mutually desirable for both partners. It is an extremely common condition for men around the world. So if you suffer from the humiliation and frustration of premature ejaculation (or if your partner does), rest assured that you are not alone. Virtually all males experience premature ejaculation at some time in their lives, usually when they are young. But for many, “coming too fast” remains an ongoing problem, even into old age. Sometimes, ironically, it accompanies impotence and other forms of erectile dysfunction.

Your first premature ejaculation experience can be laughed off as “no big deal,” or it can be so traumatic that you find yourself dropping your bombs before you reach your target again and again. Luckily, there are several fairly simple “cures” for what I call Sexual Quick Draw McGraw Syndrome. With a little understanding, technique, help and practice, you can safely and naturally banish the heartbreaking embarrassment of premature ejaculation forever from your sexual life.

Let’s start with understanding. The Boston Medical Group estimates the premature ejaculation prevalence rate in American males as from 30-70%. Why are these figures so high? Why is premature ejaculation so common? Why is it that most men will prematurely ejaculate at some points in their sex lives, and why do so many do it almost constantly?

Here’s the bottom line in terms of evolutionary biology: Premature ejaculation is natural. It may even be more natural for a man, especially a young man, to come “too” quickly than to control his orgasm long enough to make sex satisfying for himself and his partner. Nature favors premature ejaculators, guys that pop their loads into the next generation before the gal can get away. Those males who come as fast as possible, that is, before the female changes her mind or predators – ancient saber-toothed cats or modern-day parents – arrive to ruin the mood, have tended to reproduce more than guys who take their time. After all, a woman doesn’t need to have an orgasm to get pregnant, nor does the man have to feel like a stud. He just needs to ejaculate inside of her at the right time of month, his potent sperm penetrating her fertile egg. So despite how mortified he might be or how frustrated she might feel, as far as natural reproduction is concerned, the sooner he comes inside her, the better.

But just because premature ejaculation is natural doesn’t mean it’s desirable.

After all, sex isn’t just about procreation; it’s about recreation. It’s also a form of communication. What do you communicate to your partner when you produce the juice before you put it in her caboose? The first time, you could be communicating, “You’re so hot I just couldn’t control myself!” In that sense, one or two episodes of premature ejaculation can be a bittersweet “compliment” to Mr. Quick Draw’s partner who could be considered a “Premature Ejaculation Inducer.” But if you come too fast time and again, you start communicating anxiety, insensitivity and other not-so sexy messages.

More stats from Boston Medical: The average man can usually control ejaculation for 6-10 minutes after penetration. However, the average woman needs approximately 15-20 minutes of sexual activity before she can experience orgasm. By these standards, the entire male race needs to learn how to better prolong erection and sexual stamina.

In a sexually civilized society, gentlemen would be educated in the art and science of ejaculation control. How else are you guys going to learn? After all, someone had to toilet train you, right? But nobody ejaculation-trained you. Unless you’re one of the lucky ones…

Over the years, I have “ejaculation-trained” thousands of men from all over the world. And no, I haven’t had the pleasure of having sex with them all. Most ejaculation training takes place over the phone during the process I call telephone sex therapy. Through deep relaxation, guided masturbation, anatomical education, PC muscle exercise training, erotic hypnosis, fantasy roleplay and other techniques, I help men of all ages last longer, please their partners and wind up with a much bigger orgasmic ejaculation than they ever experienced as Sexual Quick Draw McGraws.

12 Essential Tips & Techniques for
Better Ejaculation Control

1. Grow Up: Premature Ejaculation is most common among young men. If you are under twenty-five, and you’re quick on the trigger, the good news is that you’ll probably slow down as you get older. The “bad” news is that if you want to be a great lover while you’re young and virile, you need to learn a thing or two about discipline. Keep in mind that experience is the greatest teacher. Practice, practice, practice! Older men with premature ejaculation problems tend to lack much sexual experience.

2. Come Again: If you’re young, you may ejaculate sooner than you’d like, but you might also be able to get hard again soon after you’ve come. If so, then don’t worry so much about “premature ejaculate.” Just come naturally, then engage in other forms of lovemaking while you build up towards another erection. This second time around, you are likely to last longer simply because you have less fluid in your seminal vesicles and less urgency to release it. You can “trick” your system by masturbating a few hours before your sexual encounter, so that your urge to come is not so urgent. You can also take Viagra to insure that even after you ejaculate, you’ll have a hard-on. However, I don’t recommend taking Viagra if you don’t have serious erectile dysfunction, because you can easily develop a psychological dependency on it.

3. Breath Deep: Now we’re getting into serious control techniques. When you’re nervous or excited, the natural tendency is to hold your breath. Holding your breath creates tension that demands release, which is one reason for premature ejaculation. Learn to slow yourself down by inhaling deeply and exhaling even more slowly, as practiced by Tantric sex practitioners. Tantra is not for everybody, but its slow deep breathing techniques are excellent for reducing the chance of premature ejaculation.

4. PC Exercise: Ejaculating before you want to–whether it’s after ten minutes or ten seconds—is a sexual *weakness.* If you want to become sexually strong, you need to strengthen the right muscles. For instance, if the muscles in your thighs are weak and you want to run longer, you work out your thigh muscles. So what muscle should a gentleman exercise to strengthen his ability to maintain an erection in different sexual positions without ejaculating? Contrary to popular belief, the penis itself is NOT a muscle–nor does it have a bone, even though they call erections “boners.” Answer: Your PC muscle. No, it’s not your politically correct muscle nor is it personal computer muscle; it’s your pubococcygeus (PC) muscle group that runs from the pubic bone in front to the tailbone in back and supports the pelvic floor. This is the muscle that spasms during orgasm in the male and the female. PC muscle exercise is good for both men and women. To find your PC muscle, pretend that you’re urinating and want to stop the flow of urine by squeezing an internal muscle. Feel it? That’s your PC muscle. Flex or squeeze it for a couple of seconds, then release. And squeeze and release, squeeze and release, breathing in on the squeeze and out on the release. Do the PC muscle exercise ten times in the morning and ten times in the evening, gradually holding squeeze longer each time, and you will eventually gain strength and control. By the way, you can do this exercise anytime, anywhere–sitting, standing, walking around, or lying down. Women should do PC muscle exercises regularly too. A strong PC muscle enhances female orgasm tremendously, along with improving male ejaculation control.

5. Stop/Start Technique: Just like the name says, this method involves arousing the penis to the point before the point of no return and then stopping, pulling out if necessary, and letting your erection go down before resuming the stroking, sucking or thrusting. That is, if your flaccid state is at “0”, and ejaculation is at “10,” then the point of no return would be “9.” So you would need to reduce stimulation or “stop” at level “8” or, if you’re very trigger-happy, at level “7.” The stop/start exercise trains your big head and little head to recognize the points or stages of pleasure before the point of no return. Then, it trains you to stop–maybe for half a second, maybe for about a minute–so you don’t come. It’s a simple exercise that sex therapists and surrogates have been teaching for years, and it really works after about a month or two of practice, if you practice. In fact, you can get so good at this that you can experience multiple orgasms without ejaculation before your final ejaculatory climax.

6. Squeeze Technique: This is the same as the stop/start technique, but just as you stop, you or your lover squeeze the rim of your penis, between the head and the shaft, holding the thumb on top and the first and second fingers underneath. That’s the most popular spot for the squeeze technique. But there’s another spot right in the middle of the base of the penis, above the scrotum, where it meets the pubic bone. Max and other guys swear this is a sure-fire come-stopper.

7. Tease Technique: Erotic Teasing is one of the sexier ways to hold off premature ejaculation. Encourage your partner to tease you, with lots of foreplay, before you penetrate her mouth or vagina. Teasing is also excellent for women, though usually for the opposite reasons. Men need to be teased because it makes them slow down. Women need to be teased because it makes them come around.

8. Drink Up: A little alcohol can help some gentlemen with premature ejaculation last longer. This is not an excuse to get plastered, which tends to give you the opposite problem: erectile dysfunction, a.k.a. drunk dick syndrome. As Porter tells MacDuff in Shakespeare’s MacBeth, alcohol “provokes the desire, but takes away the performance.”

9. Relax: Remember, pressure is the enemy of pleasure. Every guy comes too fast sometimes due to stress, novelty, performance anxiety, or good old-fashioned excitement. If you just do it occasionally, try not to make a big deal about it. You’re likely to make it worse. Just gently and playfully start going through some of the above activities. They’re great sexual muscle-building exercises, even if you don’t have “penis problems.” And don’t let the fact that you came a little earlier than expected stop you from helping your partner to come.

10. Back-Up Your Hard-Drive: Always keep a back-up system for your computer, and always have some sex toys – dildos, vibrators and other goodies – to use on your partner when your personal hard-on is down. Or just go down on her. Most women are more likely to climax from a talented tongue than from a hard penis anyway. Coming “too fast” is relative. Remember that you can always keep going even after you’ve come, with your mouth, hands or toys. Or just make sure that you give your partner an orgasm or two before you get into any of her orifices or, if you’re lightning fast, before you let her touch your penis at all.

11. Examine Yourself: If you’re over thirty, chronically trigger happy and have “no luck” with any of the above exercises, tips and techniques, then you might have a psychological problem. This is not cause to check yourself into the nearest psych ward or start guzzling Prozac (which can wreak havoc on your sense of desire). But you may need to work out some internal conflicts in order to relax and relate, as well as control yourself sexuality. This “tip” calls for examining yourself and your feelings, especially your penis’ feelings. What is your quick-to-come, quick-to-go prick trying to tell you? Could it be that you subconsciously want to get sex over with? Why? What are you afraid of? Answering these questions honestly can lead you into some pretty tough psychological terrain, involving your ambivalent feelings about women and sex, your fears of abandonment (so you come “before” you can be abandoned), your performance anxieties, your guilt about sex, your conflicts over pleasure. If it’s too tough for you to handle alone—and it’s generally not the type of thing you can talk about with friends, family or even your partner—you might want to consult a sex therapist.

12. Enjoy Yourself: Many guys think of sex as a purely penis-driven activity. Give yourself permission to savor the little pleasures of life, love and sex, the touch of your partner’s skin, the smell of her hair. Instead of focusing all your desire in the hyper-sensitive head of your penis, try opening up to pleasure you can experience through your fingers, toes, nipples, buns, lips and tongue. Don’t worry, you’ll come back to your precious penis, but not before you’ve aroused your whole being: body, mind and soul. It takes a little patience, but if you practice, by the time you allow the forces of pleasure to flow freely through your mighty shaft, you’ll find yourself enjoying the biggest, most explosive orgasm ever.

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“The Porn Star Experience”

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Do you crave a heightened sexual experience that goes beyond the ordinary? Do you fantasize about exciting, intense, athletic sex with an uninhibited, experienced partner who has a super hot body, smooth shaved genitalia and an insatiable libido?

Do you want to explore a variety of sexual positions—doggystyle (standing or on knees), cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, Asian cowgirl (cowgirl with the female’s feet flat on the ground, in case you didn’t know), missionary (with legs spread or up over shoulders), anal intercourse, analingus, 69 (in all its delicious variations), full-throttle deep throating, snowballs, facesitting, hairpulling, cream pies, ball licking, ATM, tittyfucking, footjobs, female ejaculation, screaming orgasms, rough sex, come in the face, bukkake, exhibitionism, interracial, threesomes, group sex, gangbangs (and the list goes on…)?

Do you long to live out a sexual scene that’s as lusty, “dirty” and hardcore as the stuff you see in porn?

If so, count yourself among the many who desire The Porn Star Experience (PSE). Though it’s a common fantasy and can even be a fetish, it’s not as easy to achieve as most porn makes it look. The first challenge is finding a genuine PSE partner, which either means someone who wants to have sex like a porn star, or who actually is a porn star. If you’re a single guy (and yes, it’s mostly guys looking for the Porn Star Experience, as many of the gals who really enjoy it just become porn stars!), it’s tough enough to find a good PSE partner. If you’re married, you might be able to interest your wife (or girlfriend) in trying some PSE moves (more on how to finesse that in a moment), but many women are uncomfortable, unwilling or physically unable to engage in these types of hardcore sex acts.

Positions and sex acts are just the start of what a porn star may be eager and able to take part in. Porn stars are also exciting because of how they sound and talk. Do you like moaning? Screaming? Dirty talk? Do you want your name called out mid-orgasm? Or maybe you’d like to be called other, nastier names? Maybe you want to call her the nasty names without worrying about offending her. Maybe you want her to beg you to give it to her good? To spank her? To cum on her? Or do you want her grab your cock with confidence and cum all over you?

If you’ve been fantasizing about this, then the PSE may be just what you need. You may not want the porn star life, but one advantage of the PSE is that it is just a temporary experience… you won’t deal with having a porn star for your girlfriend, you won’t have to be on camera in front of thousands of people (or a crew and hot lights), and you don’t need to worry about the actual art and business of pornography! But you do get to enjoy the erotic rush and unforgettable, confidence-boosting sexual experience that comes out of living the fantasy… for a bit, anyway.

So where and how do you get the PSE? Many escorts, mistresses and call girls offer it. Some are even actual porn stars who meet with private clients on the side. Just google the Porn Star Experience and surf around until you find someone appealing in your area. Entering the escort world is a gamble, of course—not to mention illegal in many locales—but you just might have the PSE of your life!

Then again, you might be hesitant to jump into a real-life PSE, for various practical reasons. Cost: a genuine PSE can be fairly expensive. Safety: who is this person you will be intimate with for an evening or other short time? Will they rip you off? Do they have an STD? Do they have a shady past that may catch up with them (and you)? Besides that, maybe you don’t want people to find out about your PSE. Maybe you have a wife or girlfriend, and don’t want to cheat on her (or don’t want to get caught). Maybe you don’t want anyone to know, because of the stigma that’s still attached to prostitution (and, to some extent, pornography). Maybe you don’t have the time or opportunity.

But there is a way to get the pleasure, excitement and the awesome, empowering carnal knowledge of The Porn Star Experience without the headache of hiring an escort or mistress, and it’s as close as your own phone. You can experience the PSE in a telephone or webcam sex therapy session with the Dr. Susan Block Institute. We’re therapists—some of us with PhD’s, Master’s, nursing and other degrees—but we’re sex therapists, and some of us are porn stars. All of us know porn stars and love them. They’re frequent guests at the Institute, especially on Saturday nights when we have our shows and parties. In the medium of the telephone—as well as webcam, email or text—we are the very best at delivering the most intense, visceral, creative, descriptive Porn Star Experience you can imagine. Our sexy porn star and pornstar-friendly therapists—male, female and shemale—are ready to talk with you, listen and share that quintessential PSE with you.

We can also help you to bring out the “porn star” from within your wife or girlfriend—or yourself!—so you can have an actual PSE with someone you love. Everybody has a wild porn star inside of them yearning to break free and get wild in some way. Keep in mind that pornstar quality sex is not an all or nothing proposition. In fantasy, you can do it all. In real life, if you can learn just a few PSE moves, positions or tricks, and encourage your partner to really cut loose, you can really spice up your regular sex life.

You might even have a real Porn Star Experience if you come to see a show here at our LA Institute on Saturday nights when Dr. Susan Block interviews porn stars and other sexperts. That’s right, you can meet real porn stars in person here (call 213.291.9497 for more information about attending our Saturday night shows). So though the PSE might be pure fantasy, we’re very real and down-to-earth and you can see that for yourself when you visit.

But since we’re an international institute and most of our clients don’t live in LA, our most popular medium for the PSE is the telephone. It’s intimate, convenient, less expensive, and virtually pressure-free, allowing you to really relax and let your imagination go wild. Whether you want to have The Porn Star Experience over the phone or cam, or discuss some of the pros and cons of doing it in real life, you can give us a call right now or anytime that’s good for you. Unlike most therapists, we’re here for you whenever you need us, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Call 213.291.9497.

The other side of the coin of The Porn Star Experience is often referred to as “The Girlfriend Experience” (GSE). If you’re seeking a partner that’s more friendly than lusty, an experience that’s more emotional than physical, more about intimacy than excitement, perhaps you’d benefit from the GSE. Here at the Dr. Susan Block Institute, we offer both The Girlfriend Experience and The Porn Star Experience, via phone, webcam, sexting and a whole lot more. Call us now to find out all about it (no charge for information!): 213.291.9497.

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“The Girlfriend Experience”

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Do you long for an erotic experience that is more than just physical, but doesn’t require a major long-term commitment? Many of us, probably most of us, feel that there is much more to sex than just the carnal act…that goes for women and men. So, what about you? Do you feel that a physical encounter is heightened by what goes on before and after, not to mention during the “act” itself? Consider the things that go along with having a “girlfriend,” both in and out of the bedroom: a romantic evening, good conversation, humor, understanding, compliments, kissing, cuddling, playful foreplay, sharing secrets, the give and take of pleasure, intimacy. Closeness like this makes the sex between you that much more special, as well as more deeply orgasmic.

If this sounds appealing, you may be looking for the Girlfriend Experience (or GFE), an encounter that provides as much emotional satisfaction as physical. GFE is a term used by some escorts, call girls, prostitutes,etc., made famous in the film by that name starring Sasha Grey, directed by Steven Soderbergh. But it’s really about much more than hiring an escort. Who says that just because you pay for an erotic experience, it has to be sex without feeling, foreplay, afterplay, laughter, romance or intimacy? In The Girlfriend Experience, you can have it all.

So…why not just go for a real girlfriend? Lots of reasons! The Girlfriend Experience is not a play by play of the experience of having a girlfriend…otherwise it would just be a bad imitation of the real thing. The GFE is the skillfully roleplayed fantasy of a girlfriend—the best parts, including the sexual parts—and when it’s over, there’s no grouchy, difficult, demanding, real girlfriend to contend with. Let’s face it: Having a real girlfriend can be a lot of work. In real life, many relationships are more trouble than they’re worth. Even the best require commitment, sacrifice and responsibility, and they don’t always last. The worst break your heart and often your bank account. Like a delicious cake without the calories, The Girlfriend Experience gives you the deep pleasure and warm feeling of intimacy without the work and wear-and-tear.

There are many reasons you might benefit from a GFE. Maybe you don’t feel ready to settle down with a real girlfriend yet. You might be between relationships, or working hard on your career without the time and attention that a real girlfriend requires. That doesn’t mean you don’t deserve pleasure, positive attention, seduction and intimacy. For some, a GFE can even be good practice for the real thing, helping you to develop your game, build confidence and learn more about how women think. Then again, maybe you already have a real girlfriend, or a real wife, but you need a little GFE that’s just for you, lovingly focused on your feelings, your desires, your fantasies, your needs.

If you feel the Girlfriend Experience could help you, the next question is how to go about experiencing it. You have several choices. The most straightforward path would be to contract with an escort or mistress whose webpage says she provides GFE service. Then again, escorts and mistresses aren’t for everybody, maybe not for most people. Even if you don’t mind spending money on your GFE (a real girlfriend is always going to cost you something anyway—often much more!), there may be some very good reasons why you don’t want to actually go out and pay for a pro to give it to you “in the flesh.” This includes the risk of getting caught (especially if you’re married and/or running for office), the general stigma associated with prostitution which is still illegal in most locales, the danger of STDs, the inconvenience, the possibility of getting stuck with a real dud, a psycho or someone who is a lot less attractive than her photo, the danger of meeting someone in a strange place or letting them into your place, the high hourly rate, and the list goes on.

If you want all the pleasure and intimacy of The Girlfriend Experience without the headache of hiring an escort or mistress, you might consider picking up your phone and calling for a telephone sex therapy session with the Dr. Susan Block Institute. We’re therapists—some of us with PhD’s, Master’s, nursing and other degrees—but we’re also some of the best girlfriends you’ll ever have. We have some great guys here too, as well as transsexuals, but this page is about girlfriends, and we’ve got girlfriends of all ages who will talk with you, listen and help you with your problems, roleplay for you, share your fetishes and fantasies, come with you, commune with you, relax you, play with you and just generally give you the care and attention you need—body, mind and soul.

We do much of this over the phone. But we can also chat with you via webcam, email or text—any of which can be as PG or X-rated as you like. You can also visit us in person. Yes, though TGFE might be a pure fantasy, we’re very real and down-to-earth and you can see that for yourself if and when you come to our center in LA. But since we’re an international institute and most of our clients don’t live in LA, our most popular medium for TFGE is the telephone. Why the telephone? Because it’s so intimate, so very convenient, less expensive, and virtually pressure-free, allowing you to really relax and let your imagination go, sharing your thoughts, feelings, memories and fantasies with someone who can understand you. Whether you want to explore The Girlfriend Experience with us or discuss some of the pros and cons of doing it with one of our experts, you can give us a call right now or anytime that’s good for you. Unlike most therapists—or girlfriends—we’re here for you whenever you need us, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Call 213.291.9497

The other side of the coin of the Girlfriend Experience is sometimes referred to as the “Porn Star Experience” (PSE). You want PSE if you’re seeking a partner that’s more lusty than friendly for an experience that’s more physical than emotional, sizzling hot athletic sex in a variety of positions, dirty talk, large breasts, shaved genitalia, loud “performance” moaning and multiple orgasms. We offer both the Porn Star Experience—with several real-life porn stars—via phone or webcam, as well as the Girlfriend Experience, and a whole lot more. Call us now to find out more (no charge for information!): 213.291.9497.

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Erotic Theater Therapy: Fantasy Roleplay

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“All the world’s a stage.” ~William Shakespeare

For adults, as well as children, fantasy is often a lot more fun than reality. Whether it’s erotic, exotic or PG enough for Disney, your fantasy is your own self-contained little universe, in which you make all the rules. Anything is possible; nothing is forbidden. Here at the Dr. Susan Block Institute, we call this alternative, highly sexual universe within us all the “Erotic Theater of the Mind.”

Dr. Susan Block, a magna cum laude graduate of Yale University with Distinction in Theater Studies and a doctorate in philosophy with an emphasis in psychology from Miramar University and an honorary doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality), has developed a uniquely effective and exciting technique of “erotic theater therapy” over the past two decades. She and the other therapists of the Institute practice erotic theater therapy both in the brick and mortar “Womb Room” studio in Los Angeles where she broadcasts her Saturday night shows and via the extremely private medium of the telephone and other communications tools.

In so doing, she follows in the footsteps of her forebear, Dr. Iwan Bloch, the Father of Sexology. In 1907, Dr. Bloch boldly proposed the new concept of a science of sexuality: sexualwissenschaft or sexology. Bloch’s colleague Dr. Magnus Hirschfeld helped to organize this science, and in the liberal atmosphere of Weimar Berlin, purchased a villa that became his institute which housed his immense library on sex (later burned by Nazis), provided educational services and medical consultations and featured theatrical presentations on various sexual fetishes and orientations. These theatrical events were attended by therapists, patients of the Institute and dramatic artists of the time, like Christopher Isherwood and W.H. Auden.

Throughout history, many more have utilized the art of theater as a therapeutic and educational tool, including such venerated techniques as “psychodrama” based on Dr. Jacob L. Moreno’s “Theater of Spontaneity,” Dr. Fritz Perls’ Gestalt therapy, Jungian archetypal dramatization, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s system of “Nonviolent Communication,” and Michel Foucault’s concepts of Ars Erotica (“erotic art”) and Scientia Sexualis (“science of sexuality”), not to mention the famous Aristotelian view of theater as not just a form of entertainment, but as a means to understand the problems of life. Ancient Greek tragedies and comedies—not to mention their theatrical athletic contests—were filled with sex, love, romance, fantasy and desire, as is classical mythology.

There are essentially two types of erotic theater therapy practiced at the Institute: the real-life Womb Room theater at the Institute on terra firma, where we conduct a variety of therapeutic erotic theater experiences, and the Erotic Theater of the Mind which we explore with individuals and couples via the phone, webcam and other media. For more about Erotic Theater Therapy in the Womb Room, visit DrSuzy.tv. For more about erotic theater therapy over the phone and webcam, read on.

Dr. Block’s phone sex therapy system takes a four-point approach to sex therapy, involving 1) confession, 2) analysis, 3) technique and 4) adventure. The theater actually *happens* at the fourth point, but is a part of process of all four. Dr. Block and her other therapists, surrogates and fantasy roleplayers combine the theatrical elements of improvisation, storytelling, spectacle, the hero’s journey, archetype, hypnosis, exaggeration, confession, guided masturbation, “dirty talk,” erotic sound play and role-play, with more traditional forms of therapy and counseling.

Erotic theater therapy via phone sex fantasy roleplay can awaken, enlighten, stimulate, educate, liberate, challenge and comfort, as well as arouse you. Here at the Institute, we believe in the healing power of pleasure, and we want to help you to experience it. It’s the Bonobo Way.

Here are some other benefits of Dr. Block’s erotic theater therapy techniques applied through phone sex fantasy roleplay:

Gain insight into sexual dilemmas
Investigate unknown sexual situations
Revisit and reenact profound sexual memories—good and bad
Act out dreams with the therapist as aural collaborator
Try out new private activities
Explore taboo actions, objects and partners
Evaluate sexual behaviors: fantasy vs. real life
Relax your defenses
Wake up your senses
Free your mind
Enhance your orgasm and your partner’s orgasm
Express your “wild side” without fear of judgment
Learn about your body
Improve sexual self-control
Allow yourself to experience total sexual surrender (lack of control)
Enhance your self-esteem
Improve your body image
Confront your greatest difficulties in and outside of the bedroom
Learn the art of seduction
Reveal long bottled up secrets in a safe, private, confidential supportive environment
Release sexual frustration
Get ideas for real life through playing out “what-if” scenarios
Develop confidence
Learn the truth about yourself
Rehearse new modes of behavior: learn how to “act” on the stage of your sex life
Learn how to cope with your more difficult sexual fantasies and fetishes
Strategize and plan for your erotic future

Interested in exploring erotic theater therapy through phone sex fantasy roleplay, but not sure what fantasy to explore? Here are some common examples:

Romantic Lovers
Husband and Wife
Doctor and Patient
Teacher and Student
Boss and Secretary
Goddess and Worshiper
Mistress and Slave
MILF and Neighbor
Priest and Nun
Incest Fantasy
Rape Fantasy
Ageplay Fantasy
Animal Fantasy
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Bonobo Liberation Therapy

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People are going bonobos. It sounds like a hot new dance and, in a way, it is. But if you don’t know a bonobo from a banana, you really should read Dr. Block’s new book The Bonobo Way to learn the basics about our “Make Love Not War” Great Ape close cousins who swing through the trees as well as with each other.

Then, when you’re ready to liberate your inner bonobo and be all you can be—in the bedroom and everywhere else—call the therapists of the Dr. Susan Block Institute at 626-461-5950.

The Dr. Susan Block Institute and Block Bonobo Foundation are dedicated to protecting, promoting and researching bonobo chimpanzees, as well as educating people in The Bonobo Way; that is, how these great apes use sex to maintain peace, playfulness and gender equality in their societies, and how we can learn something from them about sex, love and peace on earth.

Whether or not you liberate your inner bonobo, we urge you to help save the real bonobos in the rainforest from imminent extinction. Here are some places where you can donate:

Lola ya Bonobo
Bonobo Conservation Initiative
The Great Ape Trust
Block Bonobo Foundation

The BONOBO WAY
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Striptease Therapy

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Are you turned on by a good striptease? Do you love the seductive style of a sensuous exotic dancer? Do you get a voyeuristic thrill from the bawdy bounce of burlesque? Do you crave the devastating tease and denialof the skilled ecdysiast? Or do you go for the “amateur,” the sexy girl on the dance floor who lets the music flow through her body like a shimmering stream of pure rhythm?

Do you like to watch your lover dance for you just before you make love? Or do you prefer to gaze upon a stranger, a hot, untouchable, superstar stripper high up above you on the strip club stage? Do supple pole dancers drive you crazy? Are you a helpless fan of the femme fatale? A sucker for a supple lapdance?

Have you ever watched a sexy dancer—on the stage, at a club or in your dreams—wishing you could get to know her better? Do you fantasize about getting her alone and having her deliver on what her dance seems to promise you? Do you imagine her dancing all over you, stripping off your clothes along with hers, then rhythmically riding you into a series of orgasms that has both of you screaming with deep wild pleasure and harmonious erotic energy?

Or do you worry that you (or a loved one) might be “addicted” to strippers? Are you hanging out in strip clubs whenever you can, cheating on your partner or missing work, sticking all your hard-earned cash in those irresistible little G-strings or just giving the stripper of your dreams money shower after shower, until your wallet is empty and dry?

Or perhaps you prefer doing the striptease to watching it. Are you a secret exhibitionist who longs to strip upon a stage, to reveal what you so often conceal? Would you like to be an exotic dancer—professionally or just for fun? Do you need advice about the “business” or encouragement to strip for personal, private pleasure? Are you having trouble handling your desires for exhibitionism? Are you a stripper that wants to transition into a different kind of life?

Do you need to talk about it?

You can talk to us. Call the Dr. Susan Block Institute now or anytime, 24/7, for Striptease Therapy. What exactly is “Striptease Therapy”? It can take a variety of forms, depending on you and your needs. Whether you need help disciplining your out-of-control stripper fetish, getting up the courage to do a seductive striptease for your husband (or wife), or roleplaying an exotic dancer domination fantasy, give us a call at 213.291.9497.

Dancing is the world’s oldest art form. People have been dancing since shortly after they started walking, and some of the first dances they did were erotic dances, also known as “fertility dances.” Essentially, these were dances to make the crops grow along with the men’s erections, dances to make the rain fall as the women got wet. Some say that any kind of dance is erotic. George Bernard Shaw famously called dancing “a vertical expression of a horizontal desire.”

Stripping is also very old. Probably as soon as people started wearing clothes, some people started taking their clothes off in a sexy, seductive way. Keep in mind that for many thousands of years, we humans were as naked as all the other animals in the forest. As we started to wear clothing, human nudity became taboo. Unclothing—or stripping—became theteasing “gateway” between the acceptable, civilized, clothed world and the realm of forbidden, primal nudity.

Thus stripping is one of the most basic, powerful aphrodisiacs there is. The gradual, sensuous removal of articles of clothing reveals the natural mysteries of the human body in a viscerally exciting way that takes us from our cultured world of clothing to a naked realm of primeval pleasures and our deep evolutionary origins. A well-known University of Chicago Sex Survey found that the second most common turn-on, next to regular sexual intercourse, is watching someone sexy taking off their clothes.

Slowly…as one of the greatest American strippers, Gypsy Rose Lee said, “Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly” (though, if you’re in a hurry, a quick strip can also hit the spot!)….

Speaking of Gypsy, in response to her request for a “more dignified” way to refer to her profession than “stripper,” H. L. Mencken is credited with coining the word “ecdysiast” – from “ecdysis”, meaning “to molt.”

Striptease in mythology goes at least as far back as the ancient Sumerian story of the descent of the goddess Inanna into the Underworld where, at each of the seven gates, she removes an article of clothing until her naked arrival in hell. Inanna’s cosmic striptease is carried on in the Dance of the Seven Veils of Salome, who danced for King Herod in the New Testament (Matthew 14:6 and Mark 6:21-22). Though the Bible records Salome’s dance, the first mention of her actually removing seven veils occurs in Oscar Wilde‘s play Salome in 1893 and Richard Strauss‘s operatic version in 1905, which some claim as the origin of modern striptease.

In the Gay Nineties, striptease and burlesque flourished in Paris at the Moulin Rouge and Folies Bergère, and in 1905, the notorious and tragic Dutch dancer, Mata Hari, later shot as a spy by the French authorities during World War I, was an overnight striptease success at the Musée Guimet. In the 1920s, an American in Paris, Josephine Baker, stripped to nothing but a “skirt” of bananas in her sensational danse sauvage.

The 1960s saw a revival of striptease in the form of topless go-go dancing. This eventually merged with the older tradition of burlesque to create modern stripping. Carol Doda of the Condor Night Club in San Francisco is given the credit of being the first topless—then bottomless—go-go dancer. In the past, the performance often finished as soon as the undressing was over, but today’s strippers usually continue dancing, pole-dancing and lapdancing in the nude.

Meanwhile, burlesque or “neo-burlesque” has branched off from stripping into a separate, somewhat more “dignified” and more humor-infused dance form, maintaining the old striptease traditions with new twists. Then there are the modern temple dancers who perform “striptease therapy” in the sacred traditions of Aphrodite and Apsara. So many ways to strip and tease!

One of the most famous striptease artists of modern times, Dita Von Teese, has appeared twice on The Dr. Susan Block Show, including once when Dr. Block interviewed Bettie Page, the late legendary American striptease, pin-up and fetish model, in 1996.

Dr. Block also wrote the definition of STRIPTEASE for the new Wiley-Blackwell International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality.

But back to you…and your stripper fetish…

Do you need to talk with someone who’s been on both sides of the lapdance? For serious sex therapy or a pleasureable phone experience or help with your—or your loved one’s—stripper habit, give us a call right now or anytime you need to talk. Call 213.291.9497. We’re here for you.

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Sext Therapy

– Are you interested in trying Sext Therapy?

– Are you sometimes more comfortable with texting than talking?

– Do you enjoy sending and receiving erotic messages and pictures on your cell phone?

– Do you have fantasies, fetishes or memories that you’d rather explore through texting, emailing or messaging than other methods?

– Is texting easier, more convenient, more private or less embarrassing for you than talking by phone, webcamming or seeing a sex therapist in person?

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If you answered ‘yes’ to any of the above, Sext Therapy could be for you.

Sext Therapy is a revolutionary system of sex therapy that utilizes the medium of texting. For over 20 years, the Dr. Susan Block Institute has been the world’s leader in telephone sex therapy, erotic theater therapy and webcam sex therapy. Now, responding to popular demand, we have opened up a new wing in sext therapy.

As technology changes the world around us, we reorient our lives and methods of communication, which inevitably influences the way we express ourselves sexually. Sexting is suited to modern times, due to its convenience and relative confidentiality. Do you often find you don’t have the time or privacy to hold an actual conversation over the phone? With sexting, you don’t have to wait to be completely alone.

You can get your questions answered, satisfy your needs or quench your curiosity immediately and discreetly, at any time of day or night, regardless of where you are.

Imagine being able to explore your sexual fantasies in the midst of going about your daily routine, and having it be your special secret. A sext or steamy picture at the right moment can add a special spark to your day. Later you can call or cam with the therapist with whom you’ve been sexting, to ‘finish’ what the both of you started.

The same rates as Phone Sex Therapy apply; for $3.25/min (with a minimum of 12 minutes, or $40), you can send and receive as many texts as you’d like during the window of time you’d like to spend sexting.

Curious to hear more? Let our sexy therapists help you address your most primal urges in the most modern way.

Call us now at 626-461-5950 to hear more about how you can experience Cell Phone Sext Therapy—anytime 24/7—and we will set you up with an account where you can engage in sext therapy with one of our sext therapists.

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Sexual Surrogate Therapy

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Have you been considering working with a sexual surrogate?

Are you experiencing performance anxiety, erectile difficulties, inability to orgasm, premature ejaculation, an extreme lack of confidence, severe shyness, a sexless relationship or other sexual “complications” that you can’t seem to work out on your own?

Have you wondered if there is a serious, therapeutic, “hands-on” way to improve your sex life?

If you’re thinking about working with a sexual surrogate or “sex surrogate,” our staff of trained phone sex therapists is available to discuss your desires and needs. If you’re interested in learning, ready to start working with a sexual surrogate or if you need help deciding if sexual surrogacy is right for you, call The Dr. Susan Block Institute anytime 24/7 at 213.291.9497.

What do you know about sexual surrogacy?

Sexual surrogate therapy is an alternative method of sex therapy which a therapist may recommend for those individuals who have serious problems engaging in fulfilling sex. Sexuality, while a natural and rich source of pleasure, is generally at its richest when expressed with a partner. But sex with a partner, or even the prospect of obtaining a partner at all, often comes with compromises and complications.

For some, emotional trauma, low self-esteem, fear of intimacy or many other social barriers can make the act of sexual intercourse a near-impossible achievement. For others, there are physical obstacles, such as impotence or delayed or “premature” ejaculation. And then of course, there are the social skills and opportunity required in acquiring a sex partner in the first place. Surely, the pressure of obtaining a partner can worsen existing issues with nervousness, anxiety or depression.

Sexual issues can be psychological and emotional matters where regular “talk” therapy is the best treatment. On the other hand, sexuality is, in part, also physical, and sometimes physical help is required and beneficial. This is where sexual surrogate therapy comes in. Working in conjunction with a therapist, the trained sexual surrogate takes a step-by-step, hands-on approach based on the classic work sensate focus therapy of Masters & Johnson, in combination with other traditional and nontraditional therapies. A sexual surrogate will spend the time it takes (usually several weeks) to work slowly with the client to help them work through all the issues of concern, emotionally, and when appropriate, physically as well.

The Block Institute works with California state-certified sexual surrogates. Of course, we always stay within the strict confines of the law on these matters. We also recommend that you contact the International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA).

But if you need help deciding if sex surrogacy is right for you or if you just need to talk about your problem, you can give us a call anytime 24/7. Someone is always here to talk with you, and we may be able to get you started working with a sexual surrogate and/or therapist. Sexual surrogacy is not legal in every state or country, but talking about it always is.
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Crossdressing Phone Sex Therapy

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Gentlemen: Do you like wearing women’s clothing?

Do you get aroused, have fun or just feel comfortable wearing feminine lingerie, stockings, dresses, skirts, lacy or silky panties, bras, garter belts, wigs, high heels and/or makeup?

Do you crossdress openly or is it a big secret?

Would you like to share your secret crossdressing fantasies with someone–perhaps a lover, therapist, friend or understanding stranger–with your complete confidentiality absolutely guaranteed?

Ladies: Did you find a lacy thong stashed in a hidden compartment of your husband’s briefcase? Don’t jump to conclusions. They may not be another woman’s–but his!

Do you want to learn more about why you (or your lover) enjoy crossdressing? Would you like to find out where your transvestite or transsexual fetish or fantasies come from, or how you can best cope with your crossdressing desires?

Maybe it’s time you call the world’s foremost Crossdressing Phone Sex Therapy Specialists. We’re always here for you, anytime you need to talk, 24/7. You can call us now at 213.291.9497.

Crossdressing is nothing new. From ancient Greek drama, which featured men in all the women’s roles, to Victorian Bloomer Girls to modern drag queens, ever since men and women started wearing different clothes, they found excuses to wear each other’s clothes. Currently, unlike men, women who wear “male” clothing have few social problems. Tomboys are accepted. Sissies are not. Women wear pants and nobody even blinks, but when a man wears a skirt (unless perhaps, its a kilt), its usually a big deal. It doesn’t seem fair, but such are the decrees of socio-sexual fashion.

How does male crossdressing start? Every crossdresser has a different story, but most begin their lifelong love affair with feminine apparel around early adolescence. The first glimmers of the fetish often revolve around Mama‘s sensual, forbidden panties or nylons. Many teenage boys get aroused by touching or smelling Mom’s or Sister’s lingerie, usually hanging tantalizingly over a towel rack or lying nestled in a hamper. Crossdressers take this common interest a step further by actually trying it on.

Some say the desire to crossdress starts as a sort of security blanket when a boy seeks comfort in Mom’s clothing to escape a harsh or absent Dad. If he’s caught in the act, he’s often humiliated which makes him feel guilty, but enhances the excitement of crossdressing. Some say crossdressing is partly genetic. Regardless of the cause, most experts agree that the desire to crossdress is not something someone can simply eliminate, even with therapy, especially if it’s been going on since childhood.

What do men feel when they crossdress? Many thoughts, feelings, sensations, desires and fantasies may course through their veins and penetrate their brains as they wear feminine clothing. They might feel it’s exciting, relaxing (even tranquilizing), mystical, dangerous, taboo, irreverent, erotic and more. Some really want to be women (and may eventually become transsexuals). Some are gay. But most are straight or bisexual. Many say they feel that deep inside, they are lesbians. Some might have trouble connecting with women, so they dress up so they can be the kind of lady they’d like to go out with, but can’t find. Then there’s James, a retired judge (male), who just married Sharon, an attorney (female). It was a beautiful crossdressed wedding: James wore a full-length bridal gown, and Sharon wore a top hat and tuxedo.

Why is it that so many closet crossdressers are judges, fire fighters, construction workers, police officers, attorneys, and CEOs? Usually, they’re overcompensating or trying to *disguise* their feminine desires by working in a field that’s traditionally ultra-male. Many feel that ladies are pampered. Whether that’s accurate is irrelevant. The fact is when these men crossdress, they feel pampered. They forget the manly stresses of the board room, fire station or construction site, and simply relax and have fun. It’s ironic that when most women want to relax, they take off their high heels and garters, and put on a T-shirt and shorts. The fact that some men get comfortable by taking off their jeans and putting on a corset is one of the great paradoxical joys of crossdressing.

There is nothing ethically “wrong” with crossdressing, thought many people, societies and religions maintain that its wrong. The biggest problems arise when, because of these social pressures to conform, crossdressers feel they must stay in the closet, which most do. Many lifelong crossdressers have girlfriends, or even wives of many years they wouldn’t dream of telling about their undercover fashion passion. Their desire for secrecy is understandable, since the potential for stinging rejection or worse is immense.

Your secrets are safe with us, and your confidentiality is absolutely guaranteed. Anytime you need to talk, 24 hours a day, the world-famous telephone sex therapists of the Dr. Susan Block Institute for the Erotic Arts & Sciences are just a phone call away. You may talk with a male, female or shemale therapist. For more information, call 213.291.9497.

Though we completely understand and honor the need that most crossdressers have for complete secrecy, there’s no doubt that most crossdressers are happier and healthier–and less likely to get into trouble–if they can share their fetish with someone they are close to. If you are a crossdresser and you want to open up to a partner, we can help you turn this exciting thought into a reality.

We also understand that some wives might have a tough time coping with the revelation of their husbands’ crossdressing. Though transvestitism itself is very difficult to stop, with a little knowledge and a lot of love, wives have been known to change how they deal with their husbands’ fetish. Usually this requires modification on the husband’s part as well, not necessarily of the crossdressing itself, but of some other aspect of his behavior toward his wife. Keep in mind that though some women are horrified to discover their husband is crossdressing, some not only tolerate it, they love it. You may, despite your assumptions, find that you enjoy it too. And hey, if your sizes aren’t too different, you two can trade panties!

Whether you need serious crossdressing therapy, guided masturbation, erotic hypnosis, knowledgeable advice, counseling, help with a problem or just a hot phone sex therapy experience, call us at 213.291.9497.

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Tease & Denial Phone Sex Therapy

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Do you like to be teased? Does it arouse you to be made to wait for that sweet moment of release? Or would you rather do the teasing, prolonging your seduction to make the object of your desire crazy with lust for you? What is it that can make the art of “tease and denial” so irresistible, it’s as if it weaves a magic spell around its helpless, happy victim?

Everyone needs a little tease, at least sometimes. Men need to be teased because it makes them slow down. Women need to be teased because it makes us come around. Teasing puts the pizzazz and mystery into sex. Otherwise, we’d just be rutting animals. Even animals tease! Look at the stop-start, pounce-retreat mating dances of birds, cats, apes, even snakes.

A good tease is erotic but indirect, slowly building up to total seduction and surrender. As that consummate strip tease artist Gypsy Rose Lee once said, “Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly.” A great tease has all the time in the world. And with a great tease, you never know if you’re going to get the gold you’re going for. You might, but then again you might not. You have to be flexible with a tease. You have to remember the Golden Rule of Tease: You never know. The best laid plans may not get you laid the way you planned. You have to be willing to go with the tease, please…

Teasing wears a variety of masks and hats. There is the innocent tease who doesn’t even know she’s a tease, and is all the more devastating for it. There’s the experienced tease who spins her webs of seduction with great skill and sensitivity. I say “her” because, though men can tease too, teasing is a feminine wile. It is manipulative and circuitous, womanly attributes. Some teasing is spontaneous, light as a feather. Some teasing is calculated, steeped in the art of salacious sorcery. Some teasing is loving and sweet, almost nurturing, like tickling a baby. Some teasing is playful and charming, dazzling and devastatingly witty. Some teasing is mean and nasty, even vicious and cruel. Teasing can also be humiliating and torturous. And some teasing really hurts. Rapes, murders, even MASS murders have been committed by people—even children–who say they did it because they were teased. Teasing can be dangerous. It can be quite harmless too, of course. That is why we say “I’m just teasing!” to insist we’re harmless. But it is the dangerous aspects of teasing that make it erotic. That, and the sensuous nature of revealing something slowly, gradually, then maybe not at all, then maybe a little more. It is too dangerous to show more. Too hot to handle. That is the Art of the Tease.

One of the greatest teases of history, believe it or not, is Queen Esther of the Bible. The shrewd and seductive Esther of Shushan, in what is now Iran, teased the great and powerful Persian King Ahasuerus into such an erotic frenzy that he freed her people from genocide. Queen Cleopatra of Egypt was also a great tease; it was her extraordinary teasing ability that kept the Romans guessing and ultimately kept Egypt governed by its own people (that is, herself) until her death.

In modern times, teasing is the stuff of stars, Marilyn Monroe being the most legendary tease. Bettie Page, sometimes called the Dark Marilyn, was also a most delicious tease. Now Dita Von Teese continues the legacy of the tease. I was privileged to have Bettie Page as a guest on my show a few years ago–with Dita (when she was an 18-year-old Heather Sweet) in my studio audience! Though Bettie spoke with me on the air for over an hour, she refused to show her face. What a tease. She said she wanted us to think of her the way she was, forever young and beautiful; she wanted control of her image.

And, yes, teasing is about control. Once you lose control, you’re not teasing anymore. It’s tough to tease when you’re in mid-orgasm. Once the orgasm is on, the tease is over….unless you’re a really good tease.

Does all this talk about teasing make you yearn to be teased?

Call the telephone sex therapists of The Dr. Susan Block Institute for Tease and Denial Phone Sex Therapy. Whether you’re looking to be teased yourself by one of our sweet, charming, experienced, degreed and/or deliciously cruel sex therapists, if you’re in need of some teasing advice to seduce that someone you’ve been wanting for a while, or if you want to better understand, explore, express, limit and/or control your desire for tease and denial, we’re here for you 27/7. We are the world’s foremost experts in the fine art of tease and denial. Call now at 213.291.9497.

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