Just because you love your husband doesn’t mean you can climax during sex with him. Lauren calls into DrSuzy-Tv with precisely that problem, and I think that the questions she asks – along with my answers – can help many couples have better, more pleasurable and orgasmic sex lives.
Lauren has a lot of questions! I try to answer them all, including:
- Why is it that she – like so many women – can climax easily through solo sex, but not via intercourse with her husband?
- How can you integrate masturbation into lovemaking?
- How do you stop worrying about what society or your parents might think of you masturbating?
- What can we do about our embarrassment, anxiety or fear of losing control – which can prevent orgasm?
- Why do we so often hold our breath during sex?
- How does breathing deeply *into* your pelvis help you to experience orgasm?
- How do kegel exercises – squeezing and releasing the pubococcygeus (PC muscle) – help you to experience orgasm?
- What is the difference between “achieving” and experiencing orgasm?
- Is orgasm from just penetration somehow better than a clitoral orgasm – or is that just an “Old Husband’s Tale”?
- Why is it easier for most women to experience orgasm from clitoral stimulation than vaginal penetration?
- How important is lubrication and cunnilingus for female orgasm?
- Why is the clitoris called the “pearl of the oyster”?
- What is the difference between genital orgasms and “eargasms,” “toegasms,” and “nipplegasms”?
- Why is the clitoris involved in almost any female genital orgasm?
- How can we be more patient with ourselves and take the time we need for good sex?
- How is couples sex an art form? A spiritual practice? A team sport?
“How to Orgasm with Your Husband” is a vintage clip from the “SEX CALLS” broadcast archives of The Dr. Susan Block Show (circa 1998). This is NOT a call with actual therapy clients; those are absolutely private and confidential. This is a caller on my Saturday night live show. For more information, call us at 626.461.5950. For shows and other events, visit us at http://drsusanblock.com.
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#1BaeApril 27, 2023, 7:06 am
This call is filled with so much care for this woman. A poignant and human slice of life inside sexuality. What a confluence of forces lead her to you – societal views on masturbation, embarrassment, and parents. Fantastic suggestions and advice from you to help her and that I will use myself.
#2AdrianaApril 27, 2023, 7:16 pm
This is a valuable resource for a lot of us women who are struggling to orgasm with our partners in the bedroom! I think your advice was incredible, and I’d love to put it to use. I also do like your discussion of different positions and using masturbation to help get off! Wonderful! Oral sex is the way too!
#3Rich BigglyApril 27, 2023, 7:44 pm
This clip really transformed my perspective on how women enjoy sex. As always, you’re very sensitive to the caller and give astounding advice. I do agree that sex is a team sport and it should never been one-sided! It takes two to enjoy sex! This is a sport I’d love to be on the winning team.
#4Persia RaeApril 28, 2023, 9:47 am
Good going Dr. Susan. Always bringing such wisdom to those who need it. I liked it when you said “sex is a team sport. good to know .lol
#5Gideon GraysonApril 29, 2023, 9:02 am
Great call!
#6Deward EmersonApril 30, 2023, 3:41 am
This is a Must-See video for guys who genuinely want to please their female lovers. A woman who can only climax through masturbation calls Dr. Suzy and gets advice on how to bring her husband in on the festivities and improve their sex lives.Much more intimate and illuminating (and fun) than “She Comes First,” though addressing a similar need for sex education, especially with women. Brava.
#7Amy AmethystApril 30, 2023, 3:44 am
Haha, so funny and true – the idea of vaginal orgasms with no clitoral stimulation IS an “Old Husband’s Tale” – good one, Dr. Suzy! And superb call all around.
#8Truck Stop BurritoApril 30, 2023, 3:46 am
OMG if I had a husband or even a boyfriend, I’d find Your divine and informative guidance of this woman in need SO helpful. As it was I found it so incredibly hot I had to grab the lube and Hitachi and came twice watching You deliver the Good News to Your wifely supplicant.
#9Missy WildeApril 30, 2023, 3:47 am
I wish I’d watched this video when I was married because I had the exact same problem as Lauren (though my husband wasn’t as nice about it) – no problem climaxing via masturbation, but I never could with him. If only I knew all this, maybe I’d still be married
#10Ruby ArubaOctober 21, 2023, 8:27 pm
This video is so incredibily uplifitng for women who have trouble orgasming with men, especially when many men do not consider that penetration alone does not often do the trick. The part about there being a mental block that disrupts women’s comfortability with touching themselves in front of their husbands, and so they need to give themselves time and patience to work through this block, really spoke to me. And just in general, to make women feel more comfortable with masturbating in front of their significant others is incredible; women deserve to feel as comfortable with their partners as possible, and certainly to the same extent that most men do with their female partners.Thank you Dr. Suzy for your wise words 🙂
#11ccJuly 18, 2024, 11:37 pm
It is refreshing to hear how many women need this type of advice, to reclaim the Goddess within and fully experience sex and love in our own personal and intimate way. The best experiences often happen when guided from within. Thank you Dr. Suzy for sharing your open minded viewpoints which are grounded in solid practical advice!
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